My suggestion to do this at a club or party comes from experience. I got to enjoy the stranger danger aspect and the guy didn't have to question whether I'd consented, even though I was blindfolded and had my wrists bound over my head.
It's a fun fantasy, but if you want to enlist strangers for it, you'll get a better response rate if you reduce the potential concerns of your thirds.
I’ve blindfolded rabbit and invited a “stranger” to play with her. She had never met him or even knew what was happening but I knew the guy from previous house parties I had hosted as a SM so he trusted me.
The point is, most single guys want some reassurance that the sex is consensual, either directly from the wife or he knows and trusts the husband.
~Scamp
Considering how many couples we have met who tell the story that they went to meet a couple where the guy "sprung" the idea of swinging on the woman at the meeting as well as having experienced it I have to side with those saying it is likely enough guys have been burned or have heard the stories and are overly cautious about the whole meet us in the room she will be blindfolded fantasy. In this case it seems she is more than willing but the fact is there are enough times that is not the case. It seems you did find one guy to have fun with like this and that is good but if you want to continue to have success I have a suggestion. You may want to get friendly with several guys who have gotten to know you and your wife then you pick one and have the wife do the whole blindfolded thing. It will mean you "know" the guy so all concerns have been covered but she does not know which guy it is that shows up. In fact that is how we have done it but the wife does not want to be blindfolded but she has gone with the whole "surprise me" from the "list" in the past.
I wasn't assuming your wife didn't know however some of the men you contacted could. They are the ones whose reactions you are questioning.
I went on a play date with a man once who spoke of receiving a similar request which he turned down because he was not able to personally have contact with the wife beforehand to verify her consent.
This thread is leaning toward criticism of the OP. My response was not intended as a criticism, but rather just an explanation of why the OP may see those reaction from single guys.
Personally, I love the idea of a blindfolded wife. Although we haven’t used a blindfold, we have had several scenes with some willing stunt cocks.
The whole “stranger danger” vibe can be exciting and checks that zipless fuck box.
@plzrs4fun I have the feeling you are assuming the only way one person can not like another is based solely on looks. There are many other reasons. Think abut it for a minute..... personality, scent, breath, texture of their skin, size, how they touch you, how they kiss.... and the list can go on and on.
Just my opinion, but I believe his concerns are legitimate.
The thing that concerns me with this scenario is the consent factor. It's just too dangerous, emotionally, physically and legally for my taste. Others will have a different threshold of course.
But one thing slightly annoys me. The assumption that a single guy should be willing to jump into the sack with anyone, like we should be grateful that we're getting laid. Some of us SMs prefer to have enough of a connection that we're willing to spend a few hours with a lady/couple before we part, most likely never to see each other again. This described scenario doesn't really allow for that. Speaking for myself, yeah I'm a man-whore, but I'm more than a dildo with a heartbeat. Some guys will be fine with that, others won't. Vive la difference.
I doubt that this is what the OP intended, but if I'm thinking it, I guarantee that some others are thinking this way as well, even if they're not saying it to avoid unpleasantness.
Strange responses are from strange:
Being open, real, communicative tends to eliminate strange responses . . . . at least to me!
I didn't see any indication that anyone assumed she didn't know. You seemed surprised that the men you contacted were not universally interested, when there was really no reason for surprise. Not only is there not much there for anyone who likes to interact with their playmates, it presents an increased risk of participating in non-consensual sex, something most of us like to avoid.
We didn't imply that your wife wasn't aware. You made a post calling a response strange that really wasn't. The posts point to the fact that the scenario can smell very funny to an sm especially some who have been burned a time or two.
Sorry people are assuming she was NOT AWARE.
Okay it seems everyone is assuming (WY too common) that she was aware of what was going to happen. She was very aware, she just didn't know exactly who. it would be. That was the whole point .As it turned out 1 of the 5 she chose was experienced with couples AND role-playing scenarios. He was terrific and we met several more times before he finished the job he was on and moved back to Michigan .
I’ve walked away from a handful of mfm situations because I felt the wife wasn’t as into the idea as the husband. I’ve found some husbands to be a bit over the top when discussing with me a possible 3sum with their wife and I find it a red flag that this is more for him than her. In fact it normally leaves me wondering if she’s even onboard with the idea.
Unfortunately a lot of good single men have been put in bad situations when a wife didn't know her husband was setting up a play date and would shy away from anything that sounds close to a set up.
Having no contact with a wife prior to a play date to verify her consent could be an absolute hard limit for a lot of quality single men in this type of scenario.
Sure you could find men that don't care if she has consented, don't care if she knows he is going to be there, don't care if she is set up ......but I think it is a good thing that there are men out there that possibly cared about those things.
I could see this scenario working for us if we were able to contact 5 guys with whom my wife had previously played. She would have to personally assure them that this is what she wants. I would then invite one of the five. That way she wouldn’t know who actually showed up.
By the way, this whole scene probably wouldn’t work for us anyway. My honey is very visual. She wants to see the dick.
We have run into one too many husbands trying to convince and surprise their wives and then convince them to see how an experienced or even discerning sm may shy away from that scenario. We have heard a few first hand horror stories from sm's about similar encounters. Even the extreme end of the NSA crowd at least likes to say, "Hello, my name is...." There are many of the stereotypical porn scenarios that can be fun and others are awkward to unrealistic. I am definitely with Molly. Something like this set up at a club or party helps avoid many of the issues that can arise otherwise. Also, you don't have to worry as much about the online headaches of searching.
I for one am glad you’re not a guy MsMolly
If I was a guy, I'd only do it in a club. Then you can assume consent and be cool with it. Anywhere else? Nope. Too much risk for a one time fuck.
I think you also have to imagine the lifestyle from the single guys perspective. I was a single guy in the old AFF days. I can tell you that many guys always have a bit of lingering doubt as to whether a scene is legit.
For example, If you do a search on PornHub or xham you’ll find video of blindfolded wives where the husband is fucking and then invites a stranger in, unbeknownst to the wife. The single guy has to accept the husbands word that the wife really has approved the scene. If she hasn’t, a guy may find himself having nonconsensual sex. That may make some guys reluctant.
Also, some guys may assume that you are wanting a stunt cock, a guy that walks into the room hard, and ready go. A lot of guys may recognize that they need a little warm up time.
I think that's a legitimate response. A blind person can still not like someone! The voice, the vibe, how he touches her.you don't use just your eyes to determine if you like someone or not.
Maybe he's secure in how he looks but needs interaction and cues that you don't get from someone who is blindfolded.
Okay, so we were setting up a hotel blindfold scenario for the wife. She scanned the single guy profiles to find 5 guys she was interested in. I then started contacting them and chatting to find 1 that would be okay with it. We got alot of ehhhhs Not comfortable with that. The third one who responded like that I had to ask why? He said I kid you not on this.. What if she doesn't like me?
I responded Are you fucking kidding? She will be blindfolded!!!! Never seeing you.
