Worst reason EVER for separate room play

Same here HEDO.. but he blocked us years ago!

LOL just one more OP who doesnt like ones choice.

We blocked the OP a long time ago, he thinks everyone should think like him. With us we have done same room, separate rooms ,but we prefer separate rooms. We think women tend to let themselves enjoy the sex more when in separate rooms. We also think some men have a hard time performing. (erection problems) when in the same room as another guy.

More to the point - WHY list as a couple if you play separately?

No. What's weird is claiming to be ethically non-monogamous in a community that is specifically about hooking up for physical pleasure, and then worrying about your partner being offended by you enjoying yourself.

What's also weird is bothering to try to match with a couple if you're going to go be in separate rooms anyway. May as well let each other find individuals to date.

Separate room only, because every fucking one of you same room people are fucking weirdos! Every single time we made an exception for people who insisted on same room, it was fucking weird! Look at me, bitch! Not him. I'm the one with my dick in you. Same thing for my wife, the fucking weirdo is looking at his wife while fucking Robin like a robot. There's something WRONG with every one of you that insists on that shit. Sometimes one of them will abandon what they're doing with whichever one of us they're with to jump in with their spouse who is with the other of us. YOU'RE ALL FUCKING WEIRD! Same is always fucking BAD!

@T&D whatever works for you go for it. We all are different D I see you're bi-curious. I do not meet couples privately only in house party's. I am only interested in girl on girl without husband or significant others. I've had too many bad experiences where the husband is trying to have sex with me and I cannot have sex with his wife and I'm actually fighting him off.. I always make this rule be known before starting but then I get the wife saying and "whispering in my ear come on let him stick it in".. I had a beautiful encounter last Saturday where her husband and my escort was out of the group room. I really do believe your with someone your attention should be on them has not on others.

I have also had experience where the wife was jealous in my earlier years when I was into the threesome scene but decided threesome did not work for me too much drama.

When we first started, we wanted to play in the same room solely because we wanted to see each other enjoying their partners, and being able to touch each other, hold hands, or kiss while playing face ya a really deep feeling of connection.

As time and experiences went on, we began to enjoy playing in separate rooms and liked to hear each other. It also lets us focus on our play partners.

Then we learned to have the best of both worlds: Round 1 in separate rooms, then come together for Round 2 in the same room.

ED or teeny peenie syndrome? Shooting blanks here, as we don't play that way. Thread caught my eye on this Peanut Butter Stout Hump Day ;)

When I was married I enjoyed an occasional separate-room thing. It's kind of like having a 1:1 date, more intimate. But mostly it was same room and I certainly did not worry that my partner was having too much fun! I loved watching him fuck other people.

FrownySwinger beat me to the punch on the block, I guess he can dish it out but can't take it (I'm pretty sure it's just him who's regularly on the site, in fact I have my doubts that his wife knows or even exists, but I digress). I'm seriously miffed though. I rather enjoyed the "me = cat, you = mouse" game, and it sucks that he decided to take his ball and go home.

LOL... We blocked the world's unhappiest swinger a while ago too.

The only time we see their posts is when they start a thread.

2muchfun - "Either way, gatekeeping who should or shouldn't be in the lifestyle seems weird."

The OP sort of has a history of this. I blocked them long ago for that reason and was only ably to see this because he/she is the OP. I can't see any of their other posts and they cannot see mine. The forums are much calmer that way ;-)

We know one couple where the husband can't get it up with his wife in the room.

Hopefully he doesn't have that issue when they're alone.

Either way, gatekeeping who should or shouldn't be in the lifestyle seems weird.

I'm generally going with the most generous explanation for why people do things and in this case it would be that they couldn't relax completely for fear of. Not that their partner would be offended but that the possibility that it could happen would inhibit them too much to have fun.

T&D - That's like us too. The #1 reason we wind up doing separate rooms is that some guys just can't perform around other guys. I don't think it is something they can help or maybe it goes away with experience, but separate room play just allows everyone to have more fun at times.

I would agree that the reason given by the OP is weird, but it could be that the couple was new to the LS. It can take time to realize that your SO really is OK with you having a good time with someone else and that it will not hurt your relationship in any way. I know the LS was scary for us when we first started, and without really thinking about it, the fear of damaging your relationship was probably the reason why.

That is rather lame. If there are insecurity or jealousy issues for one or both, not a good idea to swing. We play in either same or separate rooms. It's hot to hear your spouse having a good time across the hallway when playing in separate rooms.

Recently saw someone admit they do separate rooms because they are afraid of offending their partner by enjoying the swap too much. The fuck?

A person who is offended by their partner thoroughly enjoying themselves with someone else shouldn't be in the LS.