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Your "Fresh meat" tag line makes it obvious you likely have the wrong idea of how things work here. Again, not meaning to be harsh but there are an overwhelming number of single guys on most sites like this. To use your tag line in an analogy, a tiny dab of fresh hamburg in a butcher shop full of meat is not going to even be noticed.

Otherwise, all of what Rabbit said applies, and since you're here anyway you might as well try to make the best of it. You've done the "ventured" part, the "gained" part takes a bit more time and effort, especially as a single guy. Welcome to the forum BTW.

Welcome Stiffy.

This is going to sound harsh but I really do want to help.

Your profile and pic have zero redeeming qualities. You need to start a thread in the better profiles section and ask for help. You will be ripped apart BUT if you stay strong and keep your sense of humor you will survive and come out with a better profile.

Right now, between admitting you want someone to teach you and that you are in the process of losing weight, you scream "project". No one wants a project. It's frustrating and a waste of time.

I also hope you have a great sense of humor and a quick wit. It really does help in this lifestyle and you may need it with a profile name like Stiffy.

Anyway, welcome and good luck and feel free to wander the forums. There used to be a lot more great info here but the powers that be recently did a lot of pruning so feel free to ask questions.

~rabbit~

Thank you very much and completely u derstand. The work is in progress. I am down 30 lbs in 13 weeks and am going strong to be a healthier, stronger, better looming guy.

I never thought of the photo thing. I do know some photographers that could help there.

Again thank you :-)

Welcome to the boards and we wish you well as you wade into the lifestyle. A few things to help you out: Remember that most swingers are not looking for single males. In its pure form swinging is about couples getting together and many still set that as an ideal goal. The other type of play that is preferred is with single women. Now with that being the case, keep in mind that there are an awful lot of sm's on this site and others. You need to work to differentiate yourself from the rest of the males out there. Write an amazing profile and put up some well done pics (no selfies, no bathrooms, no messy rooms, etc.) Don't take this the wrong way- put some work into your appearance because like it or not that's a huge part of attraction. Personally, I don't want to play with someone who doesn't put as much effort forth as I do. That may sound crass but it is a reality. Wear decent clothes for your pictures and absolutely dress well when you get to meet your first couple or single.
Sorry don't want to sound too negative. You need to be patient, hold to your preset boundaries, be honest, and have fun. Aside from making a really good profile and being patient try and find some sm friendly clubs, meet and greets, or parties in your area. The quicker you meet real people the better you will and the less discouraged you will become. Good luck.

I am new to the life style and world of sex outside of books and movies. I am looking for someone to take me under their wing so I can learn and enjoy outside of myself.

I am bi-curious. I am shy and not sure how to begin or where to start. Im honest when I send messages but I dont know if that is what is scaring people away from responding or something else.