Indicate whether a message is read by receiver

[quote=sls_WayneC]<p>"<span style="font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">Sometimes when I hit send nothing happens and the message disappears."</span></p>

<p>In that case, the message was not sent. I specifically mentioned that you need to see the message appear in the history box to know that it was sent. If it does not appear, it was not sent and you know that instantly. In some cases, the other profile may be in a state where they are not allowed to receive messages. It also could be a technical issue. Either way, you know instantly and there is nothing to guess. The old site was having some unknown technical issue with messaging just disappearing when you click send. We made some updates and it seems to have gotten better. I haven't received any report of it lately. The new site does not have this issue. So you can always start sending messages from the new site if you are having any issues with the old site. </p>[/quote]A simple indicator that the message was sent/received (doesn't mean that it was read) would clear up any confusion

I use 2 different email servers, both servers have the option to request a read receipt if I feel the need for one, it also provides a receipt as to time and date opened (doesn't mean it was read just opened). The technology is available

<p>"<span style="font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">Sometimes when I hit send nothing happens and the message disappears."</span></p>

<p>In that case, the message was not sent. I specifically mentioned that you need to see the message appear in the history box to know that it was sent. If it does not appear, it was not sent and you know that instantly. In some cases, the other profile may be in a state where they are not allowed to receive messages. It also could be a technical issue. Either way, you know instantly and there is nothing to guess. The old site was having some unknown technical issue with messaging just disappearing when you click send. We made some updates and it seems to have gotten better. I haven't received any report of it lately. The new site does not have this issue. So you can always start sending messages from the new site if you are having any issues with the old site. </p>

<p>"<span style="background-color:rgb(255, 255, 255); font-family:open sans,sans-serif; font-size:14px">Someone's lack of an answer.. is an answer as stated by many over the years on SLS."</span></p>

<p><span style="background-color:rgb(255, 255, 255); font-family:open sans,sans-serif; font-size:14px">Lack of an answer is absolutely not an answer. Just because a whole bunch of people believe something does not make it correct.</span></p>

<p><span style="background-color:rgb(255, 255, 255); font-family:open sans,sans-serif; font-size:14px">If you do not give me an answer of "Not interested", I do not know if you are not interested or got sidetracked and forgot to respond or if there was a technical issue.</span></p>

<p><span style="background-color:rgb(255, 255, 255); font-family:open sans,sans-serif; font-size:14px">Perfect example: The owner just texted me and asked me about something he emailed me about earlier in the week. I had done it, but forgot to respond back to him. He did not just assume that I didn't do it. He followed-up and I let him know I had done it.</span></p>

[quote=sls_WayneC]<p>"<span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">I wonder if the initial message was ever received"</span><br />
</p>

<p><span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">Can you explain what you mean by that statement? If you send a message by typing it out and selecting the "Send" button and then you see that message appear in the message history box, it was sent and the other member received it. That part of the system absolutely works. Whether or not they read it is beyond our control. We have no way of knowing for sure if they read it. </span></p>

<p><span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">The business has stated that it will add some feature to indicate that a message has been opened, but we have no way of knowing if they actually read it. They may have gotten distracted just as they opened it and never actually read it.</span></p>

<p><span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">Here is the advice I always give:</span></p>

<p><span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">If you have sent a nice message to someone that you are really interested in and they have not responded, send a follow-up message a few days later. Even if we give you a message read indicator and even if it shows they read your message, if they did not respond, still send a follow-up. I cannot emphasize enough how important it is to do this if you want to achieve success.</span></p>

<p> </p>[/quote]Not all messages I send seem to get sent. Sometimes when I hit send nothing happens and the message disappears. I have no idea if the message sent or if it somehow it just disapeared into the internet ether. It doesn't show in the messages so I assume that it was never sent even though I sent it

As far as knowing if a message was read that's not the point, if the message was delivered or opened is more accurate. You definately have control over that

All my messages are nice and polite. I don't send messages to profiles that say they have no interest in single guys or have a specific age requirement or anything else specific that I don't match. I don't send a lot of intro messages and am very cautious that I at least meet all their requirements. I could care less if they don't read my message or reply, just would like to know it was received, after all I put a lot of thought and time into any message I send. If I knew a message was received but don't receive a reply I would know that there is no interest and leave a note to myself that there is no interest on their part and not to contact them again

Or some just cannot read profiles that say no dick photos, bathroom selfies, etc etc.. gets old if they cant read ones profile we will also stop answering those who dont read what we have written!

Someone's lack of an answer.. is an answer as stated by many over the years on SLS.

<p>"<span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">I wonder if the initial message was ever received"</span><br />
</p>

<p><span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">Can you explain what you mean by that statement? If you send a message by typing it out and selecting the "Send" button and then you see that message appear in the message history box, it was sent and the other member received it. That part of the system absolutely works. Whether or not they read it is beyond our control. We have no way of knowing for sure if they read it. </span></p>

<p><span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">The business has stated that it will add some feature to indicate that a message has been opened, but we have no way of knowing if they actually read it. They may have gotten distracted just as they opened it and never actually read it.</span></p>

<p><span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">Here is the advice I always give:</span></p>

<p><span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">If you have sent a nice message to someone that you are really interested in and they have not responded, send a follow-up message a few days later. Even if we give you a message read indicator and even if it shows they read your message, if they did not respond, still send a follow-up. I cannot emphasize enough how important it is to do this if you want to achieve success.</span></p>

<p> </p>

I agree, some sort of message read/opened/received indicator would be nice. When I send someone an intro I find it hard to figure out what to say. I try to, at a minimum, let them know that I did read their entire profile and why I think we would be a good match without being crude or sounding like a jerk. 99.99999% of the time I get no reply, at least when I get blocked after sending a message I know it was received. Sometimes I wonder if the initial message was ever received and I don't want to send a 2nd message asking if they received the 1st message. The SLS messaging system is not the best by a long shot. Reminds me of a 20 year old, poorly maintained, messaging system

[quote=Over7Under8]Why, have a message read feature. You either get a responce or not. So if they read it and dont respond, do you think they are stuck up, or do you think you are not good enough for a reply? A double edged sword... I rather play with razor blades than to be caught up with expectations of read messages.[/quote]If someone take time to write an introdution and get no response. It can be frustrating. Especially when couples complain about one liner or single dude saying you want to fuck. Atleast knowing if they read it and didnt reply, it kinda already giving you a hint that they are not interested

i agree....couple complain when a single dude do one liner or just say you want to fuck. But then you got dude that actually write a proper introduction and he get no response. That make me want to just do one liner. What the point of writing a whole introdution.

I don't feel I "deserve" a reply (although it would certainly be polite) and don't get pissed or depressed if someone doesn't like me. Everyone has their own tastes, and I don't take a "no" as a personal affront. I'd like to see this feature added simply because of the continuing unreliability of the current messaging platforms. SLS messaging is an antiquated clusterfuck. Beta, so far anyway, appears to be a shiny, modern clusterfuck. I would just like to know that my message was delivered and opened or deleted.

Why, have a message read feature. You either get a responce or not. So if they read it and dont respond, do you think they are stuck up, or do you think you are not good enough for a reply? A double edged sword... I rather play with razor blades than to be caught up with expectations of read messages.

I agree. I rarely send messages, would be nice to know they were at least read.

That feature used to exist at one time.

Definitely would like to see this feature added

Just here to say yes, please.

Perfect. thanks ??!

<p> </p>

<p>This is on our list already. Thank You</p>

<p> </p>

One suggestion is to indicate in messages whether it was read by the receiver. This will be helpful to determine if the receiver has read it and chose to ignore the sender. :)