Hot Dates

Lovemeknot....meant to praise your stoicism. Kudos.

2Much...love it. Very stoic of you.

"You can’t control other peoples behavior. You only have control over how you react to it."

LMK is a very wise woman.

As for those that apparently ignore the date & time of a posted Hot Date - perhaps they are just optimistic that you'll have additional time and energy for when they are available. Or maybe your plans will change and now your schedules align. They are not all idiots or cretins.

LMK's advice to "... just ignore or block. And move on..." is good for both your sanity and your blood pressure. ;-)

As a SF, I can’t count the number of random Friend requests, illiterate messages and strange requests I’ve received in the past two years.

At the beginning of my journey, I thought the same thing. “The audacity!” I’d cry. I spent so much time on my profile, how rude of them not to appreciate the well written, erudite, clever, witty, funny (insert self aggrandizing adjective here) work I painstakingly put into it to find just the right play partners for me.

Alas, over time I’ve learned that the world is an unfair place. No moreso than on sites like this. (And don’t even get me started on Fet) So I’ve grown a tougher skin and just ignore or block. And move on with my day.

You can’t control other peoples behavior. You only have control over how you react to it.

As far as Hot Dates go, I’ve actually had pretty good luck. Both placing them when I travel, or responding to some local. Yes, I’ve had to weed out plenty. But the ones who have worked out have been stellar.

~LMK~

TRAVELERS and ONEHORNEYWIFE

Pic collectors.

We get those occasional distance friend requests also. I think they may be accidental at times. Other than that, what really is the point in the request. Can't access any of our pics from what I understand.

We got a friend request today from a couple on another swinger site. They have one photo, no certs, no friends, and no likes. Only the little blue man showing on their avatar indicating they are only looking for single males, plus they are somewhere in East Bumfuck Canada.

Why in the hell would we want to connect with them? The avatar info was enough for me to see. I did not even bother to open the profile and read the essays (or probably the lack of essays), I just hit "reject".

Agree.. OP seems many and I mean many, Do NOT really read profiles, hot dates, etc etc.. just today we got a request for friends from a total stranger in another state.. typical example of one not reading what we have in our profile!

For us that says volumes about ones character!

Hot Dates. Hmmm. Lately, it seems as if this platform has turned into more of a voyeur site- more alleged couples profiles that are really just males. But, when it comes to the Hot Dates, perhaps it’s a reading comprehension issue. When you set up a post, you designate the date, a description of what your are interested in and the targeted people. So, why is it that people constantly respond with unsolicited messages, “I can’t today, but how about tomorrow?” Or “We are going to a nude beach and we are here through Sunday (for those out of town visitors). “Can you open up your photos?” We don’t care about your schedule. Do these people not grasp the concept that the meeting intention is specific for the day it’s posted on? How we would love to roll back to 10 years ago when genuine people were on these sites and the bullshit was at a minimum.