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If you go to the block list in your profile and happen to have a list longer than one page, when you click next or any subsequent page, it redirects to the Favorites page. If you're trying to unblock a profile that is on the 2nd or later p…
I had mine done right at 3 years ago now. Tbh, it was more in my head than anything else. I'm not going to say it was pain free but I've had other injuries that hurt far more and for longer. Keep in mind there's 2 holes in each nipple. One…
Fwiw, we've been in the LS for 15 years and only heard it used for the first time about 5 years ago. The English language evolves pretty rapidly at times.
I should have clarified. Both unicorns and dragons are single or play separately from their primary partners with a couple in a MMF or MFF. I feel dragons are more common than unicorns though.
A dragon is the male equivalent of a unicorn. Unicorns are bi women and dragons are bi men. Both are used in the context of a threesome usually as the 3rd can play with both partners.
The ones that get us are tyoically single males with a screen name that references it being a couples profile at some time in the past. The optics just aren't good and immediately raises red flags.
Weve added text to our profile to ask for folks to have somewhat current (last few years) pics. We have some that are 10 years old and some that are new. But since the addition of the upload date, its become painfully clear many profiles h…
While I've grown a beard a few times over the years, they never lasted longer than a few months before I shaved them off. However, I started one back in October and for whatever reason, the little bit of gray in it really turned the wife o…
M half here. Both of us have our nipples pierced and enjoy the addition to play they provide. We both like a bit of pain at times, especially on the nips and the piercings provide a better place to grip than without. Mine rarely show throu…
SNL has always touched on the political but sometime in the early 2000s it turned from political satire that playfully mocked the entire spectrum (Bush Sr.'s broccoli comment and various Clinton/Lewinsky skits) to a political platform. I p…
@Mayhen - If someone is offended by a run of the mill colloquium - that is the truth based of our and others' Inboxes- that's a them problem, not mine. It was clear he hadn't even visited our profile and the initial message was likely a cu…
Well, the SM that caused us to make the first post in this chain finally go one-upped. The contact today is as follows. SM: Gives height, weight and age, says he's interested Us: Your profile tells us minimal about your interests and our p…
We used to be that way. Heck, he even listed as straight years ago due to the stigma which was much more prevalent then than today. In certain parts of the US, it's still more common than not to be shunned because of a bi male. Nowadays, w…
The issue with SlS pics vs other is SLS' attempt at a shitty app. Google and Apple have very tight restrictions on what can be shown via an app in their stores. In order to comply, SLS has to make sure no naked photos are shown. But they p…
Because it's hidden on the site. You either have to go to "Tools" and navigate thru there or access it through the edit profile after going to Galleries. It's far from intuitive. Also, why do the colors change when I go to Tools? It appear…
Owcangrace - That's alot of defending the site. You sure you aren't Wayne parading around as another profile or being paid to say this by SLS? SLS has simply been around the longest compared to everything else out there. It was the first m…
I would reply to ownacouple or whatever the name is but I didn't commit it to memory before clicking the reply. Other sites allow a direct reply to a post so people aren't scrolling thru 20 posts to figure out which comment someone is repl…
Wayne - maybe it's because the rest of the site is clunky compared to your competitors out there. The look is just incredibly dated. I've said it before and I'll say it again. This site continues to look like it was coded in 1995 Frames. T…
God forbid SLS actually update it's code. I mean it only looks like it's been 30 years. Might be good for another 30 as long as someone, somewhere is running Netscape on a P100 processor.
We keep well groomed but haven't stayed bald for years. Tbh, both of us have sensitive skin. For me, i spent years waxing or sugaring my back. I would break out severely unless I took enough benadryl to knock out a rhino. Pretty much ensur…
It depends on your perspective. Other than a handful of close vanilla friends, I'm only open about being bi with those it matters with. It's really on a need to know basis. We dont follow the LGBTQIA scene where sexuality defines us. That…
@YMichael - That's the way it could be with us if SM read and respected our profile. We often times reach out after someone views our profile. Tbh, its an easy and lazy way to search on our end but we are not bashful in reaching out either…
Sent to 2 single male profiles tonight: Sorry, your profile is not inspring and your effort here isnt either. It's truly a reflection of the effort you put into other aspects of your life, including potentially sex. You've been on this sit…
We recently had a spat of SM messages along the lines of "I want to cum deep in your wife's pussy." We've gotten to the point that our standard response is "A simple 'Hey I'm interested " would have been enough. And in case you can't compr…
As we roll into the holiday season, a generally slower time which allows for some reflection, we've managed to find ourselves reflecting back on 2024. It was a big year for us with lots of big life events. One of those has allowed us to ha…
It just happened a few weeks back. There's a Bi Week Lite earlier in the year (I can't remember what they call it) but Bi Week is October 4-11 2025. All the kids will be away at college or out of the house by then so looking to be our firs…
Up until recently, I was basically all bottom. But had a recent encounter where I topped and the dynamic was hot. As a bottom, I usually take a more sub role with men but this time i just went with the flow. Taking control and being Dom wi…
@Wayne - we checked and yes it was there from years ago. The profile itself had not logged in for 291 days so not a new message by any means.
Right now, at this very moment, we have a mystery birdie flying over our messages saying there's one in our inbox. But we've gone thru the top 10 messages and looked elsewhere and can't find any unopened message. Go figure.
Yeah, we sorted them alphabetically and it's still missing. Nowhere in the chat list but accessible if we go to the profile and click Message.
We are currently missing at least one message chain with a profile from our inbox. We began a new conversation earlier today with a new profile. On our end, all messaging and navigation was done on mobile thru the SLS web page (i.e. NOT th…
2muchfun - We are moving to party only as well. But it'd almost like mourning a death. We very much enjoyed the couples dating and such when we first got into it 15 years ago. Back then, SLS was still mostly true swingers. Over the last fe…
Who knows? We did but SLS is horrible at tracking views. Maybe he is on mobile and it doesn't show. Who knows.
So for reference all you SMs looking to find play partners, please keep in mind that first contact is important. And that a no today doesn't mean a no tomorrow. I'm paraphrasing the convo but it went something like this: SM: I'm going to b…
There are a number of fake cum lubricants out there that you can buy. Just do a Google search for it and you'll come across what's available for sale. If you want to make it at home, I suggest starting with a water and methyl cellulose bas…
While we used to reply to everyone, we no longer will reply to what we call "feeler" messages. These are normally single males but all profile types do it. Basically it's a short, impersonal message like "Hey how's it going?" There's no in…
Unfortunately, this doc I went to had very good, very high reviews. However, this was a newer office in Denver, CO (the original is in CO Springs). They had massive turnover at the time, to the point that out of 4 pelleting treatments, I n…
I'll update my experience since I started this post 2 years ago. In short, my experience long term with pellets was not good. Yes, starting out, I had some great results. But the doctor I was seeing was very, very unscrupulous. He kept tel…
For us, kissing is kissing. We enjoy it in any shape, form or fashion your heart desires.
We've had foam non Posturpedic mattresses for the last 13 or so years. Our first was a Simmons in a king on twin adjustable bases (Leggett & Platt). It lasted the full 10 years for us and we then passed it down to one of the kids since the…
Until I had Lasik in January, I was about 20/600 without glasses. As such, more often than not, I wore them just to be able to see anything that wasn't six inches from my face. Other than needing to clean them afterwards, I normally didn't…
Had a couple message us today. When it popped up, there was a message from a few weeks prior that we didn't get. On top of that, to get to the message, we had to go to their profile and select message. When we tried to select the message f…
I think it's a potential money laundering scheme. The outages and fixes are only a cover for generating IT work orders and paper trails.
Slipped in the shower and fell on it. Kinda like how shampoo bottles end up in the backdoor and someone goes to the ER.
We generally play together when it's MF play but do have same sex (MM, FF) hall passes. Several of our playmates are gay and have no interest in having the opposite sex around.
Everyone has their own arogenous zones. As for us (we both got both nipples pierced at the same time), the pain wasn't bad. Female hormones made hers a bit sore for longer but his were ready for mild play within hours.
Love having mine played with so much that I got them pierced back at the beginning of October. It's a long healing process but hopefully by March I'll be able to swap the piercing bars our for heavier hoops or something similar. We've rece…
Italian- I can say we would only join the new site if our Unlimited/Lifetime membership transferred over. Based off our experience over the last few years here, there's no way we would consider giving SLS/Dashboard any more money until it'…
We were surfing the social media site with the little bird tonight and may or may not have happened upon an unofficial poll regarding site performance. Obviously can't link to it but a search with the hash tag of Swinglifestyle may or may…
And an update - swiping is working now. I would use an emoticon shrug right here but then again the website doesn't support that either.
Thanks for the compliment couple! Probably user error again. Haven't cleared the cache or reset something on our end. You know, one of those things that websites built post 2000 automatically do behind the scenes but since this website run…
Swiping left or right in galleries to move from one pic to another now doesn't work. Checked out 6 profiles with multiple pics. Only way to advance from one pic to another is to use the arrows at the top of the page.
Banner gone, undefined gone. But logged in and had no notification we had messages but when we went to the message page, we had 4 new messages. Site sometimes loads fine, sometimes takes minutes to load a page. But I'm sure Wayne will blam…
Ok, who forgot to feed the hamsters this weekend? The website is crawling at a snails pace for any useful link.
Wayne - the condescending tone is oh so appreciated. It's pointed out that the site looks and works in a very dated manner. But that's dismissed as just an opinion. Should I just find an old version of Netscape to view this page in? Or may…
Wayne - Auto logoff of the site is inconsistent. Sometimes, it logs us out after an hour or so of inactivity. Just now, I was in this forum reading, maybe for 5-10 minutes. Went back to the main forum page (using the back button) then went…
While we have yet to visit, there is a club here in Denver that does have LGBTQ+ nights and overall is more queer than most clubs. It's called the Rack Room Denver. It's more of a kink club than your normal swingers club. But hope to visit…
So the "Newest Match" for us on the home page is now showing up from 1800 miles away. We are in Colorado (confirmed our profile still says this) but the newest match for us is located in Boston, MA. But of course the site is now "fixed"
It's taken 10 minutes of trying to log in, refresh, click and wait just to get to this page. Now when we click on Messages, we get a message that says "You have no messages " and the ENTIRE message history is GONE. Like every single messag…
I would also suggest talking to your doctor about anxiety. You don't have to mention sex even. But I had some undiagnosed anxiety about other things in life about 18 months ago. My doctor put me on a very low dose of Citalopram. While perf…
As for him, the traditional barbells that are used for the initial piercing have yet to show thru on any shirt really. A lot depends on the shape of your chest but so far not even folks that have seen him in an undershirt or the like have…
Wife and I both just got both of our pierced on Oct 1st 2022. I have been considering it for years (now age 44) and finally said screw it. 24 hours in and I have no regrets. The pain wasn't even that intense. Yeah, it hurt a touch, particu…
We haven't been on the forums in a bit so apologies if you've already visited. Generally speaking, The Scarlet Ranch is one of the classier clubs you'll find throughout the US. It's BYOB as are most on premises play clubs. The restaurant i…
My wife and I are very much into the compersion aspect of swinging. That is to say we get immense amounts of joy from watching others (including our partners) give and receive pleasure. There is never any pressure to do anything but we're…
We are considering an expat position for him in Columbia S. America. Initially it would be fly in fly out for about a year with the plan to probably move to Santa Marta or nearby fulltime after that first year. Are there any other expats o…
While we've never hooked up in a gay bar or club, we do love the atmosphere and music varieties that come with the LGBT scene. We aren't fond of bi erasure (it happens on both sides of the spectrum) but overall, the people tend to be more…
Thanks RonKathy for the support. I'm much more educated on it than I was 15 years ago when I was diagnosed. The best advice I can give anyone is to listen to your body. The "normal" range for male T levels is roughly 200 to 800. Early on,…
Thanks everyone for the advice. The question is specifically if anyone has had spontaneous reversal though. I'm pretty familiar with what dosing under normal conditions produces the correct levels. Prior to pelleting, I was doing 300 mg (1…
M half here. A bit of background. I was diagnosed with adult onset idiopathic hypogonadism or low testosterone in layman's terms at age 26. From then until about 37, I used Androgel at which point I switched to injections. I didn't mind th…
M half here. A bit of background. I was diagnosed with adult onset idiopathic hypogonadism or low testosterone in layman's terms at age 26. From then until about 37, I used Androgel at which point I switched to injections. I didn't mind th…
We just state in our profile to let us know immediately upon messaging what your play is regardless of what you state one you profile. But we almost always play with bi SM and seek out couples with a bi F and at least some level of curiosi…
I used to live in Fairmont and find it surprising that there used to be that many holes. I lived in WV from 2003 to '13 and it was the absolute worst place I've ever lived for swinging, let alone bi/gay male play. Im not knocking the state…
My first MM play was with a much older M during Hurricane Bonnie in 1998. Most of the region had been called off work due to the hurricane and I was just barely 20, living in Greenville, NC. My apartment complex friends had a hurricane par…
We have hall passes but given both our orientations, we typically reserve them for same sex play. We are both comfortable enough to understand and accept that even though we are 100 percent committed to each other, she can't give him the M…
Maybe it's just us but we have had a recent surge in single male views, hence triggering us looking at more SM than usual. An overarching theme of profile pics is that most that show the face fall either into one of 2 categories. First is…
Happened to us this evening around 6 pm ET. We must have clicked the message button 10x and every time it opened to the list rather than a message to that profile. As of 10:30 pm ET tonight, it appeared to be working normally again.
@Mayhem - The glass one we had as well as most metal ones are DW safe and super easy to disinfect completely. Per Sybians website, the medical grade silicon attachments are DW safe as well. I would venture to say that something that's been…
Aside from either completely metal or glass, the other materials are very difficult to sterilize. We had a glass one that some friends liked (and we didn't) that we gifted them but would never consider selling any of them to strangers. The…
Even though we've known each other almost our entire lives, we were living in separate states when we started dating/swinging over 11 years ago. She was in NC and he was in WV, hence the name. Even though we now live in CO, we've kept the…
Can anyone that runs this site provide any insight into when these "upgrades" will be in place and what they might actually be? All we are asking for is a website that actually functions 99% of the time. Yes, we too would like to see some…
He just about got one! Let's just say that his phone was temporarily confiscated,gone through and all photos video were reviewed. Anything inside the club was deleted. Then we bounced. It was 4 burly men vs him. He didn't stand a chance ha…
We moved out of WV about 8 years ago but at that time (and today) it appears the Riverside Club is still the only club. We frequented it a few times over the years but left on very bad terms with the owner and never went back. In short, he…
Please don't advertise the zone Chalet as a LS resort. Its far from it and most will be very disappointed. It's basically just a shifty 1975 hotel that doesn't care where you fuck at.
If you're interested in the Scarlet Ranch, there's a Best Western (I believe that's what it is) about 2 minutes from it. As for the Mon, its a play place and not really a place to stay. The beds are there for fucking and not sleeping. Over…
We're headed to NOLA in June and would like to know about any LS friendly hotels, bars or clubs in and around the French Quarter.
Doesn't appear to be fully functional. Showing an event on Hot Dates calendar when viewed from our profile for Friday April 16th. But when you go to that date, no events, just the currently 3 Hot Dates. Also, is the server on dial up? Ther…
@Goodgolly - This entire site has become a workaround.
And this is going to give you what level of comfort? Let us be clear on our stance. Absofuckinglutely no. We clearly communicate our std test results if asked because those are directly related to the activity at hand. Outside of that, nob…
We can honestly say that if we entered the lifestyle today, SLS would not be on our list of sites worthy of our money. There are a number of reputable sites out there other than SLS that simply put, are just 1,000x better at everything tha…
We aren't too picky as long as as there's been a smidgen of an attempt to keep it neat. The Mrs keeps her bush somewhere between Brazilian bald and closely trimmed. He usually keeps the back door to the berries trimmed or smooth with the m…
In the MM community, bottom usually refers to the man who is taking cock in their ass. Top is the one providing said cock (or strap on). Often abbreviated as Vers, versatile or switch means that person likes to top and bottom. You will fre…
Discovered a glitch today. The moderator of a new group we joined is a couple profile but the profile has blocked other couples from viewing. Mind you, this group has mostly couples but a few singles. The system should automatically allow…
Mayhem - If the veins on the normal ones bother her, avoid the glass dildos. We tried one and it was just too much for either of us.
Sexynova hit the big issue on the head. Make sure to keep dissimilar materials from touching. We've reached into the bag after a short drought (3-4 weeks, hey, they happen with life) and found one or more dildos misshapen or melted because…
I will say the one of the criteria is odd. It says headless pics aren't child safe. There's lots of pics that are otherwise fully inocent, fully clothed pics that now would not be child safe. Basically, the only child safe pics are ones th…
I use an app called Flipboard that allows you to customize news feeds. There was an article recently that had about a dozen or so different lockable storage options for sex toys. Wish sls you'd let links be posted here.
I use an app called Flipboard that allows you to customize news feeds. There was an article recently that had about a dozen or so different lockable storage options for sex toys. Wish sls you'd let links be posted here.
Wayne - Not sure if you've seen it but when one tries to navigate from the Pic approval page using the menu on the left, the menu shows up faint and you can't select any link. One has to click the sls logo in the top right, go back to home…
I recall using emojis via the app chat being one of the causes as well. I've been on the web chat with the other party on the app. They sent an emojis that the chat, for some reason, converted to a request for private Pic access.
It's a glitch. Wayne touched on it a while back but I can't remember the cause.
