As we roll into the holiday season, a generally slower time which allows for some reflection, we've managed to find ourselves reflecting back on 2024. It was a big year for us with lots of big life events. One of those has allowed us to have a slower pace of life, allowing for deeper and more reflection than years past. As active swingers, sex has always been a big part of our relationship. We were open with each other that one person wasnt enough. But 15 years ago we were inexperienced, naive, and all those words typically associated with newbies. Adventures would happen and you're sitting there comparing it to your previous vanilla life and saying to yourself "Wow, I'm really here in this scenario and it's playing out."
The recent revelation, if you will, took me back, albeit briefly to that giddy excited feeling described above. It's not that we don't have new adventures. Those still happen as there's a massive laundry list of things to accomplish. Moreover, it was from the prospective of kink and "WOW, this is where I am now in my evolution."
We've talked recently between us of a myriad kinks - I'll let you mind wander - that we've experienced or want to, some that we never in a million reasons we would either be into or would be even a remote possibility. But things happen in the heat of the moment and next thing you know one of you has a foot fetish out of nowhere that needs fueled and fed. Or you realize that certain role play dynamics, however out of place they may seem in the grand scheme of one persons life, keeps her panties wet all day.
It's not to say that we no longer enjoy "normal" swinging" (Is that a thing? Idk, I digress.) It just that our galaxy has gotten larger than we ever imagined. Before we started, i liken our world to that of what ancient Egytians knew of the cosmos - they knew something was out there bigger than them but couldn't grasp it beyond maybe the moon and the sun. As we started down our path, we were Galileo. We had the telescope and could see what was out there hoping to one day reach it with a flying machine. Today, we've got the Hubble and we've been to the moon. Our future hopefully takes us to Mars - we at least know it's theoretically possible to get humans there someday. In a weird twist of fate, we both ended up with Saturn's (nipple) rings and oddly enough made it all the way to Uranus. If our world as big as the Milky Way or beyond? We just know today that if you asked us years ago where we would be, the here and now wouldn't have even been on the radar.
Anyone else care to chime in with their own thoughts. Is it inevitable that we all evolve? I want to think not, given the high percentage of folks that can't process the long term emotions and relationship dynamics. Idk the answer. I just know that we sometimes surprise even ourselves.
