The Villages
in Senior Swingers ·
Don't believe the rumors & urban legends regarding The Villages. There certainly are swingers there but nothing is overt at public places.
TomandDiane
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Indicate whether a message is read by receiver
in Swing.com ·
That feature used to exist at one time.
Who likes to Kiss?
in 3-Some ·
For us kissing is a big part of the foreplay & build up as well as during sex. Hard to start the car without the key so to speak.
Meeting at your home with LS couples
in Getting Started ·
We only meet a new couple at public place first to gauge chemistry & to be sure they look like their pics. We've then invited them to our place or vice versa afterward if everyone was on board for playtime.
MMF Etiquette
in 3-Some ·
Been taking Berberine as a supplement to lower A1c level for several years. It works for me & was recommended by primary Dr. Don't know if it enhances performance issues since I fortunately don't have any.
A family member on sls
in Website ·
We've run into neighbors & co-workers at meet & greets & clubs. No one ever outed each other. Haven't run into family members but it would be awkward if they were in the same club playroom or house party having sex across the way. Lol!
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in Games ·
Florida
Describe your sex life using a song title
in Games ·
Fire Ohio Players
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Tub
paradise lakes resort florida
in Resorts ·
All the info you need about them is on their websites.
Hotwife Bare or Condoms?
in Safe Sex ·
We prefer bareback. Not only because it feels better, but the sex seems more real & hotter. We do go with condoms (Non latex) if our playmates prefer. However bareback couples go to the front. ;-)
Bye Bye Birdie
in Website ·
We're still receiving the flapping wings.
Message read notification
in Website ·
When the site had the e-mail feature you could see if your message was read if you were a paid member. Not so since SLS went to the message system & did away with the e-mail.
How do couples feel about going bare and cream?
in 3-Some ·
We prefer bare & the majority of couples we play with do as well. Not just because it feels better, but the sex is more real & hotter. We go with condoms however if playmates prefer.
Friends first swingers?
in Senior Swingers ·
While we are fine with a strictly social 1st meeting & have done so, we've also played at times after meeting for a drink and or bite to eat. We've become friends with some couples whom we share common outside the lifestyle interests.
Turning the big 70 what should a guy with ed treat himself too
in Senior Swingers ·
We know a couple in FL where the male half has a penile implant. He can stay hard as long as he wants. It's even covered by Medicare.
Certifications
in Swinger Advice ·
Think certs add credibility to a profile, relatively recent certs especially. Some choose not to give or receive certs & we've met couples like that as well, provided they were willing to speak with us on a phone call to verify they were f…
Disney Swingers
in Resorts ·
Kinda hard to swing at Disney. Would think most have kids & family with them.
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in Games ·
Kick
Paradise Lakes or Caliente or both
in Resorts ·
@Lilcutie: We'd agree. We stay in a private condo now when we visit PL & the daily inner resort fee isn't that big of a hassle.
Seriously - any 60-70 couples still in the game?
in Senior Swingers ·
We've met & had fun with couples well into their 60's & even early 70's. Age is just a number as long as you take care of yourselves.
Travel
in Senior Swingers ·
We're ok traveling about an hour or so. If we're going to a club, resort, event, etc. it's been longer. Limiting yourself to a local area greatly reduces the pool of potential playmates.
Cpl to cpl
in Website ·
That is probably the biggest complaint from couples primarily seeking couples. Often after corresponding & they open up pics of the male half, you find out why. Lol!
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in Games ·
Exodus
Paradise Lakes or Caliente or both
in Resorts ·
@NCMTNCPL...: If you're going to PL you may want to change your location to Lutz, FL & post a Hot Date for the dates you'll be there to see if folks may have interest in meeting.
Advice
in Swinger Advice ·
Sounds as if you may have some insecurity issues to work out.
Sunny Rest and other US based resorts
in Resorts ·
You will find children at times at Sunny Rest along with pure nudists who don't swing. Open sexual activity is not permitted. Caliente & Paradise Lakes in FL are adults only & very Lifestyle friendly.
Who else likes to watch the wife fuck?
in Men Talk ·
Love to see my wife enjoying a nice fucking while I'm fucking the other guy's wife next to them. Hot!
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in Games ·
Roman
Paradise Lakes or Caliente or both
in Resorts ·
We have been to Paradise Lakes several times & plan on going again. Stayed at a private condo there as well as their poolside inner resort rooms. The poolside rooms are ok, but a bit small for more than a day or two. Caliente is on our lis…
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in Games ·
Erogenous
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in Games ·
Pile ;-)
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in Games ·
Sessions
Newbies
in Getting Started ·
@Carmen: Don't be afraid to take the initiative & reach out to those you feel you may be compatible with. Worst that can happen is they say they're not interested or no response at all. (Which is a response for some)
Extremely effective but unpopular
in Swinger Advice ·
We have done that as well. When attending a M & G or other event, we look at the sign-up list & reach out beforehand to see if couples that appear compatible may be interested in having a drink & chatting. Sort of breaks the ice rather tha…
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in Games ·
Pleasant
Extremely effective but unpopular
in Swinger Advice ·
We've never been stood up. We always insist on a phone call before meeting a new couple to verify there is actually a female half & to get a sense that she is fully on board & not being pressured by the male half. If we get a lame excuse o…
Fantasy of Wanting the Wife to Unicorn for Other Couples
in Fantasies ·
@TwentyYearItch: We have done this as well rather than look for a SM or SF. We sometimes have a second round of play during a playdate with couples we know where we mix things up MFM or FMF.
Acceptable or want to be approached?
in Open Forum ·
We fly an upside-down pineapple flag when we're at a nude beach. Some couples have stopped to ask if we're lifestyle & we've struck up conversations. A few even asked if they could set up their chairs next to us.
Paradise Lakes
in Resorts ·
Yes, it's now become an adults only lifestyle nudist resort. Nudity is not mandatory, but most are nude & some play openly in the conversation pool & outside upper deck. If people want to play more privately, there is the playroom behind K…
Paradise Lakes
in Resorts ·
It's a swinger resort that is nudist friendly. Adults only. Most go nude.
what is your opinion?
in Senior Swingers ·
No photos and/or unwilling to show is a major red flag.
Intense orgasms
in Men Talk ·
Since going through menopause a few years ago, her orgasms have certainly gained intensity. She also became multi-orgasmic & even squirts when in the zone.
Ghosted
in Swinger Advice ·
Not sure if there has been an increase in Ghosting. It's always a problem with swing sites. There are wannabees, fakes, pic pervs, etc. who get their jollies that way. We've always had a good screening process to weed them out fairly quick…
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in Games ·
James
Newbies
in Getting Started ·
The line where the female is hesitant appears to indicate the profile is a married guy hoping to get his wife into it.
Fantasy fuck
in Fantasies ·
Tulsi Gabbard
President Biden.
in Politics ·
@thn1045: The Left & their media lap dogs are trying to fear monger over their latest faux outrage, Project 2025. It actually has some good common-sense ideas. A few not so much.
do you swing with those who are Bi
in Straight Couples ·
We don't rule out couples with a Bi male half as long as he is fine playing straight. We play with several couples who have a Bi or Bi-curious male half.
Fake profiles
in Swinger Advice ·
Unfortunately, fake profiles are a nuisance you have to deal with on all swing sites. We weed them out rather quickly.
Soft swap
in Soft Swinger ·
While we prefer full swap, we have played soft swap now & then. Switching back to your own partners for intercourse side by side can be hot.
1st full swap…same room or separate?
in Straight Couples ·
Our very first time was with a couple at their place. We were good with either option. Went to separate rooms. We all had a great time & it was hot hearing the sounds coming from our rooms across the hall. On the way home we were excited t…
Just three words
in Games ·
Save a horse
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in Games ·
Kind
Hot Dates
in Fantasies ·
When we've posted a Hot Date we're looking to play provided that everyone is on board after meeting for a drink and/or bite to eat. There is never a guarantee there will be play.
Bareback.
in Fantasies ·
We prefer bare. Not only because it feels better, but the sex just seems more real & hotter. We'll go with non-latex condoms if the other couple prefers.
Hotwife Bare or Condoms?
in Straight Couples ·
We prefer bare but will go with condoms if the other couple wishes.
Vasectomies
in Men Talk ·
Had it done back in the mid-90's. No issues & best thing if you want no more children & are dabbling in the lifestyle.
Not giving a blowjob
in Swinger Advice ·
A deal breaker for us. Mutual oral sex is part of the foreplay.
Dating other couples
in Finding Playmates ·
While we have played with couples on a first meeting, we've also met for a strictly social first meeting to gage chemistry & confirming they look like their pics.
senior swingers
in Soft Swinger ·
If you really want to play it can be found. Just don't expect to find it on the next block. May have to get in the car & travel a reasonable distance. We've met couples from DE, MD, PA & NY at rough 1/2 way points, each driving up to an ho…
Can bi male cpls and straight male cpls play together?
in Bi Couples ·
We don't rule out couples with a Bi or Bi-curious male half provided he is fine playing straight. We have some couples whom we're friends with who are fine playing that way. We don't judge.
Disney World April 13-19
in Resorts ·
If you have no luck at Disney & have wheels, you may want to visit Secrets in Kissimme, It's nearby. Problem with Disney is that there are likely lifestyle people visiting, but they are with kids & family.
Ladies Opinion Poll
in Women Talk ·
None of that matters, provided he can get & maintain an erection for a little while at least. Personality, respect & having an attraction are the most important factors. So many men think it's all about the penis. Women are wired different…
Location matters
in Swinger Advice ·
We'd agree. For best nationwide coverage it's SLS. We're on another site & it's heavy regional. FL in particular.
Nudists are not all swingers
in New Forums ·
As it's been said, All nudists aren't swingers & vice versa. Even at adults only Lifestyle friendly resorts you may find folks that are strictly nudists. May be a good idea to issue wrist bands indicating how people roll. ;-)
Location matters
in Swinger Advice ·
Yes indeed! FL is a "Target rich environment" lol! We've met some nice couples there on our visits & continue to. Other parts of the country the pick 'ins are slim.
Secrets Kissimmee fla January 25-29th
in Resorts ·
We have a few lifestyle friends who have gone & they said it was a decent place.
Fewer People
in Website ·
Some people are on other lifestyle sites or on two or more. Some sites are more regional. Some nationwide. We use another popular site as well as SLS.
Pets?
in Open Forum ·
We had 3 rescue dogs over the years. 2 Chihuahuas & a Dachshund. After they crossed the rainbow bridge, we fostered 2 kittens. They're ours now. Foster fail. Lol!
Is there a swinger resort better than Hedo?
in Resorts ·
Desire is on our bucket list as we prefer a couples only environment. May consider Hedo if we went with a group.
Two Suggestions for new SLS Merchandise
in Website ·
An SLS logo flag would be nice to fly when we go to the nude beach (Gunnison) as a way to meet other lifestyle couples. We currently have a 3x5 pineapple flag.
Watching
in Soft Swinger ·
When we play with another couple at a swing club, we close the door to the playroom. We're not there to put on a show for the voyeurs or wannabees who have no intention of playing.
PARADISE LAKES
in Resorts ·
We went to Paradise Lakes for the first time on our recent visit to FL. Stayed for a day/night in one of their poolside cabana rooms. It was nice & we'll stay 2 days next time. Met a couple who own a private home there in the afternoon. At…
An Ex-
in Getting Started ·
Think it would depend on how the breakup went. If it was amicable or not.
Error message to edit gallery permissions
in Website ·
Still not working Wayne.
Error message to edit gallery permissions
in Website ·
Noticed today the edit gallery permission feature isn't working to remove or change dates allowing access to your galleries.
Fem has a question for you guys about big lips
in Men Talk ·
Big or small. love 'em all! ;-)
Traveling a short or long distance to meet a new play partner
in Straight Couples ·
When we travel, we do some "Advance scouting" to see what couples are in the area & may be interested in meeting. We've met some great couples, particularly in FL. The Savannah area & New England are nice too.
Is swinging cheating?
in Swinger Advice ·
@R& K: Exactly! The mentality & hypocrisy in the vanilla world is laughable. We have great sex together & swinging has only enhanced it even more!
Actually looking like your pics
in Getting Started ·
We've run into that a few times over the years. We always add current pics every 6 months or so. Never walked out on anyone but sped up having a drink & opted for apps instead of dinner. Lol! If we suspect a couple may be less than honest,…
Is swinging cheating?
in Swinger Advice ·
We don't tell our vanilla friends what we do. It's not cheating. Some in the vanilla world may think it is but if you & your spouse are in it together, it's just sex between consenting adults.
Is FMF even common?
in Swinger Advice ·
The times it's happened for us was when we were playing with another couple & the ladies played with each man & vice versa. Think most couples especially when starting out, have the desire for a unicorn to join them & discover it's not tha…
Messages
in Website ·
Under the old e-mail system you could see if your message was read. That went away with the change several years ago. System is working fine for us. As someone previously stated, if you see the profile you sent a message to has been online…
Whats the BEST 1st experience for a newbie couple Meet Up vs Hotel Takeover vs Club
in Getting Started ·
When we started we were a bit intimidated about going to a swing club. We went to a meet & greet & chatted with a few couples who looked like fish out of water like us the first time, lol! We found better success initially by meeting coupl…
GHOSTING NEW TWIST ???
in First Contact ·
Oh yes. That happens with the pic pervs. We catch them very quickly. If a profile seems suspect, we don't open anything too revealing until we speak with both of them on the phone. We want to make sure a female half really exists & get a s…
senior swingers
in Soft Swinger ·
Some areas of the country, especially with lower populations can be difficult to find compatible playmates. As to the OP, age & limiting to soft swap likely reduces the candidate pool. Florida is a "Target rich" environment, especially for…
Worst reason EVER for separate room play
in Swinger Advice ·
That is rather lame. If there are insecurity or jealousy issues for one or both, not a good idea to swing. We play in either same or separate rooms. It's hot to hear your spouse having a good time across the hallway when playing in separat…
I have a problem
in Finding Playmates ·
You don't appear to be an ogre, however the couple-to-couple dynamic can be difficult for some at times getting 4 yes votes to swap. If you like to see your wife having a good time, perhaps focusing on single males more would be an option…
Notification if/when messages are ready?
in Website ·
Not since SLS changed the system & did away with the e-mail. You used to be able to see if your e-mail was read or not.
Meet and Greats - Events
in Senior Swingers ·
One M & G we sometimes go to starts at 6pm & goes until 9pm. It's on a weeknight, so that factors in for work the next day.
We have encountered Flakes and Been Ghosted but this is new
in Finding Playmates ·
We have never been stood up. A few cancellations with prior notifications over the years. We insist on a phone call, not just texting, where we can speak with both halves of the couple before a first meeting. We do this to make sure there…
Polyamory Always Ends Up Badly
in Polyamory ·
Saw it happen with two couples whom we were mutual friends with that decided to be exclusive. Knew it wouldn't last. Opens the door for too much drama & it did. They wound up alienating all their other lifestyle friends. One of the couples…
Scroll over issue
in Website ·
Anyone else having an issue with the website when you scroll over some profiles you see the SLS logo instead of the profile?
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in Games ·
Hoop
Constant lookers
in Swinger Advice ·
We get regular lookers as well. Sometimes they open their pics. If we like what we see, we reach out to see if there is mutual interest depending on how far away they are. The suspect profiles, old, no or few pics or certs we usually block.
SLEEPOVERS
in Finding Playmates ·
We've had couples stay overnight but we don't sleep with the opposite partner once the fun is over.
Guys aging in to Bi?
in Bi Males ·
A few men from couples we're friends with switched from straight to Bi/Bi-curious. Although our male half is not into Bi male play, we still play with them & they're fine playing straight with us. We don't reject couple with a Bi male half…
Messaging not working
in Website ·
We're able to send & receive messages but the red notification circle hasn't been working the last day or so.
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in Games ·
Light