The LS has so many pluses comparied to the minuses that anyone looking at it logically and with an open mind could easily see that. The problem is that so many have a closed mind when it comes to various things that they are dead set against anything that doesn't conform to "their" norms.
The LS is definitely one of those polarizing things. Some people just can't seperate sex and love. Their loss I suppose ;-)
Swing, how many have now shown interest in the LS?
SWING.. give your wife a medal! KUDOS!
Glad she stood up to people who dont have a clue or what we do.. and yes they are just jealous! Probably half she spoke with are cheaters on their spouse too!
My wife moderates a LS page on social media. Someone (also in LS, but very open about it) at her job discovered this. She took it upon herself to show all the coworkers what she found. Next thing you know my wifes phone was blowing up with people and their questions. At first we were pissed. The LS is personal for us. Or it was anyway. My wife is not one to shy away from a confrontation, so when she went back to work she adopted my "zero fucks given" attitude. She made it clear it is a personal matter and drop the subject. She had some choice words for the "outter", gave some insight to the closer work friends and let the admin know if this becomes an issue she will file a sexual harassment case. Crickets ever since! LOL. I love this woman!
I think it's kind of shitty to worry more about what other people might think regarding something that's none of their business, than the feelings and well-being of the people you are fucking.
Way too funny how we all try to keep secrets and non-secrets. We dated a couple about 7 years ago several times.
So, I get a message from a young man on a dating site. He was adorable, had a pretty cock, and was clever enough to get me to give him his older woman fantasy. Yep, I fucked him. I fucked him at our house and once let him bend me over in a parking garage. I was going to fuck him more but he gets some Catholic guilt and comes clean. He was the son of this couple we had been dating. OMG. He tells me that he has known his parents were swingers for a long time. Oops. He had seen some "home" movies of all of us together and found us on the website from a testimonial his parents gave on us. As I remembered, those videos were of his daddy trying his best to get me pregnant and of his mommy sucking and getting penetrated by my husband's cock. Eeeuuuuuw. I wonder what he thought about that?
We had to tell them. At least let them know the kid knows where to find their home porn collection. And to this day, they know their kid is out trying to date MILFs. The kid knows his parents are swingers and his mommy has a raunchy mouth and does know how to say the words, "FUCK ME." But, the kid doesn't know his parents know about his dating habits and that he fucked me.
That's absolutely horrible. Not sure how we'd react if someone did that to us. We've been to events where we ran into people we knew, co workers, an d even family. Fortunately, all have been adults about it and we've been afforded the same courtesy we've extended. Hopefully we continue that way.
Sexy what a shame but its their loss,... we have had the same and one we played with 20 years turned into a jerk and outing us .., and then told his kids what we were all doing for 20 years.. like he could not keep his mouth shut?
His loss!
@sexynova - Yikes, that must have sucked, not to mention the wasted time and money. The LS is a smaller world than people realize and word tends to get around about people like that. Eventually they're left wondering why nobody will play with them.
This is one of the reasons I cringe when people talk about picking up guys at a bar. If it's one that you frequent and you prefer to keep a low profile, picking up guys that aren't in the LS is not the way to do that. Just saying, it could be a lot of fun, but wouldn't do it anyplace that we frequent and/or people know us.
We used to belong to a social club. Basically a place to go drinking and play pool. The Mrs liked one of the regulars and after a few drinks one night, we took him home and tried to do an MFM (he couldn't get hard). Next time we went to the club we had a guy from a vanilla couple ask me how I could let another guy fuck my wife. Needless to say we stopped going to the club and it was a lesson learned the hard way.
We met a couple on SLS and made plans to meet at a nude resort to play. The dumbass guy of the couple goes and tells multiple people, including some resort administration, about us and that they're meeting us there to swing. We show up at registration and to our surprise, they know practically everything we shared with that guy. C was mortified and pissed because we keep a low profile at that place as it's not openly swinger-friendly and we have vanilla nudist friends that go there. The other couple shows up and we let him know that didn't appreciate the "outing" and to keep a lid on it from then on. We also didn't play with them because at that point neither of us liked the guy. Too bad, because his wife was sweet, sexy and cool. Fortunately, we did meet another couple that weekend who we saw several times after that.
Blackmail only works if you think the information is damaging. If you don't think it is an issue, there is no value in blackmailing you. This works the same in being outed.
We were on HBO's Real Sex. The people we expected to see the episode didn't. The people we didn't expect to see the episode did. My wife's sister saw it. She talked about it and my wife's response was basically, "so what?" Once my wife said she didn't care, the leverage was gone. My wife's pseudo-cousin (long story) saw it. She wanted to learn more about it. They spent hours talking about it.
What you will learn is that the news is more like a 24-hour news cycle and you suddenly were the top news in that cycle. After that one day, it gets pushed way the heck down. If there are 100 people that find out, probably 95 of them will be curious and then not give a fuck. Then the next 5 will be interesting. You will probably lose one or two of those five who cannot get past it. Then after that, the remaining will probably treat you a little differently.
If you can proactively block, that is the way to go. Once the cat is out of the bag though, there isn't much you can do other than talk to the person that did it and ask them not to do it again.
You can also let this person know that it's a small LS world where many would rather keep this a secret, and most don't take kindly to people doing what he did.
This scenario is a perfect use for the block feature. We blocked the profile of an extended family member just so there wouldn't be any awkward questions. They are unabashed swingers and don't care who knows. We aren't in the same boat but didn't want to have it become an issue. We were discovered by friends from social media but as they were here for the same reason we both just chuckled and moved on.
OP: My coworker knows and I’m guessing he figured out our profile by a couple others we mutually know that are in the lifestyle and now a few more coworkers know after someone made a joking remark about me not knowing what to do with a woman by my lack of reacting by not “yumming” a set of tits in their camera footage. The knowing coworker made a remark that I party most every weekend and get more tits and ass than the whole 4th floor dept together (About 100 coworkers). I just laughed it off, called him crazy and walked away, but too late.
Unfortunately in your circumstances, there isn’t much you can do except ask them not to do that, it’s bad policy and karma’s a bitch when it comes down to it.
~Allen
Two of my ex-husband's former employees shared my (insert another lifestyle website here) profile with him. It was not awesome. Fortunately, we were on good terms by then and he no longer worked for that company. And the employees were reprimanded for improper use of company equipment. I spent a couple of days being a little flustered, but I just kept reminding myself that nobody ever died from embarrassment.
We moved out into the country back in 2007. At the time we lived on a road with 8 other families. One moved out and the home was demolished due to how bad conditions were inside. So now we have 7 families around us. Turns out one of the homes was a rental (important later). We got along with out neighbors and still do but were really good friends with an elderly couple across the road. Well after the 3rd or 4th renter change we ended up with one of them being someone we knew from attending parties yet never played with nor did we really want to. Well a few months after they moved in she decides that we would be perfect to join her and her bi girlfriend to introduce her to the lifestyle. Now we decided we did not want to do this and turned them down. Well after that unknown to use she apparently told the older couple all about us being in the lifestyle. We can only assume she also told any other neighbor that would listen. We only found out because I was driving the wife of that couple to the doctor and she told us about it. I was able to concoct a partially true store about being an amateur photographer (we were) and being "hired" to attend these parties and take photos (half truth we volunteered as digital cameras were fairly new and we had a good one). That satisfied her curiosity and we never heard more about it. A few months later they moved out and we went through 2 more changes before that place sold and we got new neighbors. The older couple well a little over a year later he passed away and she moved into a home and we lost touch. In fact out of the original families here when we moved in only 3 are left including ourselves that may have heard the stories being told. No one has ever said or done anything to imply they knew.
Now looking at your situation if he were still your boss you might have grounds for a lawsuit. Otherwise well what he said is true so basically there is nothing to do but damage control. One can only hope the family member this info was shared with is of the understanding type and will keep their mouths shut. If not you may have just become the "black sheep" of the family this Thanksgiving. I know that does not offer any help but it is what it is so make the best of it. BTW I would consider having a conversation with the one who shared such information but given how my temper might just take control going with damage control now and possible in the future would be the best option to keep my freedom.
WE have dropped long time FWB of 20 years for doing that.. thats just plain rude and non of their business ! Almost like they were bragging to some we know who never asked!
If they do not honor your secret life as you have requested.. move on and tell them so.. ! Do not coward down to these people..
With the current job and family issues, we try to keep this part of our life private.
How do you handle being outed by someone from the website. My former boss also uses this website and decided to share our profile with a family member we both used to work with.
