Play rooms.

Quite a few couples will make use of playrooms. It can be a good way to "meet" people or just garner their attention. Every couple and person is different. Just be sure not to push a couple to use the playroom if they really don't want to. You may meet them there while they are watching but they may rather head back to their room for couples play. Another huge thing is to be sensitive about the men. Sometimes they may want to use the playroom but not be able to perform with an audience. Try and be ready to suggest going back to your room if they might be having trouble.

Our progression in the LS went from just us in a room with a closed door, then leaving it open a crack, then leaving it open all the way, and finally to leaving it open and inviting people to join us and/or public room play.

Each progression was kind of a baby step and each step was exciting for us at the time. When starting out, what "could" happen was just as exiting as when things actually did. The purpose in all of it was to add spice to OUR sex life, and each step along the way did just that. There's no rush, so enjoy the journey.

Great advice, thank you. I know would be a big turn on for us to be playing with each other while others around playing.

OP: To answer your question, yes, it is okay, open or closed room. Do what you two like and don’t let others dictate what you are into at THAT moment.

We do closed door, cracked door, open door and no door, when not finding another couple to play with at the club. Sometimes it helps find others when it is in an open room. Hell, at the clubs with on site play, we’ve started with just us and then ends up with others joining. It’s even carried group play into and across the hallways, into other rooms.

Sometimes I just don’t “feel” the moment and only play privately. Do what YOU want.

~Allen

People can be at all different levels and when the Mrs and I first started, it was hot to be in a room at a party where we could hear others and they could hear us. This could be a problem though if there was limited space and you were tying the room up for a long time. Otherwise it should be fine.

When in doubt, ask the host. I know that we try to tailor our guest list by "play grade". If it's a large party we only invite people that are OK with playing in a public setting because we just don't have enough room for someone to close a door and use a room for any significant amount of time.

In that case we have smaller parties that are every bit as fun and everyone is more comfortable and happy.

The wife and I are going to be attending some lifestyle events this summer for the first time. We have yet to be with another couple, only single female.

Would it be uncommon for a couple to use a playroom just for the two of them to play? Or are these typically used for group play?