When we say lets chat here...
There is chat on this site? Didn't know... :)
Like you, I am also hesitant in giving out my phone number unless we plan to meet or are in the process of evaluating if we want to meet. Sometimes messages exchanged here, sometimes using regular email after exchanging email addresses.
I have a gmail account just for SLS contacts - started using it when messaging got so flaky a while back. SLS messaging has been stable enough lately that it's just easier to stay here.
But yeah - our phone number only gets shared when we have a meeting planned in the near future.
SOC their loss!
We do same and if we decide to meet, we give our numbers out.. to many on SLS play games!
There are a lot of guys on here with "couples" profiles and after a while they get pretty easy to weed out. The biggest sign is when they have a lot of pictures of their "wife" to get your attention and either no pictures of themselves or a blurry 20 year old picture of some guy that might have been them.
Fraunhubby- but, how would that have worked? Was he bluffing and hoped you wouldn't call and just believe him because he gave you a number?.
MN: We had a similar weird phone call event.
Met a great looking, "nice" guy on sls. Says he has a hall pass, they both do, and joyfully use them inside an open marriage.
We like that. Chat some more on sls. He pushes for a meet up. We say "sure," but we'd like to chat with your wife before, to verify the "joyful hall pass."
He says, "We're out of the country but wife and I will be back in 4 days (Asia trip)."
"Ok," we say, "Let us know when you get back via sls and tell us where/how to contact your wife. We're interested in you."
Days later he sends us a number in our state, but not in his stated region area code. So, I look up the number and it is listed as being several hours away from his stated location and it is a business land line. Look up the business, the people associated with it do not match stated or photo evidence of the "wife" as posted on sls.
We message the hall pass guy on sls and ask if this is a business line and if it is , is it smart of us to call it to verify swinger status, during business hours.
He protests it is not a business line. But I can see the number posted on several business listings sites in front of me. It was an active business phone number at a thriving business.
We bail and say "no thanks."
Oh yes. That happens with the pic pervs. We catch them very quickly. If a profile seems suspect, we don't open anything too revealing until we speak with both of them on the phone. We want to make sure a female half really exists & get a sense she's fully on board & not having her arm twisted to swing by the male half.
Yep.. many here on SLS best way set up a meet or call immediately and block those who fail to do so !
They think its a game but have no idea how to really play!
We chatted with a couple on a site today, they seemed very interested, even showed us their photo. Start out with him doing the talking, then "supposedly" she takes over and states he is watching over her shoulder. They go on to tell us how interested they are, they are fairly new to this. We ask if they would like to voice chat on speaker as we often like to do. They said yes we will call in 30 minutes, guess what no call !!! We even messaged back to ask what happened ?" No response. this was a first for us talking to someone and being ghosted within a few minutes... I"M thinking this was all hi chatting and full of BS ???
