Friend request

Shorty_Paula - Some on here look at Friend requests like FaceBook followers, thinking the more the better. A Friend request is generally something that should come after some interactive messaging. Otherwise, it's highly unlikely those Friend requests will lead to anything useful to you.

Also look at how far aware they're coming from. Unless you want to consider camming, which is not something I'd suggest, a friend request from someone hundreds of miles away is not likely to lead to anything. I tend to like to keep our Friends list to people that we could at least potentially meet, unless I found them VERY interesting.

Someone that sent a Friend request with no other contact, that won't even respond to your DM, is not interesting. You can un-friend people BTW.

Hi All,

I realize this is a very old thread, but I do want to agree with the comments.

When I started as a free member I kept getting messages I couldn't read. When I upgraded to monthly I find bunches of friend requests but no messages, pictures, or anything else!
So I read about the friending process and saw the caution"threat" that the friend feature will be utilized soon.

As a person brand new with no clue how to navigate the site or lifestyle, I assumed the members who'd friended me without one word or pic were wise and I'd better follow along! So I accepted a few. I also asked by DM one or two couples why they friended me w/o even a hi or pic? I've never gotten a response.

Or a hi or Pic! ??

Finding this post and seeing the original date it seems the imminent roll out isn't at all!

Oh well. Just one more thing.... Happy hunting!

I think there are many shy folks out there that think that a friend request is an ice breaker; rarely it is.
Frank & Nina

Its the facebook culture think about your other social media (assuming you have it) how many friends, followers, buddy's do you have that you barely know and really have no shared interest with? i honestly believe some people don't know any better or its their way of trying to initialize a conversation,

Out of curiosity and sheer boredom I just downloaded the app and tried it in there. You are indeed asked to confirm that you want to send a friend request. And it's damn hard to hit yes by mistake IMO.

So anyone saying they did it in the app by mistake is probably not being honest.

the Mrs just has no interest in it. For her, the chatting online that comes so naturally to me, for whatever reason, is like someone stuck a mic in front of her and asked her to make an impromptu speech

Exactly the same here. The Mrs has no interest in chatting, texting or any other online communication. She wants to meet face to face and see where things lead

Back on topic. This friends feature is a waste. And it's being used by lazy folks as a type of wink to show interest. They should just send a note of interest and see what happens IMO.

Question: on the website you are asked to confirm a friend request before it's sent. This makes it really difficult to send one without meaning to, as it should be. Does the app not ask for confirmation when you hit friend request? Seems like an easy solution.

I've noticed that it's easy to accidentally hit the friend request button on your phone...

MNJFLA - I think what it shows is that if you were to meet in person, you may run out of things to talk about. It could be that you don't have enough common interests, but it could also be that some people just aren't that talkative online, or otherwise.

The reason I do all of the online communication is that the Mrs just has no interest in it. For her, the chatting online that comes so naturally to me, for whatever reason, is like someone stuck a mic in front of her and asked her to make an impromptu speech. However, meet her in person over drinks and I sometimes have a problem getting a word in edge-wise.

While there is a good chance that someone that doesn't chat well online may do the same in person, there is little harm in meeting them to see if that's the case and the opportunity arises.

Also, when it comes to friends, we are the type that realize everyone has lives. We sometimes go months without getting together (LS and vanilla), but when we do, it's as if no time has passed for us and we enjoy the moment.

I will accept a friend request after chatting sometimes.. If they do not continue to carry on a conversation in a while I just delete, the request. I feel that if IM not important enough to talk to IM not going to keep them as friends. ??? Any thoughts ????

If this is from the app and on a phone, I can see that. There just isn't enough real estate on a phone screen for me to use it efficiently. Little keys + big fingers = many typos.

It's yet another reason I would never install the SLS app on my phone. I already do plenty of typos as it is on my laptop, nevermind a phone. I can use it if I had to. I just don't want to.

The "friend" icon is too easy to hit and I've hit it by mistake.

This could just be the crappy app, also too easy to hit the "Friend" button of you are using the web version on a mobile phone.

I have been guilty of sending a request by accident, fortunately able to withdraw the request before it landed badly.

In a word, the reason for this is "laziness". They are wishfull thinking that they can do a minimal effort reaching out and somehow peak your interest.

Many times it will be a SM, which I generally ignore since we aren't really looking for SMs. If it's a couple, I may take a look if they are local. As mentioned already, if they are 100's of miles away, what's the point unless they plan on visiting or moving into our area. If it's not likely we can meet I will just deny the friend request.

Some people seem to think you need a friend request to help keep track of someone to chat with via messages, but you obviously don't. I like to keep our friends list limited o people we can actually meet, or ones that we have met.

We have it in ours.. and we get requests weekly its amazing how no one really reads ones profile..

We're gonna steal that, Hop, thank you! We get a ton of those randomly.

We place a statement at the end of our profile that "we do not utilize the friend me feature" which makes it a great indicator that someone has not completely read through our profile when a request comes in.

I'm still waiting to find out what new features will utilize the Friend category - pretty sure there's something connected with the Wall (which I also don't use) but haven't heard of anything else yet. So for now I deny all requests.

Not that I don't trust the programmers to have our best interests at heart but given past experience they'll enable a feature that I don't like or allow access to all photo galleries and we'll find out months later, maybe. ;-)

FRIENDING: we generally only friend people that are close enough to meet, or those we have actually met. We have deleted requests, and even people who do not talk to us or will possibly meet, we delete.

They think SLS is FB.. talked about so many times here.. and it just keeps happening!

For now on we delete them and block them... as stated in our profile.

Why is it that some folks do a friend request before they have spoken to you? No pics open, no chatting, just be my friend.....SMH