I thank everyone for thoughtful replies. The situation seems to have resolved itself. I will spare you the details but it is Just the two of us on the cruise. I personally am glad as it seems most of you felt I would be left holding the proverbial bag (or holding something LOL). She is really excited about going with just the two of us and so am I.
Regards,
Mick
OP Have you or your wife talked to her old boyfriend about his role on the cruise? You'er paying his way onto the ship, (which is very nice of you) but what if he gets on the cruise and wants to do his own thing? Would that be a problem for you or your wife? Just something to consider.
I have been on several lifestyle cruise and your best bet is to make connections with people before getting on board. Through SLS or some other messaging site listed for your cruise. It's hard to find people on a ship when your cell phone doesn't work at sea. So get cabin numbers of people you plan to meet. Bring a small dry eraser hanger to hang out side your cabin door so you can let people know when you'er going to the pool or where they can find you. A picture of you two or (you three) hanging on your door helps people find you also.
I think it will harder for you to find playmates by yourself when/if people know your wife is on the ship also. Chances are they will be more interested in your wife and her boyfriend. Just my thoughts on your situation, but this is a lifestyle cruise an anything can happen good luck to you.
We are not the cruise type but i have been told that 40% of the people on a swinger cruise are not swingers and do not do anything.
That means you are going to have to make the effort to ask if a couple is a swinger couple. I heard that the cruises are more about making friends that you play with instead of just a causal group sex kind of thing.
Please correct me if i am wrong in any of this.
Mick,
After just returning from my 11th LS takeover cruise, and 3rd Bliss cruise, I've seen a few MFM triads, each with various 'protocols'. There is usually something for everyone, but some are more challenging to find than others. I've cruised in an FMF triad, and even that had some 'logistical' challenges.
For instance, the 3 of you would not be able to enter the couples only Solarium playroom, however, you would be able to go to the alternate playroom in deck 14 that allows singles to enter. Of course, you can always make connections for separate cabin play with a couple, or group of couples. To better your odds of connecting with like-minded couples would be joining at least one of the secret Facebook groups or the SLS groups on this site.
Mick,
That's why my response included this caveat; "I'm not sure which scenario is more on target, maybe neither..."
I always assume that when someone asks a question in a very round about kind of way that there's a bigger story being partially told and a bigger question being posed. I apologize if I read too much into the details you shared.
My good luck was, and still is very sincere.
BT
Is it reasonable that you will find couples or other ladies to play with without your wife? No, it's not.
It's a pretty big ship and while they're might be some couples looking for a second male, they'll probably choose the other younger solo men on the ship.
Wow, I received some tough answers and I thank you all (except the dump her answer).
Bridgetender, I did ask the question about is it reasonable to expect I can find ladies or couples to play with. I am not trolling for attention from anyone, I don't quite get how you came to that conclusion and no, I am NOT worried about the marriage. I do get that this seems out there a bit, but we have a habit of reaching out and helping those less fortunate (just not usually people one of us has sex with).
Again, thank you all for your input but I was NOT asking for relationship advice, I was asking how freely people play when just one of a couple is involved Maybe I didn't' make that quite clear enough
Again, thanks all.
Mick
I would cancel the trip. What your wife wants you to do is the say you are not going so just she and her boyfriend can go on the cruise, Just cancel the trip before it leads to a disaster for you.
Unless you can afford to get divorced because that is going to be what happens if the three of you go on that cruise.
OP,
It seems to me that you're trolling for responses here by posing a question with a very mixed message.
So, if you're simply asking if you'll have any fun on this cruise going off solo while your wife's with her beau, then, ask that question. The couple's here who have been on Bliss cruises will likely chime in with their thoughts.
If on the other hand, you're asking if your wife's relationship with her beau is a danger to your marriage, then, ask that question. ...you've already seen some opinions on this though...
To say that your wife wants to bring her beau, THEN say that you're ok with it because you like to watch... THEN say that her beau's unemployed...THEN say that you have to pay his way...THEN say that you COULD say no to this...THEN say "...but my wife really wants..."... And THEN close with, and I paraphrase, I just wanna know if it's worth it...am I gonna get mine?...
Well, that just tells this reader that you're EITHER really into the cuck/humiliation thing and you want attention from the folks in the forums to further that feeling, OR...you've realized that maybe there are some red flags here, and your question, and how you teed it up, are a cry for help and support from this community.
I'm not sure which scenario is more on target, maybe neither, but I'll give you this; That's one very interesting way of posing a question.
Good luck with your next move.
BT
If she's comfortable enough to bring him on a cruise, they're probably a lot closer than you think.
It's not at all reasonable for her to invite him when a: you have to pay for it and b: share an already small room. I'd cancel the cruise if you can and do something else if she won't want to have a good time with out him.
South, get a new wife. Send her back to the unemployed. Save YOUR money stay home.
I would consider that to defeat the purpose of meeting other couples, and for me personally, a completely unreasonable requirement.
Male half here. We just signed up for the 2018 Bliss cruise and we both are very excited about it. Wife threw me a curve the other day, saying she wanted her old boyfriend to come along as a third person in cabin. Now, I have no problem with her playing with him, they have played a few times since we've been married. The concern is that she implied she might want to play only with the 2 of us and not other couples, and I was really looking forward to meeting other couples for play. So the question is this: in general, is the play on these cruises couple to couple, or is there a decent chance that I can find a woman whose husband is tired, etc or even a single woman to play with? I really don't want to pay for the cruise (BTW, I have to pay for him too since he is unemployed) and be the third wheel. I love to watch, but I have bigger goals in mind. (Just assume I am not butt ugly and have good hygiene, good manners etc). I can refuse to have him go, but I know she'd really like to have him there. And yes, I have voiced my concern to her, but she says I can go play with whomever I like, which is fine, if there will be opportunities available for me.
Mick
