@MNJFLA, thank you for your post. I'm a new member on this site though not new to "swinging" (But Not A Full Timer Either), I too have been having the same issue. I thought this sort of thing only happened to single men (Well Certain Single Men), and while I'm sorry that it happened to you - in a way I'm relieved to see that it can happen to couples too. Now I don't feel as bad for not getting responses to the messages I've sent out lol.
I think all/most couples are in the same boat on this site. During our years on this site we have met 2 couples in person. We’ve had numerous hot dates responded to and plans made, only one couple has ever shown up. Most single guys are gung ho when messaging, then they disappear when it’s time to meet. We’ve met one guy that is consistent in making plans and showing up. There’s a reason why the political forums are the most used, people are on here to bitch, moan and argue with the anonymity that Facebook doesn’t provide. “Single” men are on here to try to find something to jerk off to while their wives are at work. Go to a club, your chances are 1000 times better than trying to meet the fakes & flakes roaming the internet.
Nina & I could have written the same post you did. Again, we have had very little success with being contacted by other couples. Maybe other folks are just looking for perfection or maybe they are so overwhelmed with the slew of fakes that they assume every profile is a fake.
Frank & Nina
<p><a href="https://staging.swinglifestyle.com/profile/lookup.cfm?usercode=63258078">MNJFLA</a>,</p>
<p>I noticed that you have created a group, but you did not finish filling out the Description and you have no members. That could be a great tool to meet people. Finish filling it out and create a Meet and Greet event using the group, since that is what you say your group is about. </p>
Online is terrible.
Go to clubs/parties. Meet in person.
Saying you are professionals can cause non professionals to think you are not interested in anyone with less than a masters degree. If you only want to swing with people like yourself, fine. That is your choice.
If you do not care how much they earn or if the have more than a high school education, you should stop saying you are retired professionals.
Do not rely on online sources - it often seems that most are not really here to meet & play given how often & how quickly those that respond say no.
Use online sources to find parties and events. If people have made the effort to show up they generally at least want to meet and are much more likely to say yes to play. They don't have details like age, weight, poor photos, etc. to get in the way of your real life appearance and personality.
Well we have been in the lifestyle most of our marriage. We have been on swinger sites for a long time, a few of them. We send many many inquiries and can count on one hand the number of times we have been contacted. My thoughts are maybe we are doing something wrong. We do take the time to read their profile, look a their photos, and send a heartfelt message. We are in our 60s, have lost like 60 # each and are very clean and dressed well. We are retired professionals, and very sociable. NOW what are we doing wrong, why do we not generate more interest? What should we do differently to generate more activity ? Any suggestions will be appreciated..
