New and want to explore

We're new too and over 65. We are close to Toronto where there are some clubs. We're not sure if we would feel too old and out of place at a club. Any comments from those with experience?

Welcome to the forums.

At your stage, I believe a good start would be to go to a club or two just to observe. If you're comfortable in that setting, you can play with each other without trying to involve others.

I've seen that advice given before, and I really think it's a good way to get a feeling for the atmosphere in clubs.

I don't have an opinion on what club(s) to attend, but at the top of the Forums home page, there are two categories that are determined by your locale, one for Clubs and the other for Events. You might want to start your research there. You might also want to look into meet and greets (strictly social events) in your area.

As far as finding a couple with whom you have chemistry and getting to know them with the thought of maybe you might do more in your heads, eh. Sure. Maybe. That's not how it works for me, where there is either chemistry or there isn't and it doesn't grow (although it can dissipate as I learn more about people past that initial charge of attraction). The other problem is that this theoretical couple would need to be on the exact same page as you, with roughly the same cautious approach, because otherwise you'd be wasting time they could use to identify and meet playmates with whom they could have sex right then. So, that's something to consider when it comes to either clubs or on-line.

Maybe consider either a meet and greet or an off-premise (no play on site) club?

Welcome to the wild side. I cannot speak to the Detroit area but want to offer this 'caution' about wanting to get to know the couple first. In my personal experience once I get to know folks to well - like we're friends it feels weird if I sleep (play) with them. Again just a caution as things are different for everyone and every situation.

Like a lot of folks I now only agree to meet people (men, women or couples) at a LS event I already plan on attending.

Others should be along momentarily to chime in. No matter what you read or hear there is NO one way or wrong way to Swing - it's what you want and agree to. ENJOY

Hi all, after having fantasized about other people for quite sometime, we are wanting to explore the idea of swinging. We are completely new but totally open to the idea so we want to explore this area.
After many conversations, we think this could take some time because we want to find a couple that we are both into and have sexual chemistry with. We'd like to get to know the couple first, share some laughs, but know in the back of our heads, if we want to and all falls in place, there could be more excitement.
We live in metro Detroit and want folks opinion on the best place to get started and meet people. We were thinking a swingers club, but don't even know which ones to check out.

We would appreciate all opinions and advice on how to get started and any other advice for newbies. Thx