Entitled couples

We use the block feature simply to cut down on what we see.

Since there is no hide feature why keep looking at the same profile 100's of times rather than making it not show up?

I would never want our profile to be accessed by a type of profile we have no interest in. I'm much more comfortable how it is today where you block SM then I would be if they could see us and just not message us.

We are on here to meet potential playmates, not to be exhibitionists. If we are not interested in single males not interested in any form of exhibitionism, then why would we have our profile open to a population we are not interested in and serving purely as an exhibit to them?

No it hasn't been explained. It's been dodged several times. Best of luck to you.

It was explained, you just didn’t like the explanation. Looking at all the threads with you complaining and wanting changes, changes to exactly how you want of course, I’m starting to think you may just be a troll. You got me! Good luck having the site change all of the things to your liking.

I'm giving them full access to everything but messages, you don't want them to be able to even see a profile, pictures, certs, and more. I have no idea how you think that is more freedom.

Again,

Tell me how blocking them so they can't see anything at all is more freedom than letting them see all members but simply not message some of them?

I’ll assume you realize how selfish what you’ve been saying is, why else would you ask how something is fair to them. Freedom comes into play when you’re free to block them. On this socializing site, they’re free to message anybody that doesn’t have them blocked. When you say you want access to their profile (them having access to yours is a bullshit argument because you don’t want them contacting you) however, the only messages that will be sent are from you to them, you’re trying to take something away from them that you don’t have any power to take. It’s not always about what you want.

So how is completely blocking them where they can't even see you some how better than letting them see you but not message you?

If anything the way it is now takes away even more freedom and totally negates your last statement.

“ And they would have unlimited access to my profile, pics, and certs. Why is that a problem?”

Maybe they want to say hello to the person they’re checking out? In all honesty, the only problem that has been brought up is the desire to look back and forth at each others profiles, however, God forbid somebody try to start a conversation with the person that’s been checking them out for a while. Personally I don’t see that as a problem at all, appears somebody else does. People don’t realize how beautiful freedom is until it’s taken away.

And they would have unlimited access to my profile, pics, and certs. Why is that a problem?

“I really think it should be that you can block single men from CONTACTING YOU, but not block their profiles altogether.”

So you have unlimited access to their profile, their pictures, their certs, however, they are forbidden from saying hello to you. Yup, that makes sense.

" This site is to socialize. If you don’t want to socialize with certain people that’s your choice. However, you don’t have a right to tell others who they can socialize with. Don’t want a message from single guys? Block them. It’s not that complicated. "

It is more complicated than that. I have single male friends on SLS who I want them to be able to see my profile, or in one case leave me a cert for an event he hosted. So if I block all single men those men can't even see my profile. Also, as I stated there are times my FWB and I will want to find single men, which you can't do if you have them blocked.

I really think it should be that you can block single men from CONTACTING YOU, but not block their profiles altogether. And I say this as a person with a single male profile who would be directly affected by this change.

I knew what you were getting at. We're not looking for SMs but we have had some nice convos with SMs here and just might have met one or two...

There really are some decent SMs on here.

I wasn’t directing the whole blocking thing solely at you guys, kinda a blanket statement. If you weren’t offended but a little put off, ask him if he’d like to chew on your butthole while you take a big shit in his mouth. You’ll probably never hear from him again. If you do, it would make for quite a hilarious back & forth.

There are people on here that are all in at checking out guys dick pics, but oh hell no, don’t send me a message. That’s where I was going with the whole block/don’t block hypocrisy.

" When people ask me, I tell them: If the profile is not blocking you and you are interested in them, send them a nice message, regardless of what the profile text says. "

That is horrible advice. Others have already stated reasonable answers why. Ignoring the request is one thing, but actually encouraging others to ignore it is even worse.

"I’d have fun with it and troll the shit out of him, but that’s just me. If it was so offensive to you, why didn’t you block him before the multiple messages?"

I don't think I said it was offensive, other than they obviously didn't read our profile.

We didn't block him. We've blocked very few people over the years. it takes a lot more than that for us to block someone. The messages were all sent to us over about a 1 or 2 hour period. We had been offline for about 16 hours before we logged back on and saw them.

The only people I troll is an occasional email or text or response to something I'm trying to see online. The last time was a truck- the responder had some kinda scam asking me to send a code Google would text me to access my Google account to prove I was a "legitimate seller". I got a code from Google, but I didn't even know I had a Google account.

I sent him a number, but not the one Google sent me and he got pissed... guess he couldn't get into my Google account- whatever that is.

Mrs. Bucks says if someone is willing to clean the house with no compensation she doesn't care what they wear.

<p>"<span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">Damn, now I have to go change my blue shirt ;-)"</span></p>

<p><span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">I used that analogy because I have a blue shirt with a cat playing a piano on it. I love it but my wife hates it, but I wear it anyway.</span></p>

<p>"<span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:open sans,sans-serif; font-size:14px">Sending messages to couples whose profile says not to will ALMOST certainly result in a poor outcome..."</span></p>

<p>www.youtube.com/watch?v=zMRrNY0pxfM</p>

<p>In all seriousness, that is the position some people are going to take. Maybe after having many failures.</p>

<p>I met my wife online. Her profile said no married men and I was still married (but separated) at the time. I contacted her anyway and it worked out and we are happily married. I give advice based on experience.</p>

"Starting today, I do not want you to wear blue shirts anymore. I say no to you wearing blue shirts."

Does hotluvrs want anything from you that would make him wish to entertain your demand? If yes, then he might consider even semi-unreasonable conditions, if the potential reward was sufficiently interesting to him.

Will the penalty for not complying cost him anything he might want? If yes, then he'd be advised to carefully consider the penalty for not doing so.

Sending messages to couples whose profile says not to will almost certainly result in a poor outcome, so encouraging anyone to do so is just poor advice.

Damn, now I have to go change my blue shirt ;-)

“I have always wanted to find a couple to go out with and tease both a pussy and a cock in the bar where the sexual tension makes me do anything you want, suck your cock from under the bar table while fingering your sweet wet pussy until you squirt all over the booth"

We've received more than 1 message from that guy. Each of them were expressed more interest in me than in Mrs. G. We feel we're entitled to not respond and/or block SMs like that.

We get plenty of messages, however, nothing like that. I’d have fun with it and troll the shit out of him, but that’s just me. If it was so offensive to you, why didn’t you block him before the multiple messages?

This site is to socialize. If you don’t want to socialize with certain people that’s your choice. However, you don’t have a right to tell others who they can socialize with. Don’t want a message from single guys? Block them. It’s not that complicated.

<p>"<span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:open sans,sans-serif; font-size:14px">What&rsquo;s the number one rule in the swinger world? &ldquo;No means no&rdquo;, which should not be interpreted to mean &ldquo;no means maybe&rdquo;. If a profile says &ldquo;don&rsquo;t contact us&rdquo; and you do it anyway, there is a good chance that you&rsquo;ll ignore any and all subsequent limits."</span></p>

<p><span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:open sans,sans-serif; font-size:14px">And it might be the number one rule I see people break. Yes, people have their limits. People will ignore some "No's" but not other "No's".</span></p>

<p><a href="https://www.swinglifestyle.com/profile/lookup.cfm?usercode=27163084">hotluvrs</a>,</p>

<p>Starting today, I do not want you to wear blue shirts anymore. I say no to you wearing blue shirts. I'm guessing you are not going to comply with my "no to blue shirts" because it is an unreasonable request. Creating a profile on a personals site, opening it to a group of people and then telling that group of people not to contact you is going to be considered unreasonable to many. I consider it unreasonable. I'm not going to do it in a profile because I already know a certain number of people aren't going to pay any attention to it. </p>

<p>Within reason, you can place whatever you want in your profile, but some aren't going to read it, some aren't going to understand it and some are just going to ignore it. No point in complaining about it because that is not going to change. If it is really a big deal to you, you will have to block that person or that group. </p>

"...send them a nice message, regardless of what the profile text says."

Yeah, no. The chance of that working in any sort of positive way is about 0.00000001, for the reason hotluvrs made clear. If you can't be fucking bothered to listen to what I say in a profile, I'm pretty sure you're no more reliable with consent in person.

Also, I think a guy showing up in a French maid's outfit and cleaning my house, with or without some sort of sexual recompense is a step up from most submissive men, who are a giant pain in the ass and not in a fun way, because as a rule they're just takers (and should be paying dommes rather than bedeviling the rest of us).