MFM conundrum

@Seniors. No expectation. No disappointment. We strive for quality and character is everything. Professionalism and respect fight for second place. There are very nice single males that know the rules and exercise them well. There are also some very nice legally married males in circumstances situationally beyond their control( medical reasons, etc). It’s a what you feel moment and what you are prepared to set aside situation. Just remember the cardinal rule, single males are an addition and not a replacement. Good luck on your search and quest.

Ocbj — Since we opened our Profile to all singles — male AND female — back around Halloween, we’ve heard from nearly 70 of the former and — surprise surprise! — 0 of the latter. Your numbers aren’t that far off WRT to those who clearly didn’t read it to the end because they didn’t follow one simple instruction. Others offer really crude introductions: may I masturbate while reading your profile, would she like an erotic massage ending with a finger inside, here are some pictures of me wearing a Speedo while visibly “enthusiastic”, etc. Then there are the “my wife isn’t interested in sex anymore” guys and the ones who can meet only noon-2:00pm on weekdays. (We realize the ones who can meet any time during a weekday but not at night might work nights or have their kids on the weekend, so they’re probably not all cheaters.) All that said, we’ve got one prospect who sounds really good and we’ll definitely be setting up that initial phone call or video chat IF we decide to move forward with an MFM. Not all hope is lost! ??

Why are you even wasting your time. Like a few others, we have our profile open to single males. But, like many others, a large percentage have reading and comprehension issues. Two-thirds clearly have not read our profile when they reach out and those automatically go into the trash without even taking the time to read their message. Because of that percentage, our profile has grown to war and peace. Then a percentage of the remaining third have these real neat conditions like, I’m available now, or at lunch during the week, or between 5 and 6 pm excluding weekends and holidays. Those people make us want to drop everything we are doing because we may never get a second chance. Yes, and they too go to trash. Of the remaining, we have communicated and distance was a factor or we have met and there was nothing to pursue. What was left was about 3 nice people that we have had fun with- socially and sexually with absolutely no drama. So, accept the SM for what it is- mostly bullshit, use of pre emergent to weed out the bullshit and know that it will come down to one or two people you can have a great time with. As one respondent mentioned, and I like it, ask them to host at their home or consult with their wife if it’s a no sex in their life, bla, bla issue. Or better yet, just read between the lines and delete.

Hey - great wives deserving extra cocks live outside the major markets too.

"Great wives deserve extra cocks."

This should be on billboards in every major market.

Agree with fraun.

Great wives deserve extra cocks.

Great wives deserve extra cocks.

If we find out a man or lady with a singles profile is actually married we cut off all contact. We do not tolerate liars or cheaters. Sometimes it's easier, or safer to find a couple where they play separate with full knowledge of their partner. ~N

I play with couples only but if the hubby or wife have any issues or second thoughts I will have her call my wife or meet together with her ,I have nothing to hide I'm sure some are legit but a few wives have said they didn't believe the guy or there was a doubt and no one wants to think about that .

Exactly Fran.... plus add websites that do the research for you or ones that attorneys, investigators, corporations pay for.. used to find all.. Its that easy , especially with ones background and hooks!

We stick to our plan.. chat, meet, verify and play.. any deviation excuses we move on.. its worked great for us since we now do this.

This is typical of some single guys. But we love playing with single guys and once you find a friend or friends who enjoy it with you and you trust each other, it can be very rewarding. We enjoy it and it's probably our main form of play right now.
Check out Front Porch Swingers' podcast. They are a hotwife couple and talk extensively about their vetting and SM experiences. They, like us, prefer friends who also have sex with them.

Questions:

-Are you single? (most answer truthfully and then you can move on to vet the hall pass or not)

-What is your experience with couples or hotwives?

-Can you host us? (This is the killer question)

-Can you meet on weekends?

-What is your phone number? Email? IM name?

-How do you prefer to communicate with us?

-Hall pass - When can we chat or communicate with your wife to know it's ok to play with you?

-Hall pass - When can we meet her to get her agreement to play/meet/communicate?

Our very first lifestyle meetup was a dude fibbing that he was single. The other posters are correct. You'll get good at sensing BS quickly. We love our SMs and it's really fun. So, go for it!

The schedule thing can be valid, but as HB mentioned, usually just chatting with someone for a bit has the truth come out. Not always, but more often than not.

"...when you ask them to meet at 8:00 on a Saturday night in a very public setting lol."

8:00PM? That's past my bedtime.

I'll meet someone for lunch. LOL

SO please share your Vetting process.

Add commercial pilots like our current one.. and he has not only crazy hours but is on call and his base station is in Cincinatti. The great thing about him he has hosted at his place several times and wow what a place!

Yep Firefighters, Police, Medical people who work in hospitals, restaurant owners.. but the great single ones can HOST without question and yes even if some have kids living with them which sometimes explains situations.. But in this day and age its simple to find out and we VET all we play with.

We too have been lied too and burned several times before our Vetting process!

You can weed out a number of “single “ males by first if they have certs, have public face pics and are able to meet for an introduction on a weekend without hesitation. It’s not fool proof but married “single males” tend to be like cockroaches who scurry away from the light when you ask them to meet at 8:00 on a Saturday night in a very public setting lol.

We have run across some of those single guys that have those varied shifts or early ,morning job starts so meeting during the day has worked for them and us. We also recently had a very nice chat and interest in a married guy who said all was good with his wife allowing him to play alone. Great how about we chat with her before we meet just to confirm everything you are telling us. Poof gone!

HollyBlue — Now why did you have to go and make sense? ;-D Yeah, those are good points … thanks!

Let me throw a wrench at your never meet list. There are many who work odd late shifts and mid -morning to midday is when they are able to meet. Also, there are several who are single fathers and they too can most easily meet midday. Sure many of the midday men are sneaking around or are hoping to. Just ask some questions and find out a little more about them before ruling some good possibilities. Video chat before meeting them for a drink and you can figure out if they are single or not. Have known many medical professionals who don’t have anything close to normal hours.

ionsawmill - Sounds like sage advice. I did have to look up the Don't Ask, Don't Tell (DADT) acronym, but agree.

ion — Pretty much our thoughts too … thanks for confirming!

I say this as a married guy dating single: do not meet a married guy who is not willing to put you on cam with his wife. You don't want the drama of getting called to testify in their divorce preceding.

Don't meet guys who claim that their wives are no longer interested in sex. Do not meet guys who say they have a DADT agreement with their wives. Don't meet guys who say they can only meet between the hours of such-and-such and such-and-such on a weekday afternoon.

Yet more… heard from a single — allegedly — male whose profile is woefully lacking any meaningful content, has no pictures, and says he likes “daytime meetings during the week.” We’re pretty sure this one is a no-go! ;-D

I think that's exactly what happened.

We don't condone cheating but gee whiz if you're going to do it at least be better at it.