Really wired experience

When one is part of a marginalized, fetishized community, one's defensiveness is often on high alert, and often, rightly so.

Just move on.

OP: You’re saving yourself, if you walk away. Chalk it up to no loss and strike it up with someone else.

~Allen

What Mayhem said. Context of specific wording is important to really judge her reaction.

While it's not a common response, it is common for people into the BDSM side to be judged.

For me, I don't like to sexually engage with people who are into BDSM, are dominant or submissive. Whether it's an optional thing for them or not, especially people with a dominant personality, i know I'll be disappointing them in bed. (At least, i feel that way) there will also be anxiery of them trying to incessantly try convincing me/badger until i say yes once we end uo playing. Loads of people get butt hurt on that if they question why i think we won't be a good fit.

Without seeing the text of the email, it's hard to say what she picked up on and why. Sometimes even seeing the email wouldn't help, but it wouldn't be the first time someone said, "I only said blah, then blah happened" and the "blah" they think they said was more than what they imagined it to be.

Been in lifestyle for >20 years as both a couple and single. Connected her in chat and exchanged emails with lady over about month due to isolation. She mentions she was into BDSM many years ago. I comment that while I had tried some, didn’t particularly like it.
BANG...email arrives: she accuses me of judging her, saying lifestyle people don’t approve, says she’s gonna block me in emails/kik. I’m new to Central PA; is this normal? Never seen it before in four or five places I’ve been previously.