Unreliable Single Males

I know who unreliable feels so I don’t. I think many guys on here like the fantasy but chicken out when it comes time to live it. Now maybe my attitude has changed because I’m in my 40s and time is flying. I don’t have time to waste and I assume whoever I’m contacting doesn’t either. I’m not going to waste their time when they could have spent it with someone else who would show up. Most of my encounters start with a simple meeting and I don’t walk in expecting action that night. I do walk in expecting to meet some new people and see where things go. Which helped me remove those jitters.

Your .02 is fine! Everyone is entitled to do what works best for them! And what works best for me is my current profile as is and all the wonderful people who took time to meet and give me great certs...I am having a BLAST....So why would I stop that....:-)

BTB as a SF, I hope you don’t mind me offering my $.02.

I looked at your profile. Your photos give me pause. First, I can’t see your full face. Second, I’m always leery when a SM posts a photo with another woman in it. I have no idea whether she’s given consent or not. Even if you can’t identify her. I never understand why.SMs include women in their profile photos anyway.

Also, as far as certs go, a few is fine. When you get into double digits, I take a step back. We all know why we’re here and we all know we have multiple partners. I guess the blatant listing of so many is unnecessary to me. And screams bed notcher. Pick the half dozen or so that really highlight your strong suits. As far as certs go, quality is definitely better than quantity.

Again, just my $.02. And worth every penny.

~LMK~

Thanks ItalianGinger4u2 - Glad you enjoyed my profile and certs...For me they are key in my lifestyle fun and success...hehe!!

BTB, Solid profile & certs that obviously had thought out into them by various people def carry more weight toward distinguishing the fake flake versus real. I think we’re in consensus here on certs being important, but not the final deciding factor.

We had blocked singles for a while just to stave off the annoying, but leave them open so if Mrs. Wants to browse or see who’s going to be at the club she can.

ItalianGinger4u2 - Sorry did not see your last response. Yes cert are not the end all or be all on a guys character. There are always other factors you should consider. Certs are just a tool to help you make your decision on someone. But, if a person does not have a least one cert and been on here for years it is most likely nobody wants to give them one!

When you get a moment take a look at my profile and certs. Then tell me what type of charter they describe to you as a couple....:-)

As I have said before. Certs are not always that easy to get. I think it is a mistake to rely that heavily on them.
I haven't been thrown out of someone's house, or laughed out, yet. I have been been invited back. So I assume I am doing something right. But no certs yet. And I have been here, 4 years, I think.
I never thought about asking the host of a party for a cert. Never saw a cert from a host, either. I will have to try asking a party host for a cert.

Like I mention before in this thread, certs for single guys are important. You have mainly two types of certs. One which come from party hosts. Those I consider starter certs. Those are good but they just mainly verify the guy is real. The other comes from individual couples or ladies. Those tend to give you more detail and info on what type of person he is. Like does he show up, on time, cater to your needs. perform well, respectful, a pounder, a lover, respectful, a gentleman and so on. Also, if you dig a little deeper you can look at who gave him a cert to see what type of folk they are to help you decide on meeting him. Also, you can even message the person who gave the cert to get a little more back ground on him. Lastly, if a guy has been on SLS for more than a few years and don't have any certs you can simple pass or take a chance at meeting him to give his first cert. But taking the chance to meet him with out certs is always more of a risk!

We know one guy who has some certs and is a complete tool bag. Classic game player. Sent us all kinds of messages trying to get with us. Had an open meet setup and he no showed. Then again messaging to try and hook up (figured out our handle on a chat app) and started shilling for another group spouting off rumors and accusations which we answered then only to send numerous dick pics, jerking off vids, and such which pretty much turned off the wife which at that point blocked him. Fast forward to him begging for an unblock which revealed a slew of IMs threatening us. (This is why we now leave unblocked) Fast forward again and 10 second Tom shoots a message again answering a hot date trying to get an in. So we politely called him out on it and he went coo coo. Dude has serious issues, but must have played the game well enough with a few others to gain some certs, so while certs carry some weight it’s not the end all determining factor. There’s always the crazy factor.

"I always show up, on time and travel to the couple choice of location to make it easy on them. My question is does these single male have cert?"

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The larger the venue, the easier it is to get certified. Single or not, it's not difficult once you meet in large groups of people in events like Hedo, Naughty Nawlins, Bliss cruises, Desire cruises, Desire RM, Pearl resorts, Splash Mocha, and other events. Leave a cert, and accept a cert.

We know plenty of couples and single ladies all reporting the same thing as OHW. Singles constantly complain about the rep they get as a whole because of the "few bad actors" yet it's not a few. It's the norm hence the rep. Trust us, when a solid, reliable single is found he's touted in our group/circle. We'll invite to house parties, etc. The general consensus seems to be it's a lot of married guys whose wives aren't on board or looking to step out as well as guys who just want the pics/fantasy/spank material hence the spotty availability and/or no shows

Happens all the time to us. Just this week alone 4 guys wanting to get with us and poof gone.

I read your profile & looked at your pics. I'm having a hard time imagining that guys are standing you up! You're extremely sexy and look amazing!

Easy instant ones for me..

1. They did not read my profile.
2. How quickly they want contact off the site.
3. Will not meet in a public place, even a lifestyle club.
4. No pictures. "Someone might see him". Grow up.
5. Not always- free profile.
6. Vague or not filled out profile.
7. Conversation is just too vague or expecting me to come up with it.
8. Responds late at night, or suddenly stops,
9. Old pictures and does not have newer ones.
10. Talks shit about ex girlfriend.

I can go on. But some of the top.

Blackerthanblack- as a single male without certs, I can tell you certs are not that easy to get.

I always show up, on time and travel to the couple choice of location to make it easy on them. My question is does these single male have cert?

I have always shown up, it is difficult enough
Just to find play friends and a single guy, and I really want to play , not just talk or fantasize about it

In the 1990s, when altplayground was THE site for the DC metro area, I was one of the ringleaders of a group of single women (and women playing solo) who exchanged reviews and intel. We had a database. A man who was well reviewed would get lots of interest. If a guy stood women up, was disrespectful or we discovered he was married and cheating, he was basically toast in the local scene.

Although the LS community where I live is rather large and widespread (MD, PA, DE) there are many overlapping social groups and the members are close knit. Plus there are a few women-only FB groups and we definitely share information.

I always say, “Good news travels fast but bad news travels faster.” It doesn’t take long for someone’s bad behavior to be shared with others in the community. And, btw, this goes for women too. There are some real crazies out there.

Now, I prefer to make up my own mind. So I listen, take the information into account, and proceed (or not) accordingly.

But the trash generally takes itself out.

~LMK~

Only a FOOL would pass up/screw up a blessing like that.

Italianginger- that sounds more like a mental disorder than an impolite male.

Scumbag.. more than one way to deal with him, word of mouth works wonders in our circle. ... reminds me of the old blanket parties!!

We discuss this in our private group app as it's not allowed on SLS. These guys seem to think couples and single ladies don't share (good and bad) experiences. We have one clown who hits us up time and again after threatening us and denegrating us in the past for politely declining and calling out his transgressions (stalker like Messaging, DMS, Dick pics and maturation videos). It's funny how the wife is hot and good enough to pursue until you remind him of his prior behavior and apparent amnesia. Then we become fat and ugly cows no one is interested in. It's comical. Reporting threats of physical violence with screen shots went nowhere with SLS either so it's kind of on your circle to keep peeps informed.

Or you could block him so he cannot contact you at all??

I say lets do a YELP rating.. we too use notes feature and BLOCK the idiots couples and singles