JnM, give the locals a little bit of time to see your hot date so go ahead and post it about a month before you go. Then change your adress a couple of weeks before you go and people will start to notice you. It works pretty well for me so good luck.
Great advice about changing your address / location in your profile for a Hot Date While traveling. We hadn’t thought of that but will certainly give it a try.
We have always had good luck connecting with couples while in Vegas, naturally!. We either post a hot date notice or check out others. 75% success rate.
If I have a choice in picking the city, I'll check the hotdates to see if how much activity there is. Then, I'll pick a hotel near major routes. After that, it's similar to what others are saying- post a hot date a month before you go, and update the messages on the hot date when you are there. Also, don't be afraid to host!
After posting hot dates prior to traveling which stirs the pot we tend to have the best luck out in public just by saying hello with a nice warm welcoming smile. Mrs. Hop will usually gives a nudge when she notices a sexy couple, SM or SF & vice versa.
What usually works out pretty well for me is to put up a Hot Date in the town that I'm traveling
to about a month before I get there because people do read them. Then about two weeks before I go there I change my address in my profile to that zip code. People do recognize different profiles right away and if they're interested they'll reach out to you. Also by doing that you'll see the locals much easier and be able to reach out to them.
Mingle with people. It's that simple and fun no matter the outcome.
First, you need to make the effort, second, don’t be an idiot about it, next be open and straight in what you are seeking, and, about you! And finally be thick skinned, some will like, many will not. I have been blessed to know great people despite the not so great.
RK you’re very welcome. You know I love to share. ;-)
~LMK~
My former wife and I were on a family cruise with our kids. In the dining room, we were seated near an attractive couple that we thought were always checking us out, but brushed it off as maybe they were just admiring our family or how well behaved our kids were. But they would just stare and smile at us as we passed by. Fast forward to the next year, we were on a swinger cruise and guess who was on board? Yup. And yes we finally had some fun. So, you never know. If you feel the vibe, speak up, flirt back, make a move.
Great advice by last 2 posters.. and YES LMK... as you know some even introduce great people to others, ... now thats a win win!
She thanks you !
" In addition, I’ve become friendly with many of the regular fora folk here. So if I’m going to a city where one is located, they may be more familiar with some of the folks in their area. True, it’s a long shot, but I’ve hit a few by chance. Just another avenue. Never hurts to ask."
That's another good point. We have met around half a dozen couples that we became friends with through the forums when we were traveling close to their locations.
If I’m traveling and know I’ll have free time, I’ll definitely post a Hot Date. I’ll also change my location on my profile a week or two in advance. In many areas, the database is small, so you see the same profiles over and over. By changing your location, you become “new” to that area and often get a bit more interest.
In addition, I’ve become friendly with many of the regular fora folk here. So if I’m going to a city where one is located, they may be more familiar with some of the folks in their area. True, it’s a long shot, but I’ve hit a few by chance. Just another avenue. Never hurts to ask.
~LMK~
Fran as always great advice.. side note,, we too were "Ripped Off" in NOLA , sounds like the same joker that does meet and greets on Bourbon St claiming on SLS its the swing party of the year.. what a joke very expensive meet and greet only.. no playing allowed!
Threes:
As the others on this chain say, post a hot date, well early maybe, in order to meet people in a new locale. We have done that and met some fun and interesting people. Also, you can start looking for events, parties, pool days, and so on in the area to which you are traveling.
Our advice on events and house parties, is to root around and try to determine if the event is your vibe or not. We've had outstanding experiences doing this. Example: Key West Fantasy Fest. We met some people on SLS and got invited to a gorgeous rental house, with pools and tropical gardens and full of swingers. It was idyllic, beautiful, and extremely erotic.
On another occasion, we got invited to pool party in the New Orleans area, while we were on business travel. We love the people there, but this party and environs we experienced was far below the image painted by the host. We should have properly vetted the party and asked a bunch of questions. I say this because they charged a hefty fee to attend their party, and it simply was not worth it.
To end on a bright note...we've put out hot dates for us while on travel and met couples and singles for fun, hot, sexy times. It works great. So, start early, chat up prospects, get clear understanding of the people and venue, and enjoy the ride! A part of the lifestyle is getting out there and having new experiences, even if they are a bit quirky.
wercurious4u2 - No problem. IrishRose picked up on your play style so it's likely others did as well. I didn't get to see one of your Hot Date postings so I couldn't tell if that was clearer. but it wasn't something I got from your profile. We tend to be looking for couples and you otherwise would have met our criteria if we lived closer and there was interest. I would think that a profile on here for a hot wife would be like an SM magnet.
Thank you for not taking things the wrong way. I really do enjoy seeing people have fun in the LS and that is the motivation behind a number of my postings. That, and I still learn stuff as well myself because I do think that even an old dog like me can learn new tricks ;-) Happy hunting.
Even if a couple focusing on "her" as we also do.. one needs to have photos of the male half as we are not playing with someone who does not look attractive even if only watching. or joins in on a 3sum. . its a turn off and no we dont look past it for "us".
Smiles, appropriately dressed, classy, gets our attention.
Guys or Ladies.. as we both have our own 3sums and play time.
Mayhem8 - You are correct about no pics of male on our public profile. Thank you for pointing that out. We just traveled for vacation and posted hotdates for her fun and pleasure. Because we were only looking for her we changed out pics of male and also didnt fully rewrite info in our profile about the focus was only on hotwife.
I will adjust accordingly. Thanks for your input.
As a single guy I have found I have my best success connecting with and meeting people while traveling. I used to tour for work, and would be in a new city for one to 4 weeks at a time 6-8 months
Maybe it’s because I’m low maintenance (no hassles since I am only there for a short time) and usually had a nice hotel to host at.
I also found that certain areas would very good to be a single guy. South FL (west coast more than east) Houston Nashville and Denver were all great for Hotwife play.
MandC - Good point about looking at ones attending events. If nothing else it shows that they are actually willing to get out there and meet people. I have seen cases where people sign up and never actually attend, but it's not the norm. Sometimes you can see clues of that when you see the same people signed up for multiple parties on the same date/time.
A Hot Date helps show people actively looking to meet too. We tend to have better luck responding to Hot Dates when traveling than we do creating them.
The ideal situation for us when traveling is if we can find a local house party to attend, but we are both very outgoing socially. I can see that not working for some. Barring that, we might consider a club but probably not one that we would have to pay a membership fee AND an entrance fee.
I think we've only ever picked up a vanilla person once while on vacation in Cancun, where nobody knew us. It would normally be the least likely for us to do if travelling domestically. I have no idea what % of people are swingers (or would even be willing to try), but I suspect that you're way less than a 50/50 chance that a random person will swing. Hell, it can be hard enough at a LS event where you KNOW 100% of the people are in the lifestyle.
We are going to the Ms coast for Labor Day week hoping to meet a nice guy to take care of my wife
When traveling to other areas, we usually do the following:
1) We post a Hot Date for the dates/locations we're traveling to
2) We'll run a search for the people/ages in the location we're traveling to within a reasonable radius. Then we'll look through the profiles and if we see any of interest we'll reach out and call attention to our plans.
3) We look at the Hot Dates for the area we're traveling to and see if we see any interesting people posting or non an attendance list. We don't limit that search to our travel dates. This helps tell us who is out there willing to attend events and play.
IrishRose - "I believe they are more into the hotwife scene, so that may be why no public pictures of the male."
Could be, but their tagline starts with "Full swap couple with Unicorn/Hotwife...." and their toggles show as much interest in couples as they do in SMs. Wouldn't be the first or last time someone's swing style changed and their profile didn't keep up.
As it applies to the topic, if they were traveling and posted a Hot Date, I can see others being frustrated about the very thing they were complaining about (i.e. inadequate pics).
Mayhem, I believe they are more into the hotwife scene, so that may be why no public pictures of the male.
Definitely agree with you though regarding that issue when dealing with both partners full swapping.
wercurious4u2 - "Pics pics pics!!! We have been on SLS for a long time and can’t tell you how frustrating, disappointing, and infuriating it is to have people reach out who have few or no pics on profiles!!!!!!"
Just for ha-ha's I took a look at your pics and there are no pictures of the male half. Your profile says you're looking for full swap so I can see others being potentially frustrated/disappointed looking at your profile for the same reasons you're complaining about.
It's OK to rant, but it doesn't help your cause if you're guilty of the same things you're ranting about ;-) You may well have him in a private gallery, but you could include at least one of him in the public gallery. It doesn't have to show his face. Women want to also get at least some idea of what they're getting out of the deal and, in some cases, they are the ones doing the looking.
