Ok, I'm pooped and I have to get up early to run tomorrow.
Just follow the DEBauCH method that I showed in my private gallery and you will be fine picture-wise. PM me if you have questions. I'm going to bed.
Just made some changes & photos waiting approval
Not sure I have much to add to the advice already given but I'll mention the things that really jump out at me to reinforce the message. Just remember it is all about your profile, not you personally.
Go find a review where Velma explains her DEBauCH system for core pictures in your public gallery and study the examples in the gallery she opened for you. Generally risque pictures are not a great way to attract other women so you'll want to add fully dressed pictures. And why are you taking selfies? Get your husband to take pictures of you (and you should take pictures of him). Have a fun photo shoot with various sexy outfits and poses! Have friends or strangers take a few pictures of the two of you together - either out for a nice dinner or having a good time together. My general photo advice is smile, watch for clutter or visual chaos in the background or avoid selfies.
Your profile text isn't well organized and there are multiple grammar issues. Copy all the text into a word processor on a computer where you can see all the text at one time. Start by deleting everything that is in your stats (age, orientation, height) or that shows in your pictures. Rearrange each of the remaining sentences into the proper section (after deciding if it is really necessary - somethings are better kept to yourself). Reread MsMolly's advice and pretend I also said it. When you're happy with your changes run a spell check and grammar check to find obvious error. Then you can copy your text back to SLS and wait for approval.
Let us know when your updated profile has been approved if you want additional advice.
Good luck and have fun!
~Phoebert's Wife
I want to finish one episode of Mindhunter before bed, so I don’t have a lot of time.
I opened a private gallery for you to show you the kinds of pictures you should have.
Follow my directions and repost new pictures.
The part about just going with the flow can basically go, because it doesn't fit here, and the part about hosting huge bonfires would be a great way to end, way down in Additional comments.
Description is mostly good, but if you didn't have that long list of things up in Looking For, it would be a little sparse. The reason I think you should keep the current structure is that there's something about the headlong nature of that list that a lot of people are going to find charming right where it is. You can leave out the parts about being tall and HWP, because those things are better handled with stats and photos.
In Fantasies, the part about being open to soft swap, etc., actually belongs in Looking For, which is about who and what you're looking for. You can still mention couples, but more in the vein of fantasy than in mechanics, which is what you have here now. ;-)
So, now we come to Additional comments, which I hate. I'd apologize, but I'm not sorry. You sound so charming and fun in the other three sections and then, whelp, yeah, no, I'm closing the profile, because there's clearly a large, negative part of you that has just come out. I totally get that it's tough to get over a raft of less than optimal interactions - people contact you, things go great, and then they vanish, either before or after setting up a meeting, there are endless messages (not emails or birdies anymore, either), and nada - but that's kind of the nature of the beast. You'd really be better off going to clubs, parties and meet and greets, where the proportion of people serious about their hedonism is much higher, than on line, which is very short on solo women and very overpopulated with people who are just fantasizing about something they'd never do.
Figure out a way to be positive about what you want - we love meeting new people, so if there's a chance we'll click, let's have a drink together! - and avoid telling people what to do. Like, honesty is great, but some of this is your inner irritation and it's not all that attractive if your aim is to connect with others.
I think that's all I have at the moment, except a suggestion to collect opinions, make changes and then come back for a review. Good luck!
Hi. Yes, you should definitely have photos of both of you, preferably together and looking like you're in love. And it's better if others take those photos. Velma might show up and give you her advice, which is far more detailed than I would ever be, but as someone who plays alone with couples, women aren't bait for me. A solid relationship is. So, that's what I am looking for in photos and in profiles.
So, just to clarify, the opinions you find here are generally blunt and may even feel mean, but they're actually meant to help you tweak your profile enough to better find what you're looking for. In other words, some of what I'm going to say will probably sound harsh, but it's about your profile, not about you, and designed to help you find the people you're looking for.
First advice is to open up your laptop and run everything you have through a good spelling and grammar check program. You have a lot of avoidable typos, plus some weird wording, which tells me you probably did this on your phone.
Second is that if you're not looking for solo men, change your toggles to reflect no interest in them. Then you can remove the part about your husband being all you need, which will currently be keeping any single men and couples who can read away from you.
Third, "unicorn" is a pretty loaded term. The general rule is that if you meet a woman who refers to herself as a one, you should run far and fast in the other direction.
As far as the specifics in your profile, in Looking For, you needn't repeat that you are bi and he is straight. It's in your toggles and that's enough. The rest of it is a bit like word salad and it fails to focus on the people you're looking for. This section isn't really about you, it's about those other potential people out there that you would click with.
I'd suggest starting with looking for couples and women for all those activities you are looking for companionship for and then following it up with the part about wanting a relationship with a single woman. Although I would suggest that you might have more luck if you were also open to partnered women playing with permission. She might or might not have more time than a single woman, but there's less potential for drama with happily married folks.
So you are saying I should make a photo of my husband available as well, then! We thought of doing that , just havent! Thank you!
Without a picture of both of you I wouldn't consider you seriously if I decided to look for a couple to play with.
We have met so many fakes and no shows we tried to implement that into the profile so time is not wasted. Any word of advice changes ads deletes. Thank you
