When is a No-Response a Response

definitely would be a no from me too. sounds like a husband (or wife) just looking at pics

After you send the message it is gone and it is up to the other person if they respond or not.

I only send personalized messages to profiles that I believe will be a good match. That does not mean that they will agree.

If I get a message that ignores my basic requirements for a good match then I don't understand why they contacted me in the first place.

If they don't respond then maybe they are just busy or not interested . Don't let that be an issue. Just move on. If they are interested they will let you know. It may take days or even weeks for them to respond, who knows . Just do what you need to connect with someone else.

TBR, totally true!

Wayne, glad you saw the flip side of the situation and realized that some people shouldn't have to anser every single "hi" "I wanna fuck you" "you look hot, wanna suck my cock" "hey" "hi" "hello"

And that some simply dont have the time to waste with all of the BS.

And that is why, before I make any rules at my job, I ask the people doing the work...

<p>"<span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:open sans,sans-serif; font-size:14px">To Wayne, the OP. I&rsquo;m wondering, did your wife ever catch up on returning the plethora of messages she received after joining in on the Zoom SLS meet and greet you had a while ago?"</span></p>

<p>I'm glad you brought that up. No, she did not catch up and here is the story: At the start of the pandemic, SLS created the virtual social chat-room (tied in with SLS Radio) and The Wall feature to try to give people options to continue to use the site during the pandemic, when they couldn't or did not want to meet in person. My wife created a profile on here for herself so she could participate in the virtual social chat-room.</p>

<p>I had always been in the "You should respond to all messages camp" and would occasionally flag profiles that were chronic non-responders. That was only done when there were other complaints filed against the profile. </p>

<p>Back to my wife's single profile. About a day after she created it, she logged in and had over 100 new messages. She was showing me all these messages and I commented to her that she had her work cut out for her. She said, "Why is that?". "Because you have to answer all those messages. That is site policy", I said. She looked at me and said, "Who the fuck came up with that stupid rule!? I can't answer all these messages! Look at all these that just say, "Hello" and this guy just tells me: "I wanna eat that little pussy up!""</p>

<p>I was like, "Er, um, nevermind. You do not need to answer all of those."</p>

<p>So that is when I realized that some people, especially single female profiles, get absolutely flooded with messages and cannot answer every single one. I'm no longer in the "Respond to all messages camp."</p>

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SwingSoon- I think you’re doing the right thing as a wise woman once said,

“Giving up and conceding defeat is the best path to success” - Harriet Tubman

To Wayne, the OP. I’m wondering, did your wife ever catch up on returning the plethora of messages she received after joining in on the Zoom SLS meet and greet you had a while ago?

~rabbit~

Phoeberts wife - very good points I will look to be more detailed when I decide to come back.

I'm actually Phoebert's Wife.

If you water things down and make your profile vague it isn't going to be appealing or enticing. Saying you're athletic isn't nearly as interesting as saying you've played golf in every state or that you play rugby every weekend.

You will not match 100% of the people 100% of the time and that is okay.

~Allen

You are a very kind gentlemen Phoebert. I believe you did state it was clever what I did, but others didn’t like the fact I said I was athletic, which I am, and the golf picture didn’t show it. So I removed it.

My issue with putting hobbies down is it can kill you from the get go. If I put down I like baseball, which I do, many people don’t like it down here. So it will be a turn off. I need to keep them vague.

You are a very kind gentlemen Phoebert. I believe you did state it was clever what I did, but others didn’t like the fact I said I was athletic, which I am, and the golf picture didn’t show it. So I removed it.

My issue with putting hobbies down is it can kill you from the get go. If I put down I like baseball, which I do, many people don’t like it down here. So it will be a turn off. I need to keep them vague.

Actually two of us said that a golfing picture combined with your profile name was actually a good idea - but the particular picture you used wasn't so good. I can't remember if you profile mentions golf or not.

Mentioning a handful of your interests show that you are a well rounded individual. Focusing your profile and messages mostly on sex paints you as somewhat one-dimensional. Most of us are not so shallow that one interest among many will cause us to say "hell no" - unless maybe you're a Dallas Cowboy fan. ;-) I'm am much more likely to respond to someone that thinks our RV trip sounds like fun than someone that immediately wants to know when we can meet.

It’s not the fact of talking to someone , it is the principle of replying back.

How hard is it to say no - not interested and then block the person rather then just leaving someone hanging.

It’s not the fact of talking to someone , it is the principle of replying back.

How hard is it to say no - not interested and then block the person rather then just leaving someone hanging.

Why are ppl so hung up on not getting ppl to talk with them?

This is not kindergarten.

One of the ladies on this site explicitly said I don’t look athletic and I didn’t look good swinging a golf club. So if she felt that way I assume others did. Trust me I am very athletic.

I'm not sure where tou got that from. When i was single, i got a lot of messages from singles/couples and that was never a deterrent.

Not knowing anything about them was, though.

I used to have a picture of myself golfing but people said they didn’t like it so I took it down. I prefer not to put hobbies down cause if I put one thing down they don’t like you will get passed on.

It come across canned and your profile is a bit lacking.
It just pertains to sex, honestly a bit over sexed. Everyone is for the sex. You mention in your message you have golf in common. Nowhere is golf mentioned in your profile.

Or any other hobby or interest. You're also new with a very new profile but say you're not the "typical sls single male" uhm, how would you know this if you're new to the scene? If you're not new to the scene, but to this website, you should say that.

I don’t send any vulgar emails , short blunt emails or share xxx rated pics. Rate this email for me cause it gets no responses.
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Hello - I hope you are doing well! What a beautiful day out today. After reading your profile it appears we have a lot in common in particular golf. Love all the pics. After you had a chance to see my profile let me know what you think.

Thanks!

"What part of not interested is so fucking difficult. And then people wonder why people don't respond all the time."

It's crazy sometimes! Do they think if they can annoy you into changing your mind?

"But I thought we were a total match!" "You don't know what you're missing." "I wasn't really interested anyway. Your wife is probably ugly. I was going to do you a favor"

All reasons why we don't always respond.

I agree with goodgolly.
Last night i get a guy calling me. 3x. I tell him I don't do calls or anything.
How about video? Are you the wife? Nude pics? You dont want to be turned on?
What turns you on
Have you been to TJ's or the korral?"
(Not interested x3 replies)
"You should go back to California and find a woman with a strap on"

"Do you own a strap on?" Like dude, what the fuck? What part of not interested is so fucking difficult. And then people wonder why people don't respond all the time. You never the level of crazy on the other end if you don't want to engage.

People who say hi to you on the street are acknowledging your existence and moving on. They want nothing from you, instead they're giving you something.

That is not what happens here any more than it happens when some guy sidles up behind you in a bar and says hi.

Here's some guy's output over an entire month:

Hi.

Hey there.

How are you.

Here's last night's literary gem from some other guy:

Hey sexy.

From my profile: I can talk to anyone about pretty much anything, but if you IM me with a Hi, I probably won't respond.

Because that shit above? That's not a cheerful acknowledgment of my existence asking for nothing. Instead, it's just a catcall and I can't be bothered.