Age Range

K and K, very true- we tend to keep it 12 years +/- from our current ages. We feel that's fair. We don't want to sleep with people near our children's ages...or our parents ages. ??

Ajax, all very true and sad. One thing though, make sure your age in your own age range or you won’t be able to go fuck yourself. LOL

Ah! You know, I realize I totally misread the OP where they just don't want to see page after page of 'your age does not meet this profiles requirements'- I really thought they were asking to be included in results for couples who exclude by age. I apologize, that was totally a failure on my part.

That said, SLS doesn't care about it's users. This site is so antiquated and not user-friendly - for instance, we have blocked a profile for stalking - but still see their constant posting of hot dates.
Or how the app makes it so the button to respond 'yes' to see nude images is in the same exact location as 'send pics request'. Or how annoyingly difficult it is to select locations for hot dates. Etc.

SLS does not care about you or your swinging experience! They just take your money and tell you to go fuck yourself.

Ajax28, that’s a pretty rough way to look at this. Let me show you a different but extremely accurate way to look at this. The powers that be here give more credence to age range than they do blocking someone. Let me explain...if you post a hot date with an age range, those outside the range you set, cannot see the hot date at all. Now that very same hot date CAN BE SEEN by someone you have blocked. They can’t click on it, but they can still see the hot date and the details. A major security and safety flaw with this site that they have been aware of countless times.

If you look at the profile of someone that you are interested in then chances are you will show up in their "who viewed me". So even if you don't send a message they would know you looked and that gives them an opportunity if interested to check out your profile and contact you if interested.

I do have age range limitations listed and have been contacted in the past by someone outside that range (both directions). I politely turned them down and said we were not a match.

Excuuuuuuse me?!? At no time did I "...think the whole site should be changed so that people can bend their established parameters so you're included more often?'!! "How amazingly entitled and self-centered of you... "?!?? I am entitled and self-centered for asking whether it would involve a large effort to enact a small change to the search filters??? Well pardon me all to hell for having the brass to ask a simple question and hope for a simple response. A "we considered it and decided that it would not be something that we'd want to do" would have been more than adequate. Getting flamed for asking a question is not an appropriate response in this or any other forum and certainly doesn't encourage anyone else to ask questions.

We recently returned to the site after an extended absence. We used to be, a long time ago, Lifetime/Charter members and now I'm forcefully reminded of why we left the site and abandoned our lifetime membership.

End of discussion. Have a nice day.

I feel like this is pretty easy to understand:

Profiles and hot dates which leave their 'desired age range' at the default "18-99" are either open to all ages.

Profiles and hot dates which specify otherwise specifically took the time to exclude ages above and/or below a certain range, and as you stated, they have their reasons for that.

???? I don't know why you think the whole site should be changed so that people can bend their established parameters so you're included more often?

This is like a straight person wishing a decidedly gay person would change their profile to 'bisexual' so that the bisexual person 'gets a chance'. To what? Pester the gay person to consider being straight?

How amazingly entitled and self-centered of you...

And depends on the circumstances. A couple who posts a last minute hot date may need to be more flexible with age and often are. This is why the age filter on the hot date section is plain stupid. We use ours as a guideline the only and look at couples on a case by case basis. We have found that some couples are more hung up about it, but they tend to belong to the "hook up" pile on SLS, not the genuine lifestyle one

We have found that often couples will be open to outside of age ranges depending on the couple who is contacting them. We work hard at staying fit and when we contact a outside of their range couple we will usually let them know we realize we are but found them to be attractive and their profile interesting. After that it is up to them.

I'm sure that this has been raised before but I couldn't find it in the threads. For their own reasons, many users have expressed their desire for a certain age range. We try to respect their wishes and will not contact or message someone if we're outside of their expressed range of interest. To do otherwise would be rude and inconsiderate. However, we have no way of knowing whether that range is hard-and-fast, moderately flexible, or simply a slight preference. As it stands now, couples that we might be very interested in will never know of our interest. Further, when we do a 'search' for interesting couples, the system presents us with dozens of profiles all saying that we're outside of their range of interest. This isn't very productive and directly impacts the utility of the 'search' function. How difficult would it be to include in the search filters something that would exclude from the results any profiles which have no interest in someone of our 'advanced years'? We don't care at all about ages (aside from being legal), but it does matter to some people.