Hallpass Couples UNITE

not everyone gets to know our secrets.

She has a right to be angry. She was the only one at the table that didn't know the secret.

This is exactly why some people don't mix LS and vanilla friends. Women IMHO are more attuned to picking up non-verbal cues like this and potentially running with it. This can also put people in a position to have to choose between their new potential partner and their friends.

Every situation is different, but there will generally be some risk in mixing LS and vanilla friends.

Funly:

Yes, she was pissed and bewildered. The affection and ease between my wife and the other guy was very apparent. They had a quite a discussion when they went home later. He and my wife don't "fuck" they make love and there is a lot of emotional caring and friendship involved between them, even to this day.

Did the girl think Frau crossed a line?

While not impossible to navigate, it does complicate things if a long term friend essentially drops out of the LS by virtue of taking on a vanilla partner. In most cases, we usually do not see that friend for a very long time if that happens to us, or at all in some cases.

It's not that we don't enjoy just spending time with an old friend like that. It's more that, no matter how diligent you are, it can become the beginning of a number of small lies you have to keep straight with your new partner. The "How did you meet?" sort of questions is a potential landmine, and especially if the new mate is inquisitive.

If this is a potential life partner, I can understand why many would not want to take this risk.

Someonescoming: We have a story you may like, in response to your challenges keeping vanilla and spicy apart.

Frau and I went to dinner with my best guy friend (who has been a long-lover of hers and MFM friend for a while) and his new and sultry girlfriend. We sat at a square small table boy/girl.

Talk was genteel and relaxed. His new girl was super smart and very good looking. He told us ahead of dinner that she did not know about our threesome past and that she would not understand. So, we did not bring up erotic stuff in the least.

The food was awesome, French, and very posh.

Frau who is super comfortable with my best friend, said, "You should try this dish."

She put a bit on her fork and reached across the tiny table gently placing the delectable morsel in my friend's mouth. They locked eyes and he exclaimed how good the food was. We continued eating. Conversation was notably quieter after that.

My friend and his new girl had a lengthy private conversation later that night.

Now Frau watches how and what she does with spicy friends in public.

Oh yes.. exactly. Thought that same thing TODAY while playing Pickleball with some very beautiful ladies while Kathy down in Florida!

She comes back tomorrow GD help her and us.. its been a long week!

SOC exact same with us!

It works and is so much fun!

How do you join the Hall Pass group

Someonescoming yep, we've followed your posts for several years. Good stuff.

fraunhubby68 you guys are so awesome! Just posted to your group wall.

Calcan: We started a group. See "Hallpass Couples Unite."

We just put up a mini survey for singles and couples to fill out. Here's our way of doing things:

Original Posting: SLS profile name: fraunhubby68

Type:
Couple - x
Woman -
Man -

Marital status: married

Hall pass type: ("x" one, more)
100%, all the time - x
After spouse permission -
After initial meetup with spouse -
After friendship development -

Date type you're seeking: ("x" one, more)
Meet and play - x
Coffee/drink and play - x
Dinner and a schtupp - x
Meet, build rapport, and play - x
Meet me/spouse, and play - x
Solo date and play - x
Prefer my spouse/partner with me when I play -
Overnight with lover - x
Long weekend with lover - x
Vacation with lover - x
Take out 2nd mortgage together -
Rent a Uhaul, move in -

Hall pass relationship type you're seeking: ("x" one, more)
A quickie then you can go - x
Blindfold, a quickie, then you can go - x, depends on person
Blindfolded by you and your friends, a quickie, then y'all can go - x, depends
Wined, dined, and talked to like a lady/gentleman - x
Someone to chat with, then steamy sex - x
Bootycall only - x
Bootycall with friendship - x
Long term FWB - x (preferred)
Weekly sex time - yes please!
Monthly hot sex injection - yes please!
Intimate friendship who rocks mind/body - x
Emotional friendship + lots of sex - x
Deep connection + love-making sessions - x
Live-in lover -
Second spouse/SO, full-time -

Type of dates I like: ("x" one, more)
Beer, ballgame - x
Beer, pool/darts - x
Beer, cole slaw wrestling -
Champagne, caviar - x
Dinner, drink - x
5 courses w/sommelier visit - x
Riding pegasus on beach with you - x, yes!
Rock climbing -
Boats, sundowners - x
Topless fishing -x
Harley, dive bar -
Motel 6, burger -
The Ritz + high tea - x
Netflix and -
Dinner, dancing, hotel prancing - x
Philosophy lecture + alleyway quickie - x
Beach, cooler, sunset - x

Locations where you play/date: ("x" one, more)
Close to home - x
Only away from home -
Only on business, vacation travel -
At my place - x
At your place - x
In a neighbor's pool after we climb the fence - x
Only in a hotel -
Truck or car or boat - x
Outdoors - x

I like my spouse/SO to...: ("x" one, more)
Know with whom, what, where I'm playing - x
Not know anything about my fun -
Know the sexy details - x
Be with us -
Be close-by when I play -
Be nowhere near us when I date or play -
Be our camera guy/gal - x
Watch via phone video/audio -
View pics, video, audio after the fact - x
Jump in WWE tag team-style - x
Reclaim me immediately - x

Communications: ("x" one, more)
Call and text me anytime - x
Only text me to set up dates -
Put us all on group chat, we love it - x

Free form details: We have had excellent hall pass experiences and want to continue that. We're not jealous at all, though we jealously guard our successful marriage. We much prefer the good FWB style of relationship, as it has provided the sexiest and most fulfilling type of play for us and for partners. We also treat FWBs, mainly single men, with total respect and really care about their pleasure and emotions as well. Did we say we're VERY SINGLE GUY FRIENDLY? We know some guys get bad reps, but we've had truly wonderful guy friendships. We're so comfy with this style that we are ok with long dates, even overnights, but it doesn't happen often. It's more of a logistics thing. We enjoy all parties knowing each other well, but it's not an absolute requirement.

There are no rules or restrictions, and it's kind of fun to hear about how others manage their own hallpass situations.

we have chosen to only play same sex when apart too, with one exception

We are in an open relationship so we both have "Hall Passes". I (the female half of the couple) choose to only play with other women one on one.

'near criminal lack of design and execution'

Probably the best description of things here I have read, made me lol.

Thank you Calcanfun. We try to be open and fun. And he’d love that as well

Following some of your posts to the forums, Harleycouple12. Good stuff! You're pretty cool in our book.
I'd also love to crack beers with that fella of yours someday. He seems pretty OK, too.

I get a hall pass or two weekly. His only rule is I have to record it for him

If Esperanza911 responded to this thread, can't see it because we blocked that moron a long time ago.

You were complicit in their bullshit.

A lot to unpack there, cuttin2dachase. Hope you've learned from that experience and have moved on to more secure 'current' couples whom have hallpasses. And if you read the original post, COUPLES like that are really who this thread is intended for. Your post would have been more appropriate in another discussion.

As a divorced solo bi man I've met 2 different couples who gave each other hall passes. I met couple 'A' together at my place for a 3some first. They were middle aged as was I and quite attractive. We hit it off well. There was no play between him and me. He got off watching me with her and me helping him give her more orgasms, especially orally. At the end of the evening we all got dressed and enjoyed one more drink. They asked if they could meet me individually. I of course said yes, provided that neither of them met me without the other's knowledge and permission. My rule was that she'd call me if he wanted to play and he would call me if she wanted to play. There was just one hangup. She knew he was bi and curious but she didn't have any desire to watch him with other men. Neither did she want to know any details of our mm play. They wanted each other to play and explore with other men safely. Lucky me fit the bill for them both. Over the next several months each of them visited 1 or 2 times per month. She was great in bed. She loved kissing and making out and being eaten. She and I only fucked twice, using a condom. She told me it made her feel so wicked to suck me off immediately after I'd orally made her cum 2-3 times. That was fine with me LOL. He was very kinky and loved doing me orally, sometimes while wearing a pair of her panties. He and I too kissed, frotted, took faceless pics and videos with the focus being to fully suck each other off. Sometimes he didn't want me to suck him or give him a handjob. He would instead stroke himself while sucking me. The beginning of the end, though, came when he started begging me to fuck him. I was not into anal sex with either women or men. One of the rules he had with her (which I didn't know about) was that she was not to swallow my cum. He wanted her to make me cum in a condom inside her or on her body. They argued after she let it slip to him that she loved the taste of my cum as much as he did. He didn't want to see me again unless I'd fuck him or find a top to fuck him in a mmm 3some. I sure did want keep seeing her. She called me without his knowledge and we met for sex for the last time. Afterward, in our usual pillow talk she confided in me that she'd been seeing other men he didn't know about and could not stop herself. We mutually ended our fling that night. I was disappointed that it had to stop. But that kind of thing does seem to happen a lot with swinging couples. To this day I don't know if they are still together....

I will post about couple 'B'on a different thread...most likely a thread about dom wives with submissive hubbies LOL

"swingeratti" lol. That's a new one. :)