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Same room swap
We are new to the lifestyle, still trying to get our feet wet. We have done the seperate room full swap and have started to venture out on our own and are have a good time. What w…
by PrettyNormal17replies2,716viewsLifestyle Clubs near San Diego
We are visiting San Diego in the near future and are having a very hard time finding a swingers club that is still open. Any recommendations? We are driving so please include any…
0replies513viewsEttiquette - splitting the room
Ok - we're new and have a question. We met a couple a while ago with who we hit it off. After weeks of life getting in the way on both sides we've finally scheduled a play date fo…
by AandJinNNJ17replies1,473viewsSwingers club for NYE .what to expect?
We are trying to make it out to a swingers club on NYE. Since it will be our first time ever attending one is it like throwing ourselves to the wolves? Any tips on how we can deal…
by Swirl5108replies652viewsQuestions about traveling to Maui/Hawaii
Aloha all, I am contemplating writing a travel/lifestyle blog about swinging here on Maui as I get messages about just that every week. The blog would be mainly geared towards vis…
by WannaTry8084replies656viewsWho pays the motel bill?
I am asking that question because a single male took offense when I said he was to pay the motel room bill. I am willing to let him have his way with me, sort of that is, no ass p…
by valleychic17replies2,028viewsTried swinging seperate but I asked to scale back to couples only, wife upset.
Phew. Okay, I think you're being manipulated to hell and gone and I think the situation needs a few less "I love you" texts from you and a few more "yeah, your needs are your need…
2replies1,255viewsHow to Identify a Hotwife?
I'm a straight single male. I was wondering....... When out in public, such as a bar or grocery store, is there a way to Identify a hotwife or swinger wife from the other vanilla…
by Willy6000027replies5,884viewsCuckquean .?
Hello all. My lovely wife and I have been swinging for a few years now and we’ve had a truly wonderful time. We’ve fulfilled a lot of fantasies that most people would never even v…
13replies2,026viewsshared wife first time
Recently shared the wife for the first time at a party, it was amazing to watch....afterwards we felt closer to each other,more that usual. We have a great relationship, so we did…
1replies1,633viewsMen who hate parties?
It has been my unfortunate experience that many "supposedly single" men hate big parties. Is it performance anxiety or, if they're cheating, fear of recognition? My past experienc…
by LadyBlueSF32replies2,992viewsHWP
I have a question for anybody to respond. What is considered HWP these days? Some people are looking for HWP people only.
by yzman110replies6,341viewsWife has a policeman/cop fantasy
She has a fantasy to play with a cop, she likes state police and dnr most..... so, how would a couple/ married wife find a cop to play with, must be legit.
9replies931viewsCouples Dating
We have been in the lifestyle for over 12 years now and have made many friends along the way. We recently have become very good friends with another couple who brought up the idea…
by cpl4newfun310replies1,785viewsShe says 'I don't orgasm'. I'm perplexed
My wife an I met a nice couple the other night at a clothing optional resort. After a few drinks and good conversation we decide to take to the room. We paired up, got touchy feel…
by fishincouple49replies3,451viewsFriends Who Run Hot/Cold
We tend to prefer friends with benefits. We have one couple we know who are very engaging and friendly when you get them alone (or at a party away from their main friends), but ca…
by Skiswap4replies742viewsBest place to look.
We are a young couple looking to get into the lifestyle. Where is the best place to look for couples or a third? We are both bi and we are in Indiana.
3replies1,064viewsEmail frustration
New phenomenom seem to be occurring, at least for us. We have sent 3 emails over the past couple weeks to different people. All 3 show unread unreplied. Are we just finding rude p…
by Wvillecpl11replies1,144viewsORGIES
We've attended three orgies and really had a great time. They consisted of about five couples and one or two singles. We want to know how to find out about these around our area.…
2replies966viewsReminiscent
So hi! I'm Pebbles and I'm quite shy compounded with anxiety, people say "don't be shy", it doesn't work that way. BamBam isn't the least bit shy, but he's very quiet, is uncomfor…
by AZBedrockers13replies1,725viewsWife
Not sure how to start this. However, over the past few years like most couples the spark has diminished in our sex life. As you get older, that sometimes happens but the desire is…
7replies1,481viewsFirst Time Alone At A Club
I have a broad question. My partner and I have always played together, but do to family and work he will not be with me this year on my birthday. We would both like for me to go t…
by OwnedinOH4replies818views1st time full swap
To be clear, you have a couple coming over to swim and are asking if it’s ok for you and your wife to play separately? This is a question you and your wife need to talk about and…
2replies1,205viewsHouse Party Hookup
So we attend some local clubs when we can, and have only just started meeting local couples for "dates" which we really like. At the club everyone seems to already be a part of a…
5replies1,363viewsAre my expectations too high?
Ok.... let me set stage... we host parties. This time around everyone has a kik handle so we started a kik group. I started the group to allow for some chatting and pg13 picture s…
by kinksterhere17replies1,705viewsbi female in a couple.
Is being A bi female/straight male couple looking for a female swinging? If not please let us know. Couple/couple swinging is not my thing.-Ericka
by KINKYGOATS16replies1,531viewsSingle men are the ruination of the ls!
Lady what you tried to do never works. Couples have shown up at parties or clubs that allow single men and the woman feels like she is under attack by the single men. So many sing…
by ncalcouple75replies4,601viewsNo sexual attraction
We are new at this, so people please offer some advice... What or how is the best way to tell a couple that there is a friendship connection with all parties envolved, but there i…
by PrettyNormal23replies2,184viewsplaying separately
Hello all, wondering what others feelings and experiences are on this? Wife and I have been in lifestyle for about 3 years now and had some really awesome experiences! We had a co…
52replies5,464viewsHow to deal with sheer rudeness?
Hi All-- I'd appreciate your opinions. Last week I met and played with a couple with a lovely and very enthusiastic wife. By all accounts, they are experienced swingers and have b…
by phil_45138replies2,845viewsSure I'll have se with you, but don't expect to mix with my Vanilla friends
So what's everyone's take on this? Let's face it now all people are as discreet as others, some have no issue posting face pics here, or even discussing the Lifestyle in public, s…
by BeachedCPL19replies2,412viewsCommunication/Emails
Hello all, we are not new to the lifestyle. Curious to knw if anyone has had trouble w/ sending/receiving emails? We don’t like the feature that a person/couple can read an email…
by KingDMelonE9replies1,118viewsThe goddess and how to treat a woman as one
i keep saying that the women who are swingers are into swinging because they get treated as a goddess. I treat my wife this way as well telling how good she looks all the time and…
by ncalcouple64replies3,500viewsMy wife going out of town with her boyfriend
My wife has a steady boyfriend that she sees about once a month. They have known each other for over three years, but only recently started meeting intimately. The have met 3 or 4…
by Flicker3717replies2,352views- 12replies2,201views
Need Serious Help
So I created profile and seeking another male or couples for me and my husband. I am a former dancer and always been on my game when it comes to confidence. Recently my experience…
by Erottica26replies2,159viewsHow should this be handeled
Well THAT's some confusing convoluted shit right there. Was your plan to use your girl as barter for the legal work? Was any payment arrangement made at all? Have you spoken to th…
7replies1,329viewsThe no drama couples
In our experience over the past few years we have noticed something. Why is it the couples that say "no drama" are the ones that bring it? Anyone else notice this too?
14replies1,825viewsHow to break the news to a couple
Hi folks. We're curious to hear how others tell people thanks but no thanks. It's difficult enough to get three people be on the same page but four seems exponentially tougher. We…
by necouple911122replies3,651viewsNew!
Hi! We are new to this lifestyle. It's very exciting but it seems that we are fumbling our way around and trying to learn the ropes, via online, and meeting people in general. We…
by DestimY1510replies1,593viewsSwinging in central mn
Hello, i am new to this site. Im am wondering how easy it is to meet up with like minded people through this site. How do you meet people? Maybe i just have not explored the site…
6replies954viewsSingle male lack of chivalry
That is why my wife loves married men. They threat her as a goddess and are always so grateful that a woman is nice to them and just wants to borrow their body for sex and nothing…
by ncalcouple8replies1,227viewsRules of attraction
So for us there has to be a physical attraction first, you might have a great personality and be the life of the party but if you're 5'4 and 300lbs with bad breath and very few te…
by BeachedCPL17replies2,193viewsShow the EFF UP
Yes- we've been doing this long enough to know 'IT HAPPENS'.. But still the window shoppers, and the people who aren't serious are driving me insane. We are not huge picture excha…
by justjj6616replies1,858viewsAdvice for Bliss Cruise
Male half here. We just signed up for the 2018 Bliss cruise and we both are very excited about it. Wife threw me a curve the other day, saying she wanted her old boyfriend to come…
12replies2,513viewsWhy aren't single is men interested in ls travel/conventions?
In my opinion they aren't actually single.
32replies2,181viewsRimming made better
go to general dollar, spend 1.15 for cherry flavored chap-stick. it's 9.00 and you just showed for your night out. grab your chap-stick and apply it sparingly to your anus/ass get…
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