Achieving Single Male Success
Community discussion of Achieving Single Male Success on SwingLifeStyle — visit reports, recommendations, ongoing conversations, and shared experiences from active members. Each thread reflects on-the-ground input from couples and singles in the lifestyle. New posts welcome from anyone with a verified account.
What not to do gents
Anyone who reads just the first sentence or two of our profile should know we are not in FL now. Regardless, we have just received the second message today from a guy "visiting Ve…
226replies4,173viewsWho pays?
So spoke to a couple from here. Who was quite rude. Regardless, they didn’t want to meet because I only offered to split room fare and not pay entirely. I feel as a single guy, if…
by CarsonClout26replies2,079viewsMessaging Etiquette
I am a single guy. I find an interesting profile. I check to make sure I fit the profiles parameters and send a message. There is outright rejection or some conversation back and…
by Sewyoguy2144replies3,513viewsSingle Guy Success Stories
Ladies and Couples: Tell us about your VERY BEST single guy experience! Why was it so good? What happened? Single Gentlemen: Tell us about your #1 top experience with a wife or co…
by fraunhubby689replies1,540viewsSingle male success tips
Is there anything single males should do or know to get more attraction in the lifestyle
by Mfm_miguel5replies542views4 Year Anniversary Advice For Single Gentlemen
Hey everyone! Hope all is well. It's been 4 years since my spontaneous encounter with a swinger couple from AC and a total of 3 years being in the lifestyle. So far it has been an…
11replies288viewsNot interested means?
Had a young (younger than us and younger than our prefered age range on our profile) contact us. We wrote back with this. "Thanks for writing, you are a bit too young for our pref…
by djn4rap13replies416viewssingle male and vanilla side of life
so single male here, would love to find a single female GF or partner in the lifestyle but thats probably never gonna happen.... so Im also on vanilla dating sites (bumb, hing, et…
by AandKForFun34replies1,458viewsOlder / single / limited experience equals Waste of Time?
I’m curious to see if there is anyone out there that could HONESTLY give something other than the expected response. I’m a 50 year old single (divorced) male, a little overweight…
96replies5,343viewsSaying hello
I guess I need to put this out here. It's gotten to that point. As a single male in the lifestyle since 04. It appears that starting a question with a hello or good evening is ins…
by DRKPRNCE83replies4,563viewsSingle Guy Guide to Success
As we read the fora here and see the many opinions of many tastes and proclivities, we thought it might be useful to all to start a blog about what can help a guy be successful in…
by fraunhubby68107replies5,555viewsSingle Guys At Clubs
My late wife and I used to enjoy clubs, parties, etc. Now I’m single and relocated, and want to explore some new venues. Most clubs, however, don’t allow single guys. No problem,…
by Ringo217replies1,127viewsHallpass Couples and Single Guys
Great news guys. There are plenty of incredible wives out there who want to spend time with you. But you have to put something into the friendship as well. If you do, you'll make…
by fraunhubby688replies1,072viewsNipple Piercing
Hello all! Definitely enjoy reading through all of the wonderful posts and replies in the forums here, great idea for the website! I just learned there’s a chat feature, do you us…
by SunnyGurl3replies729viewsAsking for photos
I just had my first rejection after 11/2 years on SLS so I'm excited. Someone read my message and responded. Hey, it's a start. It's rare that I can even find a profile where I'm…
by Ymichael149replies957viewsDo Not Be This Guy
So for reference all you SMs looking to find play partners, please keep in mind that first contact is important. And that a no today doesn't mean a no tomorrow. I'm paraphrasing t…
by ncwv111replies5,858viewsPopular single male clubs parties or groups
What are some popular clubs, parties or groups looking for single males? I live in the Midwest but would be happy to hear about other regions.
6replies1,164viewsTransitioning from a couple profile to single male profile
Good morning all! My play partner and I are no longer playing together these days, so revamping my profile back to single guy VS the couples page. I'm awful at writing profiles, a…
by Mrbreeze7424replies376viewsPhotos advice and suggestions
I need advice on my current photos, suggestions for taking better ones to upload, ideas on what I should wear, and what types of photos would work best—any advice would be appreci…
by aa2070064123replies460viewsSmiling face photos MIA
SM's...why do you post or send creepy photos of just your penis rather than a casual clothed or unclothed smiling photo of yourselves?
by HOPnrBED7replies563viewsWell that sucks
I finally find a new swing club near me that allows single men. It is private and you have become a member. Single men need to be vetted. Reading through the rules for men I fit i…
by Ymichael144replies415viewsSafe and respectful way to find BBC for stag vixen
We are searching for a BBC to do a stag/vixen type situation. Husband just watches type thing. We have been chatting with a few potential guys but not sure how to respectfully ask…
by Skippy81307replies1,302viewsWidower Wedding Rings
I'm 61 and single...widowed, unfortunately. My wife and I were active swingers for 20 years or so. I still wear my wedding ring all the time, even though I've been solo almost 3 y…
by Ringo2118replies1,883viewsHow do most couples feel about a fwb situation with single males?
I am just curious to get the thoughts of couples on whether they consider a longer term friendship type situation with single males of if they prefer more of a one-night stand typ…
42replies4,624viewsolder newbie and things that surprised me here
I'm Jim and new here and new to swinging. I'm 76 in a great long term marriage that has become a sexless marriage, so I am here as a single male, with wife approval. Like many peo…
by togjim7replies736viewsConsent Applies to Men Too
Forgive me if I am out of line here….. I’m a bi/bi-curious guy. It’s been a little while since I’ve been around the lifestyle. So, I placed an ad, uploaded photos (pending approva…
by BiPhilly6replies610viewsHow to best position ones self as a younger single man
As a young single guy in the lifestyle I find age is a GIANT hurtle. How have others overcome this and how best does one position themselves to be successful in this lifestyle as…
11replies946viewsSingle Guys Who Are successful with Boo and You
A huge amount of the rhetoric on here about single guys is negative. And we all know why? There are a lot of hardheads out there with no manners. But what if we flipped the script…
by fraunhubby689replies1,117viewsGood male photos
Hi, as the title says, I was wondering what people like in male photos. I wanted to experiment with taking photos of myself outside of the penis photo which had me curious about w…
12replies1,437viewsDoes anyone actually read messages from a single guy?
Couples and single women – assuming you’re open to single guys, what makes you read a message or open a profile? The screen name? The picture? The stats? The tag line? After almos…
by Ringo21298replies12,177viewsWe need a DEAD BEAT section
I love that we can leave certs. But I really wish we could have a warning system for the dead beats or pic collectors. I have had a few over the years who stood us up , no call ,…
72replies3,185viewsJust thoughts
We are usually very thick skinned, but for some reason this one is bothering me. We posted a hotdate seeking single males for new Years Eve asking if anyone didn't make plans and…
9replies572viewsAdvice for young single males
Not new to this lifestyle but also don’t have the best/most experience in the lifestyle. Anybody have any advice?
by javigmz12replies2,224viewsSingle Male Encouragement
Because I fat fingered the first post: We can't agree with Funitalian more. We really love adding single guys to our fun. We actively seek out great men to join us. It may seem co…
by fraunhubby6822replies1,587viewsA Sure Thing For Single Men To Get Laid
I don't believe in "a sure thing". You still have to put some effort into it. And in my experience it's actually more difficult to simply "get laid" in the lifestyle than it is in…
by sorillo100011replies2,193viewsAre single males actually swingers?
In another forum a single male posted about his experience in the lifestyle. He stated he had never been married and had been in the lifestyle for ten years with little to no succ…
by 2hotnwtx43replies2,668viewsHow are you today is NOT a successful opening line gents
Dear single males If your opening line is "how are you", "what are you up to", or is some sort of similar "barely minimal word question" that requires me to type a paragraph to an…
672replies28,753viewsAttending lifestyle parties and becoming known as a single male
I found out about a local lifestyle party in my area through a website. I read all the information and saw they allowed single males in. What I then did was reach out to the organ…
by Rcopeland17replies1,496viewsMy experience as a single male so far
Hello. This is what I've noticed and things I do as a single male on this site. As a single black male, I understand it's harder to get matches due to the large amount of us on he…
by Rcopeland6replies998viewsWhat should I do with this?
Profile says "Married couple who keeps to themselves we will contact you". Does that mean do not message them, they will see I viewed their profile and if interested , they will c…
by Ymichael148replies938viewsSingle male not new to the scene looking for a friend with benefits and on going in Sarasota/Tampa area and all in between
I would love to find an ongoing friend in the area! Anyone interested? My name is Erik
by Emarrero8130replies489viewsConstructive feedback on my profile
Hi all, I’d appreciate a little gentle feedback on my profile. I know being an openly bi male in the lifestyle can be detrimental but I want to be up front and honest. I ONLY emai…
by ohbiman27replies748viewsA possible path to more SM success
We normally are not looking for SMs, but most of the parties we attend these days are our own, and the Mrs has a hard time coming out of "hostess mode" so that she can play as muc…
by mayhem812replies1,615viewsSingle Guy Blues
You have 10 certs in about 3.5 years. And that's in spite of being partnered and having a potentially off-putting tagline. Dude. You're living the dream compared to a lot of solo…
8replies1,011viewsAre dating apps killing the scene?
I’ve been off and on with swinging for about 15 years or so. My ex and I of 20 years called it quits about 6 months ago, so I’m trying to get back out there but this is far more d…
by SOTS311321replies1,491viewsTesla
I am not making this up, a verbatim copy from a Hot Date post for today: " For single men please provide a Tesla rental for this week to prove ur a boss an a asset to the set of c…
by Ftp19998replies871viewsCouple opened gallery pics but no msg
Shall I take that as an invitation or sign of interest?
5replies933viewsSimp
I would like to undress to some of you single men that is getting into the lifestyle. Take it easy on yourself and don't come off as a simp because of a difficult time you having…
10replies1,468viewsIf you want to know how to get a response from a woman you should be asking women instead of other men
Speaking from experience, the best advice I have ever received about meeting women came from women. That should be a no-brainer, yet still I see men asking men. Odd, that.
by Esperanza9116replies899viewsLooking for advice from experienced black male singles in the lifestyle
Hey, hows it going?! Im a young black male, 30, looking get advice from other black males who have been in the lifestyle for awhile and who have had multiple successes. Anything y…
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