Voice Play

Voice and story can be an excellent part of kinky play. In the moth of someone skilled, words can be used to seduce, to set a scene, to clarify a narrative for roleplay, to drive the energy higher.
Whispering in you partner's ear what you want to do with/to them when you're alone,
drawing attention to noticeable signs of arousal, teasing "you want me so bad, don't you?"
For some, being degraded or objectified is best done through words, for others, claiming ownership/being claimed is the turn on.
For best effect, I think voice play also needs to be highly personalized: there can be a world of difference in meaning between "slut" and "my slut."

@num1scamp - My kind of Voice Play is extremely dirty. Silence can be a nice effect, especially in the way you describe, but for intimacy, there's nothing like connecting with the mind directly by suggesting a narrative between us that fits the moment. For example, if you resist or hesitate, even for a moment, that's where the focus will shift. It's about my matching your responses with words and energy designed to bring you into line, so that you respond the way I want you to respond. Highly sapiosexual.

Does that help? Voice Play cannot function as a rote, external influence; it must be felt to be effective.

I love chatting with men about my bride of 32 years. I love hearing what they will do on their first date. I love hearing how often they wife get together. I love hearing how they will cuckold me.

Voice play has it's place. I personally really enjoy being talked dirty to. Also not being spoken to at all can be effective as well. I've experienced being used fully sexually while being blindfolded and not spoken to at all. Not knowing who is in you, touching you, yet eliciting your sexual responses I've found to be very erotic as well. Just submitting to the moment and enjoying it. Giving yourself totally to the moment.

Yes, indeed, those are real questions.

Hollyblue, I appreciate the reply. I'm unsure how to respond, because I can't tell if you're trying to pick a fight or if your question is sincere. I believe that a sub's pleasure is more suitable to a submissive response than any form of beating. I don't know where we got the contemporary idea that punishment is the core of BDSM or that demonstrations thereof are THE practice of the lifestyle. Dominance, as I've understood it for many decades, is more about forcing a response of some form than it is any adherence to a set of rules that makes one acceptable within a group setting. I like that response to be sexual.

Voice Play is a PART of my scenes, perhaps even the most important part, but that doesn't mean that any other aspect of the lifestyle disappears. In order for the play to be successful, there must be a threat of punishment throughout, because it sets the correct mood for the narrative, which, for me, generally means it's extemporaneous. The "script" is just a loose outline. I have a St. Andrews cross in my apartment, and I assure you that it doesn't sit there as a decoration.

I wanted to begin the discussion in order to discover others of my ilk, so that we could swap stories. Perhaps this wasn't the right forum, and if that's the case, I'm sorry if I offended anybody.

BDSM isn't just a single idea and there certainly isn't a blueprint to follow.

Thankfully there is a lot to choose from in order to find what works in each unique situation.

Finding someone that enjoys the same style as you do and is compatible is always key.

It reads like a fantasy rather than a discussion starter. Probably what makes it sound like fantasy is that you're going straight for the genitalia and focusing on yourself in the story. The majority of bdsm play isn't about the end zone or home plate in old school terms. Many might even find that distracting. If a dom is using a story for a scene how are they working commands into the story? How are they withholding rewards? How are they being punished? How does all this work with the story?

Thanks, HollyBlue, but this isn't intended to be a story. It's a discussion topic, at least I thought it was.

There is a sex stories section for this sort of thing. You're missing some punishment/ reward dynamics in your story to make it work well in the bdsm section.

Greetings Sex Enthusiasts,

A darkened room where she is alone and naked on my massage table, hands bound and at my mercy. While my right hand is touching her pussy, my lips are near her ear, and I'm talking to her, telling her a story that she can visualize while being tormented. The story ebbs and flows with her response to my touch, and in that way, she is guiding the level of her own arousal. She flows with my imagination and soon cannot separate reality from what's echoing in her head. She cannot resist, because she hopes/knows the story will end with her being completely spent.

When she gives me her orgasms, she is submitted to me completely, for there is no more intimate interaction between humans. She cannot help herself, for her mind is under the control of my voice and my ability to take her where she needs to go in order to find total release. It is a remarkable experience to be with someone who can fly with me.

Brute force has its place in the BDSM lifestyle, but it's my experience that the best form of domination is in the mind. And, it is profoundly arousing for her husband to be present, for being watched is an added turn-on for the helpless narrative that's controlling her.

The brain. The mind. It's where all of those wonderful nerve endings meet, and the home of arousal.

Try it sometime, hopefully with someone who knows what they're doing.