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I’m a widow, an older woman who is looking to enjoy herself. Yes I’m very new to this but life is to be lived. I’m opened minded but need to ease into it. It doesn’t bother me it…
by wyndan19263replies993viewsNew to the lifestyle and bit frustrated
My husband and I are brand new to the lifestyle. We have been interested for quite some time and decided to take the plunge on a house swingers party. When we showed up, we were g…
14replies2,375viewsHall Pass
I REALLY want my guy to enjoy a "hall pass". I am not sure how to arrange it for him but it is definitely one of his fantasies. Ideas?
9replies1,814viewsFree Members and what can they do?
I've seen some things that suggest free members can no longer send emails or do much of anything. Is this true? We just want to know as that seriously changes correspondence with…
by iron_couple13replies2,060viewsShared pictures
I looked around and tried to search for a website thread but I couldn't find one. Is there a page to see who has shared pictures with me or do I just need to stumble on a profile…
by pmoose47443replies1,099viewsCouple looking for single female.
My wife is bi curious and having a threesome has always been a fantasy of mine we are both very interested. First of all I feel it's hard to find a single female interested and on…
by Airdriscoll97replies1,007viewsNew to the lifestyle
We are new to the lifestyle. I don't know if we made our profile right. We haven't met any friends other than the one couple at a club we went to. I don't know if it's because we…
3replies972viewsAcronyms?
Does anyone have a quick reference guide for all the acronyms? I am starting to figure them out, but oh my golly it would be faster with reference sheet! Hahaha HWF ?? Haven't fig…
by Stell73787replies1,317viewsCode of Conduct?
I would like to ask for any advice you are all willing to give to help me educate myself about the unspoken (or spoken) codes of conduct within the "lifestyle". Heck, maybe there…
by Stell737833replies3,428viewsNew to this CNY
This is actually a bit more difficult than I thought it would be. Looking for a bi couple to play with. Unfortunately no actual bars or clubs up here. We’re on this site. Other su…
2replies597views3rd wheel anxieties!
We are attending a party this weekend and the hubby is having some concerns about ending up as a 3rd wheel. I have assured him that won't happen. What advice do you have to help c…
11replies2,123viewsMassages
William, I am looking for exactly the same thing for my girlfriend of 7 years. I found someone in the Boston area that does just what we are looking for. We are traveling there th…
by lookng4new31replies3,300viewsOlder Couple
You already said you brought it up and she said no. There's your answer. Is it possible she just enjoys looking and feeling sexy and would appreciate some support?
3replies1,141viewsNew to the site :)
Hi hope you're enjoying the summer! Hoping to make friends anywhere along the California / Pacific coast, as we will be taking a road trip and work will keep us travelling as well…
0replies591viewsLittle help needed
Is there a way to create a gallery that is locked and when I respond to people’s ads, unlock for that person to see? I’m not really seeing how to do it and figure I must be missin…
2replies715viewsWe need some help!
Hello all, long time member but first post here. We need a little help & guidance on where to go (and how) in order to take things to the next level. We have been together for ove…
3replies949viewsWho wrote it?
I've read some entertaining stories since joining the group. I was surprised the authors were not listed. Is there a way to find out who wrote and story and what comments they are…
by Prof100014replies721viewsWho is invited?
I'm new to the site and working on figuring things out. I have a question that I haven't found information on. I see that many parties and gatherings have the disclaimer: "Sorry,…
by Prof100014replies878viewsHotwife(anklet)
We were curious when a couple goes clubbing and wife is looking for a date, does wearing an anklet signifythe lifestyle. Or is rhere anything a wife could wear that only people in…
2replies1,526viewsHotwife(anklet)
We were curious when a couple goes clubbing and wife is looking for a date, does wearing an anklet signifythe lifestyle. Or is rhere anything a wife could wear that only people in…
16replies4,154viewsNew and want to explore
Hi all, after having fantasized about other people for quite sometime, we are wanting to explore the idea of swinging. We are completely new but totally open to the idea so we wan…
by Midlo20044replies884viewsFinally starting to move forward
My wife finally made out with two guys and let one suck her tits at the bar the other night. What’s our next move? Would love to watch her have fun and take it to the next level.…
1replies684viewsnewbie couple or experienced couple
we have decided to meet a couple for drinks and see what happens. We are not sure if we should meet newbies like us, or a more experienced couple to start with.
2replies789viewsProfile
We have been in the LS for just a few years now and I have noticed a trend. Outdated profiles. We have met some great people and had some very good times but it is very frustratin…
11replies1,345viewsNew to the area and SLS
Me and my wife are new to the life style and are looking for a party or meet and great in the fort drum area
by Bbwolf19881replies631viewsDoes anybody really want to play?
We thought we wanted to take the route of meeting couples outside of club where we can have drinks and get to know each other then have a very nice hotel to play. We talk to sever…
by Deutsche3452replies4,888viewsGetting rid of newbie stigma
Having trouble with first time playing. Seems like everyone wants an experienced couple. I understand the concern with a new couple, drama, unexpected, etc.... this is not us. We…
by Deutsche3416replies2,689viewsFirst time at Club
We are new to the LS and will be going to a club for the first time. Any suggestion?
3replies1,168viewsPlay rooms.
The wife and I are going to be attending some lifestyle events this summer for the first time. We have yet to be with another couple, only single female. Would it be uncommon for…
by candprey5replies1,095viewsLooking for a couple
We are new to this looking ok’ing to spice things up and keep it interesting. We are looking for a couple with either bi male or female or both straight
by Micheallynn2replies817viewsSenior St Louis Missouri Swingers
Are there any couples who are over 60 who swing in the St louis mo area?
0replies513viewsAlmost done with this.
Me and my lady have been on this site for 2 weeks and nothing but BS. We are looking for a single guy for her and me to watch her be with. Easy right Wrong!!!! Guys have contacted…
by Southswing6937replies3,520viewsI’m new to this
Really exploring what’s out there. I just lost my gf and I’m trying to get back up on the horse so to speak does anyone have any advice?
6replies921viewsWhat do you do for the first meet up?
Looking to see what others do on a first meeting specifically with single males. I know dinner or coffee are common but looking for other ideas? I like the idea of meeting with so…
by Here2play8985replies1,595viewsHello! I am new to the community!
Hello all! Thank you for taking some time to read my post. My name is Ace and I am new to the site and just wanted to introduce myself! I am excited to join a new community and ho…
by adachaz127replies755viewsReal names or Knick names?
I think knick names would be fun, like alternative egos. He thinks it's not necessary and we would forget and mess it up. What are your thoughts?
5replies942viewsLifestyle virgins
Any all guidance and advice is sincerely appreciated. Check us out and lead us into the lifestyle. we are excited to engage and mature as with embark on this journey. We will be a…
5replies2,108viewsBeen away for a while getting started again
We have enjoyed some time with couples some time ago, its been close to 8 years. While we don't really consider ourselves newbies, as we have an idea on expectations and what we a…
by FredTammy18replies1,786viewsHotel party questions
I've never been to a true hotel party but planning to attend one the first weekend of June (total hotel takeover). I will be celebrating my 40th birthday too! How do people usuall…
by Sexywifey4u2replies1,152views- 8replies1,612views
Married Couple looking for something new
My husband and I are looking to try out new, sexual things. Definitely new to the lifestyle. Would love to find a single female to help or learn with us the lifestyle....Suggestio…
2replies1,058viewsSaying your goodbyes
Hubby and I are debating this and need input. At the end of a successful date, when everybody is lying around naked and talking, when is it appropriate to get dressed and go if yo…
2replies1,206viewsWhich is better
I see many profiles on here where they are very interested in females, very interested in couples, but only slightly interested in men. Question is it better to email them, open p…
4replies929viewsVirgin Status
I am new to the life style and world of sex outside of books and movies. I am looking for someone to take me under their wing so I can learn and enjoy outside of myself. I am bi-c…
by Jstiffy69174replies977viewsPic Galleries
I have been trying to give access to my personal gallery to other members. Each time I try to do this, I click on the personal set of binoculars, and choose the time frame, when I…
by Jamesandzoey6replies1,599viewsWhat should we expect at the club and house parties.
My wife and I are looking at going to a club this weekend and possibly a house party in the future. The problem is that it's hard to get any information on these places. Do people…
by UncleRiko1replies915viewsSexual Social Media and Why it Rarely Works
There have been success stories in our generation which found their beginnings in the dot com phenomenon. The world of promiscuous sex is not one of them. No doubt, the swinging w…
by _Tramp_92replies5,292viewsintroductions?
We have no problem only stating our First names in the introductions. Never our last, is this a bad thing to do? I feel a more personable approach is better than a standoffish whe…
8replies888viewsWho will print Erotic/ Boudoir books, prints or Canvas
Any websites out there, honest to print our Erotic sexy pics we had done in Mexico? Maybe a photo book or a large canvas?
1replies556viewsNewbie Couple Looking for Friendly Couple/Mentorship
I am sure lots of newbies would have asked where to go from here. We are one such couple and clueless. We just want to get introduced and honestly looking for friendly couple or m…
by laveenia9replies1,427views
