My husband very much enjoys watching me in action. He's perfectly content just watching because he's visually engaged (biologically the majority of men are turned on visually). Me? I have a short attention span and get bored easily if I'm not actively engaged in some sort of play. I tend to wander away for snacks or water lol . . .
Exactly MC exactly !
We both get equally turned on watching each other with respective play partners. It's one of the reasons we enjoy same room play. There have been times when we've stopped playing for a minute or two to just watch the other in action. It's so hot.
OP - you answered your own question.
For some men it is a turn on that their wife has sex with other men.
For some women it would not be a turn on if their husband had sex with other women.
The key word is "some".
When women aren't turned on by the thought it is dismissed as jealousy or insecurities instead of the fact that it just doesn't turn them on.
We don't all have the same kinks and turn on after all.
Re: Mayhem, When it comes to cock, You can't have just one..
I'm divorced but you can call me a hot ex-husband
I think it happens but in my honest opinion a "Hot Husband" would be competing with all the single men so there is that. Then we get into the whole mindset that all married men swinging alone are cheaters. It is somehow more acceptable for a Hot Wife to do her thing than a Hot Husband. Now this is based on a legitimate concern we also have it because we have experienced it. Just recently we were contacted by a guy whose profile pretty much was the definition of a "Hot Husband" with a wife that plays occasionally as well. When we went further and said we would need to meet his wife to make sure she is okay with it not to try and get her to play but that she was okay with her husband doing so alone we got ghosted. Yeah we figure she does not know but he is making it look like she does to avoid the "mistake" one guy made by telling us he was single then later we found out he was married. They actually do the "Hot Husband" thing when she is out of town with work but he presents as single even though they do swing when she is in town.
Last weekend, we went to a party. 3 nice couples on the bed, made room for us to join them. After playing with 2 of the couples my wife decided to take a break and watch, as I took turns with both of the ladies. She did suck some cock, and eat some pussy while she was watching. Does that make me a "Hot Hubby"?
I don't think so.
An hour later, I was talking to a couple, and next thing you know the lady is on the couch with my face buried in her pussy. One thing leads to another and I am fucking her on the floor. I open my eyes and there is my wife sitting by us. I ask, when did you get here? About 10 minutes ago, but you were really into what you are doing. So, I figured I'd just watch you make her cum over and over again. Keep fucking her, I'll just watch.
Does that make me a "Hot Hubby".
I don't think so. I just have a great wife. It was an off night for her. Only 1strange cock in her pussy that night. Although, she did have 3 new cocks in her mouth.
Tri - We have seen cases of that too. Perhaps the guy is so grateful that they are in the LS is any form that they don't care. I have seen cases where the guy supposedly has no interest in playing with anyone else, but more cases where the guy wanted to play but his wife/GF was jealous and couldn't handle it.
The worst part is when you're with a newbie couple and this crops up. It's rare, but it has happened to us. The irony is that when it did, the woman was like this because she was afraid of losing her guy, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
There is we just dont talk about it in forum stories...we even have done sleep overs alone for ones birthday or special occasion.. we have been doing this way past 30 years.. and it works !
We call them "FWB or fuck buddies"!
Jealousy and insecurity. My husband could be a hot husband all he wants and I would not care. But from my discussions with women in the lifestyle there is a lot of insecurity in the female population and they're just not comfortable with it. It's crazy the number of couples I know where it is perfectly fine for her to sleep with whoever she wants and he sleeps with no one outside of her. I find that insane. No way would I be ok with getting a little something something for myself if he wasn't able to have equal opportunity.
Tallmark - "Because women get jealous if they see women flocking to their better than average looking hubby."
Well, there's one thing I won't need to worry about ;-)
Because women get jealous if they see women flocking to their better than average looking hubby..
What mayhem said. Basically, it's not transgressive. Short stories often rely on a kind of shared view of the world and jump right to the story itself, relying upon that shared view to provide context. We don't have a shared view that guys stepping out with women, leaving their wives at home, is in some way unusual, so to create that you'd need better, more imaginative writing than most people writing what amounts to fanfic sex can aspire to.
Probably because so many guys will already fuck anything that isn't nailed down, and some things that are ;-)
Seriously, the hot wife thing is usually the male half gets pleasure seeing the female half have fun, and the female half is very willing to have fun, both to please herself and her husdband/BF.
My Mrs very much enjoys seeing me have fun with other women as well, so I guess that makes me a Hot Husband, even though I'd never refer to myself that way.
We just finished reading another hot wife sex story. . . For some men, having a hot wife is a turn on.
But why aren’t there as many hothusbands?
