A new feature .see who opened pics for you.

I understand what you're saying but there's nothing stopping you from putting those same well crafted words into an IM.

Tha Absolutely Best new feature would be Email service. The best way to find a potential match is a well crafted email and then a well crafted reply.

I will agree that the flirt to hit ratio is small, but so is the contact to hit ratio online. If it's a couple that looks nice and sounds fun flirted with us, an email to that couple (even brief) typically yields way better results than the, "Oh, they are nice and look like a match. Let me send them a well crafted email." approach.

Most flirts are easily dismissed because they are SMs or too far away. We are also not really inundated with them either, like some. I'm sure some would like the ability to disable them (on that other site), which would give the best of both worlds.

At this point, we are at the age range of many (55 is a big cut-off point). We KNOW from LS parties that many have no problem playing with us and when we check their profile, find we are outside of their listed range. I generally will NOT reach out to people where we fall outside of their age preference, but if after checking us both out a little better THEY decide there's interest, they can decide to reach out or not.

FWIW - Seeing that someone opened your pics then didn't reach out means nothing, so not really a useful feature. At a minimum, they have seen your thumbnails if they viewed your profile.

Mayhem, FWIW, we did entertain flirts years ago and learned some things along the way as well that will be evident below..

On another site: (1) 20 flirts (YAY!) in the past 30 days, resulting in:

(2) one message and (3) it was the male half writing about liking our female’s pictures.

(4) We’re not reaching out to 19 other “interested” people base on a click of the flirt button in (5) hopes that it was both agreeing to send a flirt (6) without conviction to send a note along with it.

Have we missed out on a good time? Probably.

Are we playing those time wasting odds in hopes to find a click? No.

OT: The same will be with opened picture notifications. Most women of couple’s we know and have met don’t even mess with anything on this site and let the males do everything and just let them know.

~Allen

Half the battle in finding people is finding ones interested in you. The other half is if you are interested in them. Most times this is through a well crafted message/email, but I don't disregard more subtle hints (like flirts or opening pics) from couples that look and sound fun, because we have had it lead to meeting some nice people and fun times. I assume there are others like me, but at least for the ones posting here, seems it's a well crafted message or nothing at all.

We wouldn't be a fan of this feature. If you can't get up the nerve to say hi and write a few coherent sentences you're not for us.

A flirt feature is a total waste. We get them daily on another site and not a fucking thing comes from them except wasted data bandwidth.

Send a message.

~Allen

mayhem8 in answer to your question if you are interested send a message even if it is one that you are interested but are not going to be free to meet up for weeks. It is better than some guessing game where you look at 'Who Viewed Me", have to visit every profile, and then guess based on someone opening pictures. We all understand life comes first and play second. No one is available 24/7/365 and it is expected that it may take a few weeks for schedules to match up.

Another popular site has a "Flirt" feature. SLS does not. Some like it, some do not.

If someone views your profile and doesn't reach out, you really aren't sure if there's interest or not, where a Flirt shows interest. I will reach out when I get one of these if the person is close enough to actually meet. If not, I will just flirt back if they look/sound nice.

I have done this at times. Sometimes it was due to being in a hurry but usually because commitments have us tied up for the next 3 or 4 weeks. It's certainly not because I'm shy ;-)

So would people prefer engaging and if theres mutual interest in meeting hear, "How about Sunday afternoon 3 weeks from now?"

...or just no response at all?

The thought is if I did reach out knowing we couldn't meet for 3 - 4 weeks, many may wonder why I bothered reaching out at all. Kind if a damned if you do or don't.

Excalibur is right. Lots of swingers are resorting to this method. We see tons of randomly open photos, some after a profile view, others are from God known when.

Swingers are lazy. They want the other party to do all the work. So I guess you are supposed to figure out who viewed you, visit their profiles, and go see if their photos are open. All because they don't feel like writing a message (almost said email), or too shy to initiate contact. This new feature suggestion would further enable this strange new behavior, and I would vote against it.

New feature....LOL. We would be happy with old features actually working.

@Excalibur2012: +1

If we approach and offer a bottle of water, we are prepared to be decline and thus move along, but at least we approached.

~Allen

@RusticMagic, uh. Yeah. Often.

See, a lot of people (at least in our area) have taken to opening their pictures as a signal they are interested in you (had another one today). They don’t message you, they just usually have something written up in their profile about it.

It’s. Completely. Ridiculous. Are we in middle school?!?! If you’re interested in me/us, say so and tell me. None of these games. We are adults, let’s act like it.

So I would say a big fat no to this suggestion. It only furthers to enable these people.

And I understand that people are shy. But you’re sending a message on the internet. If you can’t put in the time or effort, how are you going be in bed?

What sucks is that even if I would be interested in them, I do not waste my time with those who cannot bother to send a message. It’s a bummer.

Am I /we missing out on something? Are random people just opening their pictures and not contacting us first or when they do? I can see how this might be helpful if you were talking with someone and expecting them to open pictures especially if you needed to show a spouse however I would hope it would get mentioned in conversation.

excellent idea

This would be very helpful as I have run into a situation where a man whose profile I looked at later opened his pics for me but did not send me a message to let me know. If I had not randomly looked at his profile again I would not have known.
I then felt comfortable sending him an IM.

I agree

Similar to the feature that shows who you opened your photos for, ....show who has opened their photos for you. I’d love to be able to see that at a glance!