Opening pictures

@HollyBlue - I do know about the catfishing thing, I have had my photo stolen on another site some years ago.
I am not sure if you read my profile or not but it is actually on my profile 'I will only reply with messages with face pic' not sure how much clearer I can be.
It is only ethical if you decide to contact someone to drop a face pic in the message, just as it is responsible for the receiver to respond with a yes or no answer, to me, mutual attraction is key to moving to the next step. So I cannot be blamed for refusing to reply and deleting message that is without face photos or a 2 line profile. As a woman who might go out for coffee with someone, I need to have security measures in place.

Peppa, there are several people on this site who have had their pics copied and used for catfishing or other purposes. Not everyone can put their mug shots on a web site. However, most will happily show their face pics in a different place or video chat. Ask first before making an assumption and deleting the message. They could be like us and have some random person approach them at a party who says they have been chatting with us on a site they have never been on. Everyone does discretion in their own way and we may need to let them tell us or just ask how they want to share face pics.

No open photos means a automatic delete for me. What I don't understand is, some who do open their photos has a hat and sunglasses.... also automatic delete.

If there is NO interest on our part after a couple/single initiates contact with their photos & we politely bow out it would make no sense opening our photos at that point. If, on the other hand WE initiate contact then we always have photos open but never get frustrated when we are turned away.

We open our pics when we send a message to someone showing interest however; many times we either do not get a reply back or they reply back and will not open their pics.
It’s starting to make us feel reluctant to open pics. There seems to be more and more people on this site that are just plain rude.

We agree If you are a single male and you message us you need to have some explicit photos open (Face, full body and the package) or you aren’t getting a response that you like because it is assumed you aren’t for real. It’s simple.

Quiet a few people we talk to on here are pretty far from us so we do from time to time open pics for them as they do for us. Some times that is pretty hot too lol.

Travelers... MIC DROP!

The ones that get my goat are folks that have only one vague profile photo and only one private gallery with two other very vague photos. None of the three pix show their face, full bodies or anything really explicit. All show well less than the 20+ pix we have in our public gallery.

They will however send a message saying "we opened our private gallery for you, can we see yours?".

Yes.. we get it, but we are real swingers and not voyeurs as so many guys on SLS and holdovers from CL now here when they closed down.

I love to tease potentials with my pictures. So if I'm interested, I'll respond with one picture at a time to build up the sexual tension. I get a lot of messages asking to open my pictures. My profile talks about that being a huge turn off and how I like to tease, but they still ask. My man says that guys don't read profiles, they just see my pictures and the little head kicks in. lol.

If you are a single male and you message us being interested in a threesome you need to have some explicit photos open (Face, full body and the package) or you are real and you aren’t getting a response that you like because it is assumed you aren’t for real. It’s simple. We get dozens of messages and less than 10% are real.

Yup welcome to the posers of SLS

There are days when I'm convinced that fully half the active accounts here are just married guys pretending to be swingers or to still be swingers, long after that has stopped.

I stay for the forums, the event listings, and the opportunity to post a hot date when we travel. Because if I relied on this site for new partners, I'd have sex once a year at best.

No photos in public profile... we move on quickly, not what we are looking for!

" If your initiating contact with someone your interested in meeting wouldn't it be common sense to have YOUR own pictures open? "

Yes, but not everyone has a good deal of common sense.

You are not alone. It's a real PITA around here especially for a site set up to make connections with others. Just the amount of profiles that won't even include a faceless MALE photo frustrates Mrs. H. We basically use this site for listing hot dates when traveling and keep up with parties around the area. The forums are good as well with lots of experienced advice. Most of our fun comes from meeting others while out & about projecting fun energy others will gravitate towards us.

I understand it's picture collectors and fakes on this site but it stil makes absolutely no sense to ask some your interested in meeting to ask them to open their pics and you dont even have your own pictures open.

Because most anymore are fake and pic collectors

Why is it on this site people will initiate contact with you and ask you to open your pictures but yet their don't have their pictures open? If your initiating contact with someone your interested in meeting wouldn't it be common sense to have YOUR own pictures open?