We are somewhat new to Hot Wife. She has been a swinger for over 25 years, me only in my dreams. We have been together for two years, i a widower she a divorcee. She has worn an anklet for years. I have long been into submissive. Pillow talk led to Hot Wife/cuckold. We made an verbal contract. She sleeps with whoever she wants, in front of me and with whatever play she desires. I, in the hand can only be with another women she approves of. I very much enjoy watching and thrive on humiliation. Everything is fully discussed. I find her lovers and she approves or not before bedroom.
She has 4 lovers, different in every way, my participation is always in the room, sometimes on the bed, and sometimes not. Some of her lovers are bi some not. In all cases I clean her and some times them as well. I never know my role till show time. She has a hall pass as well. Sex is always hot.
Setting up the wife
She said she didn't want to know where you found someone but did she say she didn't want any information about the man once you found a good candidate? Did she say she wanted you to set her up with no screening by her?
Keep in mind there are a lot of men that will not meet with a potential hotwife who is not aware why she is meeting him. There have been men who have been put in uncomfortable situations with women screaming at their husbands when they find out that they aren't meeting a "friend" but some guy he wants her to have sex with.
In all honesty, if anyone went behind my back and tried to set me up I would leave. Consent is everything to me.
I am a hotwife and it isn't an easy transition to make. Ask her for her input to make sure she is comfortable. There is a big difference between fantasy and reality. Only she will know when she is ready.
Mrs. Musical has been a Hotwife for several years. Race plays no part in being a Hotwife, btw. We started out with role-play; just pretending there was another guy in the room, in the dark (represented by a realistic vibrator.) It was an MFM role-play. She loved it. Next, I set up another role-play, in which we went to a dance club in separate cars, and pretended we didn't know each other. I told her she could pretend to be a single girl, and dance with anyone who asked her, if she liked. There were 3 different guys who asked her. I was just another single guy hitting on her. That really turned her on, and even though she went home with me, she felt like I was a stranger. Finally, I asked her if she'd like to try it for real, and she agreed. "As long as you're there, too" she said. We had our first real MFM a few months later. Now, she will occasionally meet men on her own, and bring home to me some wonderful stories and pictures.
No access to their profile is necessary, for the question being asked, it isn't a profile review.
"If she is truly interested in this fantasy, maybe she can start out slow. Just lunch with some flirting that ends with a kiss. Next time maybe he slips a hand up her dress while saying goodnight. See how she feels about it. Start with some pretty tame touching then go from there. If she likes it, she can take it further. Let her be in control."
Since the OP hasn't been on in 5 days, maybe it isn't too late for them to revisit this thread, so if they do..........
OP: We played with others (cpl, sm.sf) for years before dabbling into the hotwife territory. The above advice in quotes from Cacpl won't steer you wrong, as this is exactly how we dabbled into it before finding she wasn't into playing without me and preferred I be present and participate in the least. Her pace.
Good luck to you and anyone searching for their answer.
~Allen
Butterfly’s, since you’ve blocked your profile from couples, it’s difficult to see if you are real and serious. For that, you get no response here.
Cacpl_26 again we agree. I never said sex. Let her take it at her own pace.
"the committing to sex with someone else is difficult for her"
If this is difficult for her then she isn't on board with the fantasy. The thought of it may turn her on but it the reality of it all may not. Women have to be 100% positive that this is what they want to do and that they doing it for the right reasons, not just because their husband want it.
If she is truly interested in this fantasy, maybe she can start out slow. Just lunch with some flirting that ends with a kiss. Next time maybe he slips a hand up her dress while saying goodnight. See how she feels about it. Start with some pretty tame touching then go from there. If she likes it, she can take it further. Let her be in control.
Scamp- thanks for the thoughts. She is aware that I’m searching for someone on the net but did not want to know how I found him. Plausible deniability I’M sure. I didn’t want my post to be too long so I left out a part of story where I mention this scenario. She agreed to me finding someone. No, she is not included in the details of searching, I think the mystery is part of the allure for her. If it feels more like a spontaneous occurrence than it will be easier for her to entertain/buy into it.
We have both discussed it, she shares the fantasy and It will only go as far as she would like. I will also add that I have entertained some of her prospective buyers by taking them out on the golf course. This could work out well if during the “scenario” she asks me to give him a tour of the course. That could turn into drinks after the round back at the house followed by sitting out on the deck and a glass of wine by the fire.
The leap from fantasy to reality is one that needs to be made together.
Let’s start with a few questions.
Does she know about your profile here?
You say she enjoys the fantasy but has she said she is ready to go through with it?
Have you explained that you are excited for her to do this and does she understand that part?
If not, these are the conversations that need to happen before you start looking for a guy to fulfill this fantasy because right now, it sounds like this is YOUR fantasy and you are just hoping she will go along.
That isn't fair to her or to the guy who you expect to spend hours playing a role with a 99% probability of things going badly.
Don’t get me wrong, this is a hot fantasy and one that many of us have played out, but only after long conversations and 100% commitment from both parties that this is something you BOTH want.
~Scamp
My wife and I have been playing with the idea of her becoming a Hotwife. She wears an anklet occasionally, dresses sexier and goes dancing, watches interracial porn and we tease with dirty talk. She’s extremely conservative and very Christian, the committing to sex with someone else is difficult for her which I respect and appreciate. However, a year ago a good looking younger black guy at the gym flirted with her. She’s a very good looking 60yo. She came home flushed and told me about it. That evening, in the middle of the night she woke from a dream, wet, horny and said “fuck me”! So to the fantasy, she’s a realtor in a large community. Lots of new homes are being built. We live in and have an office in the same community. I would entertain facilitating a scenario where Mr Right could meet her at the office and ride around with her for a few hours looking at houses in the neighborhood and touring the facilities. I envision Mr Right to be be a good looking black male in his mid thirties, clean cut, educated and fit. if this person is charming, well groomed, smells good, confident, and can play the role he could let her know that he is staying at a hotel nearby and they could meet at the hotel bar for a drink and review some of the options. I’m happy to pick up the expenses and participate in the scenario. Has anybody tried something like this and what are your thoughts?