Actually looking like your pics

Don't give up. It might happen.

"expecting supermodels that want to fuck them at the drop of a hat"

Killjoy.

"Oh I have seen a number of dirty finger nails in pics."

We were at our regular club recently and there was a new couple there, first time at a club, and the husbands hands still had remnants of dirt/grease from whatever Camaro or Chevelle he worked on that day.

I mean Ive been there, sometimes its a pain to get all the grease and dirt off after working on a car, but damn his hands were atrocious ... no way was any woman gonna let him put a finger in her privates.

owcangrace - "the pic is when they go, oh we can't video chat."

Yeah, sorry, missed that. That is pretty bogus if someone won't video chat. We don't mind proving we're real because there are so many fakes and flakes, but prefer to do so through the easiest reasonable means possible. Video chat is one of those means. We have had someone ask us to take a pic with a sign and post it our gallery for them and I just thought, "Next" and moved on.

If we are going to meet someone, there is always the chance that something is going to come up last minute so we usually just exchange cell #'s so we can text. If someone is leery of that they can always get a Google Phone number, honestly, if any issues ever came up (extremely rare for us) you can always block them. We've had to do that once in 9+ years. I can usually tell after the first couple of messages if someone is real and there's a possible meet in the future.

As most here know, we meet most people at parties, so pics are no longer an issue. Most times we just go in with no plan and see what happens, and that has lead to some of our best times.

Not pointing this at anyone in particular, but there are a segment of people that are looking for any reason to say "No" to a meeting. Some of these people simply have unrealistic expectation, like being overweight and expecting supermodels that want to fuck them at the drop of a hat, or 60 year-olds expecting 20-somethings to be interested in them. Both do happen, but so does winning the lottery.

Mayhenm Yes it us usually where there is a close up of a hand holding a cock or a tit. Even seen a couple where the woman's fingernails were looking dirty also.

mayhem8 - the pic is when they go, oh we can't video chat. Let's remember this is ONLY when they have no traceable certs leading to known peeps or party hosts. Frankly we are offering options to prove they are real and not one of the many fakers on here. We simply won't open without traceable certs or proving they are real. Could care less if they do not like it, though we feel that signifies that mostly they are fakes.

Onehorneywife - "Oh I have seen a number of dirty finger nails in pics."

You have better eyes than me, and I'm on a laptop, not a cell phone. Maybe in a pic like lcmim's profile where it's a close up of their hands, but I don't see many pics like that.

That's one of the first things the Mrs looks at. If his or her fingernails are dirty, she gives me the sign, Let's move on, those fingers are not entering me.

Many women have fragile Flora. The last thing she wants is a UTI.

Odd thing about that, she rarely gets a UTI when playing bare back. Yet gets one every few months when using condoms. Perhaps it's the lube?

Oh I have seen a number of dirty finger nails in pics.

All the prep is on top of looking like your pictures, but if not done, it may not matter if someone looks like their picture. Something a lot of guys tend to forget are finger/toe nails, and especially finger nails. I have seen women get cut (including the Mrs) because a guy didn't cut his fingernails.

I have heard women say they will not play with a guy that has dirt under his fingernails. That's not going to come out in a picture or an online exchange, unless you specifically ask.

" Trim my body hair, shave the fun places smooth, brush teeth, shower, she does her hair, and light makeup. We want to be sure if playtime happens, we are very neat and clean. "

;). Those things I am not flabbergasted by.

Re: Irish

We actually do prepare before meeting a couple, I would guess Mayhem does something similar. It takes us a few hours to prep.

Trim my body hair, shave the fun places smooth, brush teeth, shower, she does her hair, and light makeup. We want to be sure if playtime happens, we are very neat and clean.

Then, we hop in our Delorian, and bring back our selves 20 years younger so that we look like our pics ;)

Some of this verification stuff will depend on how tech savvy someone is and what the communication channels are. If you've exchanged cell #'s and you can take a picture and text it to someone, not a big deal. You can also use the video chat feature (if it works) and also not a big deal.

If someone has to make a sign, take a picture with it, then upload it to SLS then I can see them just walking away probably most of the time, regardless of if they're real with current pics or not.

I am flabbergasted by some of things people say they do prior to meeting people.

We do not meet anyone unless they have a cert we can trace the cert trail to someone we know or a party host. Without that, we expect proof they are real via video chat or sending us a pic with them holding a note we specify like "Hi owcangrace! "AMAZING how we don't hear back from most but occasionally a real couple lurks behind no certs LOL. Usually they are newer, though VERY rarely it has been a profile setup for a while. Very rare on that. As far as outdated pics we haven't met one on one and got burned badly but it sure has happened on couples communicating with us before parties. I chuckle when they get annoyed because we won't do anything without proof they are real. We have approached without but that was calculated as low risk when we do it ie before a party well outside our area and the profile listed well away from us. When we do that it is only a pic you'd find on our facebook page.

We have run into this many times. Once we couldn’t even figure out who the couple was. They guy was about 8 inches shorter than his reported height. Both were a long way past their pics in age and weight. The upshot was we got to meet an Oompaloompa that night.

We try to video chat if it is an internet contact. Saves a ton of time and frustration.

This is so true photos are current that's why. I stopped meeting people online. I hear often on forum I haven't changed meanwhile their pics have been up for 5 years or so. Don't trust pictures unless they're stamped or have a watermark on them with the time and date last time I checked photos were very important in this lifestyle. I do approve of pictures and on some I question they were too perfect and you looked like internet pictures kicked back some photos with family members meaning children in the picture. No pictures of children are to be approved or posted.

I have asked before and will again now, Why not just fate stamp your photos folks?

We've run into that a few times over the years. We always add current pics every 6 months or so. Never walked out on anyone but sped up having a drink & opted for apps instead of dinner. Lol! If we suspect a couple may be less than honest, we'll make it known up front that it will be a strictly social first meeting to gauge chemistry.

We probably would have stayed and enjoyed dinner. After that, if there is no attraction, we would have politely excused ourselves. Likely stating there was no real attraction.

MNJFLA- a guy I work with is a gay male. He likes the real man type. Built, strong . Not the feminine type or a short guy.
Met a man online . Told him what he liked. Guy said he was all that. Sent photos. Told the guy to come over. He opens the door and he looked and acted and talked just like Truman Capote. Guy I work with said, you are not who you said you were, and closed the door.
That was how he handled it.

The misleading with the pics would be strike 1. The fact that they seemed to be less than stellar dinner companions by a wide margin would be 2 and 3. We would skip dessert and "have to be home soon".

I am hoping that they would not be stupid enough to push for more, or an explanation. If they did.... honesty.

We recently met a couple that the lady stated on their profile she was 150# Looked good in the profile. They called and wanted meet us. We decided to meet after talking on the phone group chat. WOW she was at least #250 looked nothing like her photo. We were very disappointed, hungry sat we sat down and ate with them.. All they did was complained about their meal, had them both sent back, embarrassed us, looked like a sweat hog. WHAT WOULD YOU DO? What do you you do when you meet a couple looking nothing like their profile, much worse? Just curious....

We stay and enjoy the company. There won't be any sort of play down the road as we know they aren't completely honest with us but we might learn something in the meantime.

We have had that happen to us that the couple looked nothing like their pics. Raised to be polite we will have a quick meal and then part ways politely.