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OP - you answered your own question. For some men it is a turn on that their wife has sex with other men. For some women it would not be a turn on if their husband had sex with other women. The key word is "some". When women aren't turned…
OP - you stated that she didn't include you in the play, but there is no reason that you have to wait for an invitation. You could have joined in at any time but instead it sounds like you were waiting for her to specifically invite you. U…
Very little in porn represents real life and that is true for cuckolding and hotwifing porn. The complaints from within the community is that it is fake, staged and not believable. Cuckolding is a kink and the men involved don't all share…
The Stag/Vixen thing is a version of hotwifing where the man also has the option to play separately. This does not have any of the elements of humiliation or denial that can occur in cuckolding. With many of the couples in this category of…
I tried to respond to someone new 4 time today. I thought it was me at first! Very frustrating as I still haven't been able to send the message.
It could be that part of the attraction for her is being turned on by watching you OR the fact that you are watching her rather than the other men themselves. So the searching and vetting of men is not as important to her and she trusts yo…
4-5 months isn't really that much time if you live in an area with a limited number of potential matches.
I heard of a rule for one event where they allowed SM's who were sponsored by a couple to attend but they were to play with that couple. I believe there had been an issue in the past with SM's at that event making some couples uncomfortabl…
It's really no different than men that aren't looking for relationships. I met with one widower and he told me he had no interest in another relationship but he missed the regular sex. Completely understandable. A woman on a vanilla dating…
@8incable I don't think he would be very successful as a cuck due to the whole topping from the bottom issue.
Allow users to change the position of their phone without losing an entire message. I don't understand why this is such an issue? The entire page reloads if you move your hand! This may not be an issue for those that send "want to fuck" me…
As a hotwife I'm looking for single men and am in your target age group so I took a look at your profile. It would be a no for me for a few reasons. I find nothing in your profile that tells me how you would treat me on a play date. I don'…
Yep, I got a message too.
This site may be a very good option for you however there may be some men that would hesitate to consider you for a couple reasons. The first is they can't be sure from your profile if your boyfriend knows about your profile and approves o…
Wait a minute! Who said being a hotwife is about dressing like a slut? Because it isn't! Sexy is all about attitude and if you feel comfortable, confident and powerful (as a woman) then you will come across as sexy. You do not have to dres…
I shouldn't ask...but I seriously want to know.... How did his cock "go through" the three wives? And all at the same time? Anyone take anatomy more recently than I want to explain this??
You want to be a "bull" or a FWB for a hotwife but your profile is set to watch and soft, not full. Maybe this is just a fantasy for you and that's okay. Or maybe your wife isn't onboard with your interest in being with other couples?
I think it's very simple. For some people certs are important and for others they aren't. So it is up to you to determine who you are trying to attract with your profile - those that would be interested in reading cert and look for them? O…
You can go from Climax to Hell in MI
The OP hasn't been online since 2 days after his original question, but I'm sure others are asking themselves the same question. The answer is that you can't "convince" her and setting something up without telling her is always a bad idea.…
I prefer SKYN non-latex lubricated condoms out of the ones I have tried.
Nope not a problem at all since it still applies after 2.5 years here. I'm still curious because I haven't had any experiences with women. I'm not actively seeking them out at this point but I might in the future. I wasn't aware there was…
For a lot of women this is a big decision and it involves more than just deciding if they want to have sex with another man. She needs time to work through any concerns that arise and your patience as you support her in working through eac…
If the profile doesn't give me the information that I need to make a decision then a cert is important. A basic profile and a torso picture doesn't get my attention!
Sorry it didn't work out with this guy. I always play alone (that is the decision we made together) but the profile is very specific in stating that my hubby always knows who I am with and where I am at. I make it clear that our marriage i…
I have run into a few SM's who pay for a short term membership when they are looking for a new long term FWB situation. Once they have that established they let don't renew their membership unless the FWB connection ends. Others members ar…
Sorry for your loss Mrs F. Thanks for the reminder - I really need let someone know where to find my secret stash in the house so the kids and grandkids aren't permanently scarred! Yikes!!
@Jay - I looked at your profile and honestly I would pass because I can't get a picture of what a play date with you would be like. I do not contact men simply based on pictures. If there is no substance in their profile it is a pass for m…
By blocking couples you are eliminating the possibility of being contacted by a woman who may play solo on occasion with another couple. Married women playing with permission are a good option (possibly one you hadn't thought of) and give…
BDSM isn't just a single idea and there certainly isn't a blueprint to follow. Thankfully there is a lot to choose from in order to find what works in each unique situation. Finding someone that enjoys the same style as you do and is compa…
If you look at the profile of someone that you are interested in then chances are you will show up in their "who viewed me". So even if you don't send a message they would know you looked and that gives them an opportunity if interested to…
@ currentrider My point was (post below) that the Michigan Supreme Court upheld what has the norm for years. This is not a new decision it is simply overturning a extension from a lower court and reestablishing the existing rules. I don't…
@Oneforthebucketlist The info you are missing is that this was a decision by the Michigan supreme court to overturn a lower court's decision and return to the previous rules that had been in place for when absentee ballots were to be retur…
@currentrider In Michigan we have the option to vote by mailing in an absentee ballot, early in person voting and in person voting on election day. (Absentee ballots can be dropped off at drop boxes at the clerk's office instead of mailing…
I wish there was a way for a notification to be sent when someone replied to a thread so that the OP could come back and check as not everyone thinks to check here on every visit. As far as I could tell subscribing to a thread only tells y…
I'm concerned that any alert or warning system would be used by the same members that respond badly to "we are not a match" messages. Being labeled as a fake or a flake in retaliation for turning someone down is a very real possibility.
As a hotwife who plays exclusively with SM's I took a look at your profile. If you are interested in hotwife or cuckold couples (I noticed the keyword "reclaiming") then be direct about it. When I read your profile there were several vague…
For me if it is a first time meeting someone I consider it a "meet and greet" with a potential for play. However if it is an ongoing FWB then they are "play dates".
An overnight play date is a step that some couples are comfortable with and others are not. For me I made it clear to hubby in the beginning that I would not be having any overnight play dates as I was only interested in sleeping next to h…
You responded by saying that you weren't a good match and his response was to block you? I would be relieved in all honesty. You could have received a message filled with swearing and derogatory comments- I have had that happen in response…
After you send the message it is gone and it is up to the other person if they respond or not. I only send personalized messages to profiles that I believe will be a good match. That does not mean that they will agree. If I get a message t…
I have tried the "I don't think we are a good match" and have received responses filled with swearing and derogatory comments. I just block the ones that send nasty messages back - problem solved! If I send a message to someone I let it go…
Sorry but there is no going with the flow when there is lack of consent. Rule #1 - no touching without consent (it's also common sense)
You sent messages to 40 different couples or women in the span of 7 days? Oh my....I sincerely hope that it wasn't the exact same message each and every time. When you send messages are you indicating something about their profile that you…
They have a veto agreement in place already. She exercised her veto according to that agreement so their niece is off limits for play. If he doesn't respect her veto then he can expect her not to respect his veto if he ever feels the need…
I wasn't assuming your wife didn't know however some of the men you contacted could. They are the ones whose reactions you are questioning. I went on a play date with a man once who spoke of receiving a similar request which he turned down…
She said she didn't want to know where you found someone but did she say she didn't want any information about the man once you found a good candidate? Did she say she wanted you to set her up with no screening by her? Keep in mind there a…
Unfortunately a lot of good single men have been put in bad situations when a wife didn't know her husband was setting up a play date and would shy away from anything that sounds close to a set up. Having no contact with a wife prior to a…
Ok here's the deal about "connection". He has a fantasy in his head about the way he imagines it will be. (Lots of random strangers having sex with you) But when it comes to reality your thoughts and ideas matter too. He can't expect this…
I am a hotwife (stag/vixen style) and would be interested in chatting and answering questions but I can't send you a message since we have a couple profile and you blocked couple profiles (by showing no interest). I can also put you in tou…
The contact tracing can work. In our community there have been some recent cases that they considered "community spread". The health department interviewed each person that tested positive and published a list of the public places (dates a…
Oh yes! Reporting to the principal's office for detention- that was fun!
I took a peek at your profile and besides your tagline there is nothing in your profile that would make me think you are interested in BDSM at all. I believe you wrote you were looking for "light and easy fun".
Sure you could go to an event or you could continue to interact with men on here as you have been and progress toward meeting one of them in person in a more private setting. There are a lot of profiles for single men in the Grand Rapids a…
The honest truth is that you can't "convince" anyone to do this, it has to be their decision or it could seriously backfire. If you are interested in full swap swinging then she has to be on board for that to happen and completely comforta…
I get it, the nervous feeling and the idea that you are putting it all out there. I looked at your profile and I think you need to add some more details as it is a little skimpy right now. Are you a hotwife or cuckold couple? Are you looki…
What are you dealing with? A wife who may not be comfortable with you having sex with another woman. Each couple has to make the choices that work best for them. You may have to ask yourself if it is a dealbreaker if she is never comfortab…
If you plan to play together as a couple then you should have a couple profile. If someone is searching for couples your profile will not come up in their search.
There are plenty of couples that find themselves in this situation, where one partner becomes unable to have sex due to medical issues. The difference is that some couples have an open and honest respectful conversation and agree that the…
@Mayhem I wanted to respond to one comment you made. Michigan does in fact update daily the amount of beds available including those that are in ICU and the ventilators not in use by region. They also have a tally of available PPE.
Here are few questions that I do not think have been asked yet. If I decide once this has been fully launched and tested to use the wall, who will be able to see my public posts? Example: If my profile is not open to a group will they be a…
I'm not crazy about "the wall" but I can still see the "who viewed me" right under that section and above the newest matches section.
The most difficult things to find here are: Thermometers Cleaning wipes Chicken Rice Beans
There are plenty of ways you can take pictures without giving away your identity. Pictures contribute to a profile's authenticity. I know at least one SM that has told me he thinks SF profiles without pics are probably men so he doesn't ev…
So does that mean the "Feed" feature will only be available for those that use the app? Now, and in the future?
Rape fantasies? No thank you, I will pass on that.
I am looking for the same effort that I put into a first message. I introduce myself and highlight things about their profile that I liked. I make a point of stating why I think we would be a good potential match. Then I ask them to look a…
I am a hotwife who goes on solo play dates. I am not interested in a big romantic set up. I have a FWB that I meet on a monthly basis and we do go out for dinner but that is partway through the play date to fuel up. When we go to dinner it…
When you "pick" a man you have to be clear on what is off limits instead of waiting to see if it happens and reacting after the fact. Finding compatible play partners can be a challenge but those upfront conversations of what is on and off…
What does using the Friends feature do for us right now? (I'm not asking about future applications)
Anyone else notice the Facebook and Twitter banners on the Friends page? If that has something to do with the future update no way will I use the friends feature. I am hoping since no explanation was given, that it isn't necessary to have…
I'm not crazy about this change because I do look for men that travel to my area on a consistent basis for ongoing FWB'S. However I have no interest in one night stands so I don't see the point in looking on hot dates. I have never nor wou…
As a hotwife I took a look at your profile and it was an immediate nope for me. It looks like you are cheating and have limited availability. You describe what you want but don't really tell me much about what you have to offer me. Attract…
Each couple is different and what works for one may not work for the next. If a woman feels comfortable with her husband screening or choosing men for her and it works for both of them that is great! My husband has never screened men for m…
@warpig No I was referring to what you said about her sitting on the sidelines waiting while you had a MFM with the couple you are talking to. You and the other husband with the other wife is a MFM with your wife on the sidelines not a ful…
Her saying she is potentially open to full swap play with couples is not the same thing as being told she will have to sit and watch you during MFM play. When the two of you had MFM with a man involved you were both involved. What you just…
When the two of you first talked about this, what options did both of you agree to? If she said from the beginning that she would not be comfortable with the idea of you playing with another woman that may not change. Not everyone is a ful…
There is no such thing as "normal" as we are all a bit different. What works for one doesn't necessarily work for every woman. Your topic says she has "a harder orgasm with a big cock" but your question was about multiple orgasms when play…
I see more blocks in my future! I find this new "feature" offensive and an encouragement to picture collectors. I would never open my private pictures to anyone based on an automated request from someone I didn't know. I am not that naive.…
I just read over the original post again and it states they were in contact for about a week prior to the scheduled date and then got stood up. It all depends on what you are looking for. If you are looking for one night of fun, maybe you…
10 minutes? That is just so sad ......
This would be very helpful as I have run into a situation where a man whose profile I looked at later opened his pics for me but did not send me a message to let me know. If I had not randomly looked at his profile again I would not have k…
I ask prior to meeting if they test and when their last test was done and insist on condoms for penetration. I have no intention on even meeting with anyone that doesn't test on a regular basis and agree to condom use - it would be a waste…
Hotluvrs - I guess I just figured if someone was making it up they would have more than a four hour solo play date with a hotwife. Seriously if you are going to make up a story why stop at four hours?? Why not say it was eight or ten hours…
Oh dear.....sounds fairly typical for some hotwife/cuckold couples I know of but his apparent surprise about the way things have unfolded peg him as a newbie with this type of dynamic. I see issues in the future. On the other hand maybe he…
@TheTravelVeteran I have never put it on my profile but I have to say you were describing me in part of your post. I avoid men that describe themselves as BBC (also those that call themselves bulls). It is the attitude involved with callin…
This change from "friends online" to "friends recently online" will have me moving my conversations off this platform faster. I have read that SLS wants to be the preferred way for us to message each other. However if I can't see if someon…
Maintaining trust while exploring limits is essential. If you can't trust your dominant to keep you safe (physically, mentally and emotionally) during your time together chances are you will not be open to exploring those limits again. Sur…
@TrainerXX Not to worry, this Hotwife understands completely what hotwifing is all about even if it is a mystery to many looking in from the outside. Most couples who explore this do so when the husband initiates it. It is a very common fa…
Just heard kik might have been sold. Can anyone confirm?
Everyone has their comfort zone. For me personally if there is a play date or a first meeting set up and then I don't hear anything from the person I will think they have lost interest. I have no interest in one night stands so I am buildi…
Some people use the site seasonally or sporadically for a variety of reasons (jobs, child custody, weather conditions) or possibly they are interested in longer term FWB situations and come here when they are in between those relationships…
I personally think it is the men that you have been meeting because I definitely have not found that to be true at all. My profile says I am looking for adventure so maybe that is why I find men that like to change things up?
There are a lot of men that are turned on by watching their wife with another man and who do not have an interest in having sex with other women. Most of those couples have hotwife or cuckold type relationships (which are very different) b…
I have to make a judgment call about each and every message that I receive. I have done that and do not consider "I'll do her" a legitimate message any more than a message from a man who's info clearly do not match what is stated in my pro…
69lobo69 if I got your IM and it was a basic hello I might not answer either. You didn't give me any incentive to answer in all honesty. What am I looking for? Someone that says they noticed my profile and then proves they read it by menti…
I started out as a free member and I was unable to read any messages that were sent to me at that time. I didn't join in the beginning ready to start right away. I needed some time to look around and see if there was anyone in my area that…
I personally would pass on your profile because it was what I would consider a "me show". In other words whether you meant it to sound like that or not your profile is all about what you want to get out of the experience and not one bit ab…
If the thought of him having sex with someone else bothers you, then it bothers you. That is okay and you have to be honest with yourself and with him. This isn't the right decision for everyone and if you are having negative reactions to…
Without a picture of both of you I wouldn't consider you seriously if I decided to look for a couple to play with.
