play parties

We do not provide condoms, but we also don't charge anything for our parties. Aside from cost, condoms come in sizes and some have specific preferences. If you are going to buy condoms, I'd suggest going to Amazon and get Skyns in regular and large sizes. Amazon seems to have about the best prices. Non-latex condoms in 2 sizes will cover most bases.

We also do ask for a dish or soft drinks to share and it's BYOB. People mostly do OK with the BYOB but less so with the BYOC. Sometimes a guest will bring condoms to share in lieu of a dish, which is fine.

Make sure you cover all real mattresses with a plastic protectors. You can order/buy just fitted sheets, which is all you really need for a play bed. We have a bin that we keep all of our fitted play sheets in.

I'd recommend using a 3rd party app to do invitations. There is always that person that wants all of the details of who and how many are coming. This at least lets them see for themselves and does not show email addresses or text #'s. Plus you can create a comma separated file (CSV) with all of your invited guests and send the invites to all with just a click.

HOUSE PARTIES: We plan to have house parties when we move into our new house. We would keep the limit to about eight couples. We would have our beds set up and a few rules. One thing we request is that they bring a small dish to pass, bring their own alcohol that way we can limit the free range drinking. We would provide soda, water, condoms, lube, towels showers. We would however ask for a per couple donation, keeping in mind that these parties cost money, but much less compared to a hotel. When we attend a house party we would have no problem making a nominal donation. ( how do you readers feel about this? ) We would like to start our time from 7-10. This gives people enough time to get ready after work, come play then leave so we can change our bed and go to sleep. OH and we would invite our best friend couple to sleep over, maybe get some help with clean up and reorganization, not to mention some extra play time with them. We would like to hear from all of you and your ideas. ( Especially Mayhem ) We value your opinions. mnjfla

We're kind of like yourluvrman but we do allow for new tribe members once in a while. Always good to have new friendly faces (and other body parts) at our parties, but some number of them come from other parties we attend and not just online interactions.

I do find online interactions are a lot more tolerable when you're not relying on that as your primary way to find playmates.

"...people who are sure why they are there and want to get into some nekid fun without the notion of investing many meetings or even hours and hours of prequalifying potential playmates."

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I'm at the stage now where these parties are all I attend. I enjoy my 'tribe'.

We attend two different house parties that utilize a wrinkle not mentioned here, The party starts at a set time. About an hour after that the host gets everyone's attention, than ks all for showing, calls out peeps that have helped and goes over any house rules and then declares the play rooms open. The play rooms get busy pretty quick after that!

Our parties are all people that attend a party to play AND are good with open room play. It's rare that we don't have 2 or more people playing within 30 mins of the start time. I have been told by the Mrs that I have to play the host for at least 30 minutes after the start time ;-) We have friends that would come in, say Hi, make a drink and then come grab me to play. Not that I minded, but the Mrs felt that we should play the host/hostess role for at least 30 minutes or so.

Keep in mind that we do not charge for our parties and that all of the people attending are friends and probably 90% or more have already been to our house and know where everything is. We let people know if someone that hasn't been to our house before is coming and our friends can and will give them a tour if we are busy.

Hotel room parties tend to have the action start sooner than open invite house parties. One house party that we liked locally started at 8 pm, but usually action doesn't really get underway until about 11 pm. The party end time was 3 am, and the sweet spot was usually midnight to 1 am. We've closed that party a few times. By 1 am half or more of the people were gone, but a high % of the people left were there to play and we've had a lot of fun between 1 - 3 am. Just sucks that it takes some people that long to get going.

Our least favorite so far have been hotel take-overs. In theory, these "should" be a lot of fun. That wasn't our experience with our first and only one so far. It wound up being a $500 weekend and, if not for the friends we attended it with, the Mrs wouldn't have played at all the whole weekend. As it was, I played with one girl from a couple we met, and they lived about 5 hours away from us.

Different people go to parties with very different goals. Some go with no intention of playing at a party. They just want to watch and talk. We go to play, so we choose parties that give us lots of opportunities to do that over ones that don't, and the closer to our house the better. We do live in an opportunity rich area, so Yes, we are probably spoiled ;-)

Sometimes it just takes someone to get things started. One of the first house parties we attended had about 6 couples and a couple of SMs who were friends of the host. Everyone there there roughly equally attractive and friendly, but everyone just chatted and drank for well over two hours and it seemed everyone was afraid to get things going. After a brief whisper with my wife, I announced that we were headed to the bedroom and anyone who wanted to join us was welcome. Within 10 minutes the entire crowd was naked on or around the master bed.

We have hosted many parties and like someone below has said, they are best when they are familiar friends. We also figured out to only invite full swap couples with few restrictions, otherwise the party just becomes a high school dance. I don't like the awkward time when everyone is trying to figure out when to start so I always start it, usually by giving a public blowjob or taking a lover by the hand to a bedroom. The best parties start 8ish and by 1AM everyone is fucked out! We have also paired people up by using adult games. We have had a couple very successful parties using a house rule that you get off with your first lover. I was feeling a little bit guilty for my husband that extended to all the men I had screwed. There is a tendancy for the men to fuck and withhold their orgasm until the end of the evening. By requiring the men to cum with their first partner, allowed the guys to cum, relax, flirt, play and reset for penetration and at least cum another time.

@Mr and Mrs Smith - I would love to hear more about these wonderful parties :)

I guess this is the New Normal, small groups play with trusted people

NYE we did leave a party like this, still fucked in the New Year

We have just recently begun co-hosting small private parties. We are more in line with what seems to be the norm as far as private parties go. Some light snacks, a little time to get acquainted with who is there. Either ourselves or the host couple has met with everyone prior, but this allows for the guests to get to know each other as often times we have a new couple or two. It does not take long before our version of Jenga comes out or one of our other party games. My wife is usually always the first to be naked, and most of our parties usually include some hot tub time. Our last one we had 5 couples in a 6 person hot tub. Lots of fun but we learned that we needed a place to put clothes up as everything was soaked from all the water that spilled out. Would not have been a big deal except it was only 34 degrees out that night. We try to do one at least once a month and have a small group of regulars now which makes it much easier.

The "finger food and game on" is prettty much what our parties are like. Many of our friends are people we met at other parties They are very social, but go to a party to play.

The Mrs limits me to not playing for at least 30 mins after the advertised start time. Many times play has started before then.

We do not advertise our parties. We do our invites using a popular 3rd party invitation app. Since most of the people know most of the other people, it gives others some idea who is and isn't going, but there is no way to correlate that back to an SLS on-line name.

Since we don't charge for our parties, there is no incentive for us to invite people we haven't met in person first. It lets us be more sure of whether someone would be a good fit for our parties. This of course makes for some AWESOME parties.

We've had a number of people tell us that our parties are the best they've ever attended. Considering everyone there is there to play, it's not surprising. For the minimal cost and effort on our part, it is well worth it as we usually spend more to atttend other parties than what it costs us to have one, if you don't factor in the 2 days worth of laundry after a big party ;-)

We've hosted a few house parties as well as attended some. Most were drinks & light snack type fare while socializing/flirting. After an hour or so the fun started. We were at one party where they had a lot of food but we & most others were not really into having a big meal before playing.

Wow thn1045! You nailed it! And you described us to a tee... :)

We have been seeing these parties pop up more frequently lately. Maybe its cyclical in the community; not sure. However, they are for people who are sure why they are there and want to get into some nekid fun without the notion of investing many meetings or even hours and hours of prequalifying potential playmates.

Sometimes it's a result of couples being burned trying to meet couples two on two where they aren't who they say they are, sometimes it's couples who attend hotel parties where they have invested many hours trying to find the "perfect" couple only to realize at 2 am they passed up pretty good opportunities earlier in the night and ended up not meeting anyone, and there could be more reasons as well. Put simply, they want to get naked and have fun and aren't into drawn out games. Writing this, I'm not knocking the choice at all- in fact, in some ways I'm embracing it.

If you wait for the perfect couple or four-way match, you are most likely going to be waiting for a really long time. However, if you are open to considering a pretty-good match that, with a try or two, could develop in to some great friendships with benefits, then consider diving in. For a long time we didn't consider this idea and pissed away a lot of weekends and hundreds and hundreds of dollars. And then one night we attended a hotel party that was more like this- where the full intent was for people to get naked and play. And guess what.. it was awesome.

There were maybe five couples there. We got a few drinks going, played a lifestyle version of jenga, and before you know it clothes were coming off and fun was happening all over the place. Put simply, it was efficient. In the end we became friends with two of the couples, are connected as friends in real life, and see them from time to time at events.

Here's some unsolicited advice: When you see one of these events, look at who is signed up. View their profiles. If they are at least "maybes" in your book AND they have a couple of "certs", then consider giving it a try. People with certs are more-likely what they claim to be. And they want to preserve their reputations in the community of lifestyle people, so even if you don't connect or play with them, the likelihood is they are going to be very nice to you.

Our parties are more of the “finger foods and game on” variety. Someone (often Mrs Smith) invariably gets naked within the first 15 minutes, then suddenly everyone else’s clothes are a-flyin’ off and we’re off to the races... :)

Im not sure there is a normal. Some host very elaborate long parties. Some host laid back quickies. We like to host all day pond parties with booze, swimming, and randomly timed sex.

Yes usually its serious business and not much chat as these parties.. some meet before hand !

But most know why you are there.. and what they want.. sex.. now when the games come out.. such as everyone place your keys in a bowl.. now thats when the real fun begins!

Enjoy.. let us know how it goes.. most are invite only and screened by host before hand.

We have done years of finding Parties and Clubs on Hot Dates

Now we are being invited to private parties, and most are very clear, in for some finger food then game on

Is this a normal progression? We like it