Is this common?

Hi Frank and Nina and Merry Christmas and Happy New Year..

So we have been active swingers well over 30 years.. about 5-6 times we ran into couples who BOTH were not on the same page. Almost what you described. Couple incidents when the wife excused herself to go to the ladies' room,, the husband asked US to talk the wife into swapping/ swinging lifestyle. Needless to say we ended that meet as soon as she came back and told them they were NOT on the same page and not what we were looking for. If anyone's jealous drop them like a hot potato.. if they lied about anything in person or the profile same thing!

So we have refined what we do.. and now after a chat on SLS we set up a phone chat with ALL parties and ask if all are on the same page and what they expect swinging.. better yet set up a meet right after your initial chat and see firsthand if all are on same page..

We are NOT here for the games so many play on SLS.. lots of phonies, married guys looking to cheat and talk the wife into swinging.. photo voyeurs , collecting CERTS for talking but never play, etc.. If you get a bad VIBE call it off immediately only leads to bad things for all..

Now once you get a great couple or single.. its so much fun, exciting and laughs for all while having some great sex! we have even traveled with some long time ones ! Its only sex not love!

Hi all, first of all happy holidays and a soon to be happy 2024. OK now on to my question. Is the following scenario common? How can we spot it and avoid it and when we do experience it how to handle it. This has happened to us twice. The scenario is that we meet a couple online and we all seem interested in each other. We meet once as a couple’s’ date and everything goes well. Now when it comes to a second or third date where things may develop into playtime all of a sudden, the wife of the more “experienced” couple disappears from the picture. Lots of lame excuses like she is getting her nails done, is studying for a graduate course, has a sore ankle, etc. Of course, the husband still wants to get together with us for MFM or just get together with Nina alone. With one couple when we confronted them, they did admit that the wife has no interest in the lifestyle and she is just the bait but another couple insists that all of the excuses are real. OK so back to the original question as to how to avoid this and recognize this behavior? Thanks
Frank & Nina