I think some people expect meeting guarantees something. they don't put any effort into it. they forget they still need to past the chemistry test in person. you don't need to be a model but you should look the best you can - or at least shower and iron your clothes lol
HFT, there is a difference between acting as a town crier and sniffing the garbage...
I have no idea how many meet and greets I've been to over the years, but it's been a lot. I can only recall one afterparty that I attended and I might have been the initiator on that one. I treat them as social events and while I might have set up a few playdates for later over the years, even that's pretty unusual.
In some cases it may depend on the meet & greet. We have an off-premise club in our area called Sinz that is essentially a meet & greet. For the larger parties there people will get nearby hotel rooms and go with the intent of meeting someone to take back to the hotel and play.
We also have a dance party type meet & greet called Fantasy Fridays near us, where the expectation is mainly just to meet and socialize. Doesn't mean that you will or won't get to play with people at either party, but generally you don't go to a meet & greet with the "expectations" that you will play.
Unless there are friends of the benefit variety attending, we don't even go to the on-premise parties with the expectation that we'll get to play. At this point though it is very rare for us to go to an on-premise party near us and not run into FWBs,
HFT: looks like you are chasing his tail too. Just saying.
Ncal: You show up to a meet & greet ready to fuck and get met with “who the fuck are you? Do we know you?”. Might as well take ourselves down to the train tracks and fuck a random hobo at that point.
sorillo1000 is redundant. Does he stutter too? Like a dog chasing its tail goes nowhere.
IN ACCORDANCE WITH THE PROPHECY
888 you have just shown why swinging is dead.
“Its hard to find a couple at a meet and greet that even there to play with other couples instead of just dressing sexy and socializing.”
It’s a meet&greet, not a meet&fuck, so going in expecting play is ignorant.
~Allen
Its hard to find a couple who is not overweight. It is hard to find a secure couple that does not care about how much fun their partner is having.
Its hard to find a couple at a meet and greet that even there to play with other couples instead of just dressing sexy and socializing.
California used to be a paradise for swingers and free love, but those days are gone. today Vegas is the place to be because so many tourists come and want to play and have that Vegas experience. But some many obese people..
We don't generally run into the sorts of people described (wrinkled clothes, bad breath, etc) at parties. People that go to play know enough to clean up and present reasonably well, but yes, if not, they would be avoided.
True you don't have to be naked but no worries we mostly likely not contacted these types of people anyway.
I just don't get it why wouldn't you want to try to put your best foot forward when meeting someone new especially.
We've seen some people show up at a meet and greet looking like they just rolled out of bed, wrinkled clothes, no makeup , and bad breath, thanks we'll pass.
You don't need to be naked to feel the "heat", especially at some of the parties we've been to ;-)
Before any clothes are even taken off there's got to be an attraction, so no chance of a any heat of the moment issues to worry about.
Rule #1
Rules of attraction can get fuzzier in the heat of the moment.
Unfortunately, there are lots of really heavy women in the LS, and men with unkept beards who smell of cigs or weed.
Bad breath and tragic teeth would be a definite no for me, but 300 pounds and the life of the party? That would probably be fine. I'm sensitive to presentation, so sloppy doesn't work for me, but people who are reasonably well put together and have brains, pleasing personalities and that unquantifiable something that isn't quite kindness or empathy or contentment but triangulates all of them will totally hit my sweet spot and I won't care about their size or appearance.
Hey Ron and Kathy, couldn't agree more and can tell from your profile that you would fit our bill just fine.
If you ever make it down here be sure to let us know.
Would love to meet you!
So for us there has to be a physical attraction first, you might have a great personality and be the life of the party but if you're 5'4 and 300lbs with bad breath and very few teeth you personality is not going to win us over.
That said we don't expect perfection but come on make an effort.
If you show up to a meet and greet in sweats, flip flops, and no makeup this tells us you're really not interested enough in us to put forth any effort....thoughts?
