introductions?

You re talking about single men, we are talking about couples which is very different.

It always seems to me that "secrecy" is more a good sign than a bad sign.

Specifically, "Jim" who uses carefully cropped pics is, in my experience, more likely to be real than James Hollingsworth who has a bunch of pics including his face. Now, it may be that James is a guy who has no potential issues, and doesn't care what friends, family, employers, ex-wives - whatever- think, but it just seems that the careful ones are most likely to be real.

It doesn't matter though - in response to their first message/mail, I'm going to tell them to write "4 Tam" on a piece of paper and take a body shot selfie while holding that note proving that they are real, and really have a body I'd want to play with.

Most people on SLS simply evaporate ... POOF ... but the few who do reply as requested usually work out to be serious.

A lot may depend on your first name AND your requirements for discretion. If one of you has a really unique first name it can be as identifying as some tattoos. Used in combination with the other half's first time and the combination is VERY unique. Just something to consider if anonymity is a big deal for someone.

we only post our first names if that is a bad thing move on

We use our first name and have glocks in our Rarris.

Some friends call us Allen#1, and Allen#2. Speaking of which, we just got an email assimilation, er.. invitation from Allen#3 and his lovely wife, Allen#4 this morning, after hearing back from newly wedded Allen#5 and his tasty Allen#6.

~Allen

We use first names, never post face pics as they are easily taken. Our business would be destroyed with our face pics associated with swinging get out into the public arena.

We have to be very careful, because we never know it we are talking to a client. We have a separate phone number as well.

if we ever happen to meet a client who is a swinger that is no big deal. but its was is a permanent record that can destroy us.

Different last names for our nudist volleyball party and even for Contra dancing groups.

It really depends on what you all are comfortable with sharing. There are some jobs that swinging would be the death of and more discretion might be warranted. There are many who will change their names altogether. Most of us understand that discretion is the rule of thumb and understand that you may need to protect your identity. Just don't use silly pseudonyms like Fluffy and Sparkles if that is the route you go. You all get to decide on how discrete you need to be.

It seems to me using first names ONLY is the norm with new introductions.

We have no problem only stating our First names in the introductions. Never our last, is this a bad thing to do? I feel a more personable approach is better than a standoffish when you are contacting like minded couples?