Single male asking ladies

It all depends, often asking is one thing, but if somebody sets their preferences to what they want in sex or a relationship, you must respect them on it. I tire of people rejecting me for just be bisexual, but things like I do not get in the way and move on. As long as they base it on the rejection of preference and not on my own faults, will I dwell on it a bit at all.

Blaming others for their own wants and desires is a self-issue. Also, I would suggest that you may wish to state what you want and put it out there to better get people to notice you.

It's really no different than men that aren't looking for relationships.

I met with one widower and he told me he had no interest in another relationship but he missed the regular sex. Completely understandable.

A woman on a vanilla dating site is more apt to run into men looking for commitment. If they have no interest then this is a good solution for them.

Why are you seeking a relationship on a swinger site? I think, perhaps, what you are missing is what swinging is, in general, for most people who swing.

I willing to bet he will be back.

100’s of rejections I would agree with you. It’s a joke.

I will say that this is not the lifestyle for you if you’re a snowflake who can’t handle rejection.

It’s the final countdown...May 17 I am done with this shit.

OH, If you had asked early on about the secret handshake, you could have avoided 3 profiles worth of failure and disappointment.

BT

If you don’t like being a doormat this is not the place to be. Women rule this lifestyle. It is also the weirdest lifestyle one can get into. The restrictions and requirements are out of this world.

Im single in the same boat dating sites are generally for vanilla women but 50 percent of women are bi at least but i get tired of going through the dating process to find they are strait so why not look here

Just my humble opinion, but if a woman wants to settle down in a relationship, SLS is probably not the place she’s going to be looking for Mr. Right to sweep her off her feet. There are tons of other dating platforms for that stuff.

—from a woman who is already married, for what it’s worth.

@BT-we recently had a SW reach out to us. Her husband passed away a couple years ago and she is enjoying the freedom this lifestyle allows. She has no interest of "partnering" up. Definitely not looking for a partner.

Big, while I’ll agree with what R&K have shared, I’ll also add that a number of women I’ve met have come out of controlling, one sided relationships and marriages, or lost the loves of their lives because of an accident, sickness, or simply old age, and now, really just want to laugh and enjoy some a la carte intimacy, and sexual release. Maybe, in their eyes, they consider this to be the best of both worlds?

BT

Not complaining. Just trying to understand the logic. Get some insight that’s all

What you're missing is that there are all kinds of people on here with all kinds of different wants. If a SW says I don't want a relationship - she doesn't want a relationship! Just move on instead of complain about it. Women don't tend to like complainers. There are other SW women on here who are looking for some fun and a relationship - find them. Some of the couples who comment on this forum met on SLS.

I can only answer for myself, but except in exceedingly rare circumstances I'd run away from anyone looking for a relationship. Doing this as a single woman and as a couple - I've done both - is really different and I greatly prefer the former. Plus, a relationship would get in the way of the relationships I already have, which might look nothing like conventional partnerships but mean a great deal to me and I want no changes in them. Finally, while I occasionally like sleepovers, I have no interest in waking up to the same person day after day.

I basically have the best of all worlds already, without a primary partner, and it would take a truly extraordinary person (or couple) to shift that thinking.

Think you should reread my comment. Never called a woman a doormat. ?????

Why I said I am NOT looking for a doormat. You stated woman are in control. Run companies etc. I was agreeing with you and stating I am not looking to change that ort of a woman.

Maybe. But I am not looking for a doormat. Just an open minded sexual woman that also loves the support of a partner in life

Welcome Big.. yes you are missing something many woman we have met are independent thinkers, doers, head of companies or housewifes.. doesnt matter. They are here for sex and sex only.. yes some have found some soul mates but its rare.

If you find a girlfriend its a bonus.. for Kathy she is friends with many guys from all over USA who make our cut

So as a single male that is truly looking for a female life partner.

I constantly see single woman profiles saying looking for nothing serious. Kind of confused as to why a woman wouldn’t want a relationship? Yes I am dominant in bed but I don’t want to stop the fun. Obviously the lifestyle is a huge turn on. So why wouldn’t someone want the best of both worlds? A loving partner and a very kinky partner? Seems like the perfect mix to me but find the opposite in profiles.

Am I missing something?