Implants
It's called capsular contracture, the scar tissue around the implant has hardened. She should probably see a surgeon at some point. I had cancer and saw a few surgeons before my surgery and I was told capsular contracture can happen at any…
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EQUELLE
If she had HR+ positive cancer she should probably stay away from any kind of systemic estrogen, even things that minic estrogen. Solgar makes a menopause relief supplement that my PCP and oncologist approved of. Unfortunately it doesn't h…
Completely Transparent See Through Bras - A Hubby Question For The Ladies
Negative Underwear. A little pricey, but very comfortable, and IMO higher quality than other pieces I have.
Let's talk boobs
"Any thoughts to make her feel better?" I am a few years out from my diagnosis and we have only met one person since then. We make it clear from the beginning that I have implants, absolutely no breast tissue left and at this point I am no…
Meeting Swinger Friends
OP's profile is a turn off for sure. But they have multiple certs, so meeting people isn't an issue, I guess. It sounds like they're looking for friends outside of a club setting, and they are struggling with that. If they, or specifically…
Traveling a short or long distance to meet a new play partner
"it also depends on the quality of our online interaction" This. We've happily traveled a few hours to meet people. But we aren't going to drive for someone when the online/text interaction hasn't been great. We usually drive anywhere from…
Cross contamination question
FYI, sex (PIV) alone can cause a UTI. Some people are just prone to them. I did get a yeast infection from a guy, twice. After the second time it was clear there was an issue between him and I so we stopped seeing him.
No kissing and nipple play?
If it bothers you that much, ask her why. Not saying this is the case with the OP's friend, but some women who have had a mastectomy don't have nipples. No one is touching my breasts anymore because I had cancer. I have no feeling and I ha…
Menopause
Vaginal estrogen will help. I use a small amount of estrogen once a month, Revaree suppositories from Bonafied a few times a week and dilators in the shower every other day. LOTS and LOTS of lube. I'm on meds for breast cancer so I have ze…
Testosterone therapy??
"Men need to be aware that testosterone fuels prostate cancer." And in women HRT can fuel hormone driven cancers. Estrogen blockers are prescribed to women who have HR positive breast cancer. Many women who are pre menopausal are also put…
Lying
"My issue is those that respond to say they are not interested in single males, but yet directly contradict what they have told me, with their own actions of encounters with single males from that future point of telling me they were not i…
Interest level stars to hide and filter in various places
"Seriously, I don’t have them..." It's on the desktop version only. Check with a computer and they should be there.
You were not straight-curious before you had sex
"If you are a woman who wants to get with women..." Why do their rants about this always revolve around women?
View profile
"Feels like were not getting every page view we get." What? Can you explain what you mean? Profile views aren't showing up? You think you should be getting MORE views?
No Success
"Probably just asking for nasty replies and comments. I've had no luck on here and letting my pd membership expire soon. I know most will say glad to see you go, but I've tried to upfront with people once we started chatting. Yes I'm marri…
First mfm with her coworker is my high school friend
We wouldn't. You are literally on a site with tens of thousands of single men who know how to behave in this situation. I wouldn't trust a non lifestyle friend to respect boundaries or keep their mouth shut about the encounter. I know it c…
Any real guys in here?
We have never been stood up, ghosted, flaked on.... We make it clear early on that we don't have a lot of time but we will not be meeting today, tomorrow or even this weekend. Like Ms. Molly, our first meeting is for coffee or a drink, wit…
Any real guys in here?
"I have learned that the guys that work nights and weekends are more than likely married." Do you know how many jobs require people to work nights and weekends? The fact that you think only certain people work Monday to Friday is amusing.…
Constant lookers
This is exactly why we have our WVM off. I didn't want to see the same people over and over. I also didn't want to pop up on other's list if we accidentally clicked on their profile. If this bothers you that much, turn it off. Then you'll…
Swinging after knee replacement
I have had three major surgeries over the last year for breast cancer, so my answers are based on that. "1) how long will the pain last before being able to resume sex with my hubby and another couple?" Pain varies by person. For us, I thi…
Any real guys in here?
“Seriously, finding true, real guys who are respectful, reliable, honest and communicate would be a dream-come-true.” We've met several. Friends of ours have met several. It's not hard if you vet properly. The guy you think is so bad has 1…
Any real guys in here?
But he didn't stand you up. He did exactly what he said he would do. He said he would let you know one way or the other. He opted to stay home with his child. Standing you up would be saying he will be there *for sure* then not showing up…
Any real guys in here?
"...that he was working out at the gym and would let us know within an hour if he could make it for the "hot date". We waited an hour and then got a text saying he was going to stay home and clean out closets with his daughter..." So he di…
How to get kids taken care of?
Friends, neighbors, aunts & uncles or care dot com - AKA babysitters. There are ways if you are truly interested.
Looking for our first MFF North Carolina
Because a GB experience is exactly what someone who is looking for a MFF wants.
Jumping through hoops
Also, I don't consider my battle with breast cancer wackiness. I'd give anything to have my breasts back.
Jumping through hoops
It is clear in our profile. I'd rather not but shit happens and I can't stand my chest touched anymore.
Jumping through hoops
"When it came time for play, she didn't want to take her bra off. What?" Thank you for this comment. If we/I decide to start playing again, I will probably never have sex without a bra or top of some kind on again. I had no idea it would b…
This site is full of fakes,flakes bullshitters and liars
"...photos of them with their dog, or motorcycle, truck or boat..." I don't know, if I see someone with a photo with their dog, I'm more likely to stop and look at their profile. Why? Because I'm an animal lover. And, IMO, it's freaking br…
Single Males COUPLES Profiles
There are also A LOT of "single" women who are really a couple looking for another single woman as a third. I don't see a lot of complaints about that.
How are you today is NOT a successful opening line gents
Pass. Because it's most likely a copy and paste sent to everyone. But mostly this: "I am not one of these muscular or well hung men you see on this site, but someone who can be your friend and have fun with." Don't put others down because…
Is one enough?
We've had an entire (recent) message thread disappear for days in the message tab. But if we went to the profile and messaged from there, all of the messages were there. A few days later everything was back in the message tab. So while I h…
What are good manners and practical rules of thumb when getting down and dirty in a threesome?
"Should you want an objective and unbiased opinion on how much fun you are to play with post op, I would be happy to oblige. : )" Thank you kind sir. I shall keep that in mind if I do decide to resume playing :)
Are pictures of prior exploits in the gallery of a single male profile a turn-on or a turn-off?
Nope. And we don't have photos of anyone else in our galleries. And my favorite part is when they claim they ALWAYS use protection yet he/they are fucking without. I immediately pass. It is possible the people in the photos know they're on…
What are good manners and practical rules of thumb when getting down and dirty in a threesome?
DB, I have no sensation at all, and it won't ever come back. These things are just there. All of this is still really new so I'm learning how to, ummm, appreciate ? my new body. Comments like that one (and others I've seen here and elsewhe…
What are good manners and practical rules of thumb when getting down and dirty in a threesome?
"Name one lady who does not like her nipples gently sucked/played with..." I have no idea who said that because they're blocked, but, Hi! I'm Mrs. Ca and I had breast cancer. Don't come near my chest without explicit permission. I know I'm…
Dating Classifieds
"...if you can make a woman smile, you can make her laugh. And if you can make her laugh, you can get her into bed." So true! It's too bad more people don't realize that.
Swinging with a family
We've been doing this since our oldest was a toddler and I was pregnant with our youngest, about 18 years now. We have always had nights out. Alone. Without kids. Play dates, or just going to dinner then strolling around Target. So as they…
Why do people swing?
Thank you Ms. Molly. I'm seeing why you've blocked them. Our experiences are similar to yours.
Why do people swing?
Is she married and cheating? Do you know? Because I don't know one way or the other. Her profile doesn't mention anything, she didn't say anything, so? And no, I don't think cheaters belong here, but I'm not alone in thinking that. I don't…
Why do people swing?
Oh for fucks sake. So I didn't put "potential" in my original post. I think it was pretty clear what I meant. Forgive me for not being perfect.
Why do people swing?
Blah, blah, blah.... Oh look California! Here let me toss out an insult... Blah, blah, blah... I said *most* swingers are happily married couples. Never said it was my job to tell anyone how to do anything. I never once said singles didn't…
Why do people swing?
We're going in circles.
Why do people swing?
Most swingers are happily married couples. I stand by what I said. Yes, there are singles that enjoy the dynamic of swinging and having sex with multiple partners. There are also singles that are not really singles and there are couples wh…
Why do people swing?
Seriously? Couples who are here to fix their relationship usually are full of drama. Men who are pushing their other half who are unsure... yep drama. "Single" men and women, potential drama if their other half find out. This isn't somethi…
Why do people swing?
"I feel it makes up for what your not getting at home" Her words, not mine. Most people are not here to find something they aren't getting at home. Are there exceptions? Of course.
Why do people swing?
"Couldn’t disagree more. Maybe most couples that swing are happily married, however, I’d also guess most single males on this site are here for the same reason you are." She implied everyone who swings is here because they are missing some…
yeast issues
"Its the diffent in cum in you from didn't men is my guess. We use condoms now ." Possibly, but not necessarily. We always use condoms and I've still had multiple yeast infections. Bi woman sex? Still get infections. Often it's the woman's…
Why do people swing?
"I feel it makes up for what your not getting at home.." - DesirableMILF I'm not sure if you read the other replies, and if so you are certainly entitled to your opinion, but most people who swing are happily married couples. They are not…
yeast issues
I did after one specific guy, tried two or three times. Stopped playing with him because it was ONLY him. If it is a chronic issue with everyone, see your doc. You can also try a good oral probiotic and boric acid suppositories to see if e…
Where are the bi women who actually like women?
Again? Haven't we already gone over this a million times? Then you blocked everyone who didn't agree with you?
Swinger Symbol clothing
I'm sure its no coincidence these "sexy stockings" listed on etsy ship from the same location the OP is from and are the same ones on their profile.
Blocked for no reason
There is always a reason someone blocks another couple/person. Doesn't mean they're shallow or selfish. Could mean they recognize one or both parties from work, kid's school or as part of the community and they wish to not get involved wit…
Weird Quirk
While I was recovering from surgery we had couples and single men blocked, no interest in women. We had no messages. I just opened up our profile again and all of our messages are back.
What does - Sucks at eating pussy - mean?
I think mostly it's inexperience more than anything else. I had one woman who had no idea what she was doing, which surprised me. Then it's different techniques. The more you're with someone, the more you get to know them and you learn wha…
HIM - Straight HER - Bi-Curious/Bi
Do you ask these same questions of couples where the men list as bi but the women do not? Do you harass straight-straight couples thinking they're not being honest? "Why doesn't your husband stand up with you by supporting you can claiming…
Single Males not welcome here
"But how about an option for couples to block single females from even seeing their profiles?" Tools > edit profile > preferences > scroll to "Who are you looking for?" There you can block men, women and couples. Many couples are only look…
Contacting potential dates
"Do they even begin to think they are so fucking hot, they can be so dam picky?" Everyone is entitled to be as picky as they want. It has nothing to do with how hot you or they think they are or are not. Being on a sex site guarantees no o…
Is the lifestyle aging out?
Younger people are using different apps. Many are not on SLS at all.
What do you guys think of the guys that contact you saying there in town ?
"If you are a single guy or a married guy playing with permission, and you’ve been in the lifestyle for more than a minute, you should know how sketchy it sounds to only want to meet on a Tuesday or Thursday between 2pm and 4pm." I get it.…
What do you guys think of the guys that contact you saying there in town ?
I understand your schedules may not match and meeting would be difficult. My point is not everyone can meet weekends. A weekday afternoon isn't always a red flag. It could mean they're a first responder, a tow truck driver, ER doc/nurse, o…
What do you guys think of the guys that contact you saying there in town ?
"and Tuesday at 2pm smells like cheating all around and that goes for non travelers too." But not everyone works Monday to Friday 9 to 5. My husband has NEVER had regular work hours. We frequently meet during the week, sometimes between 10…
What do you guys think of the guys that contact you saying there in town ?
"One of the first things I ask a single gentleman is WHY they like playing with couples" Same. I ask how they got started, or what specifically caught their interest about the lifestyle and why couples.
What do you guys think of the guys that contact you saying there in town ?
"because husbands around make him feel weird" A lot of guys do this. If you were upfront with him from the very beginning, that's his issue. We've had guys try to meet me alone after we've all met and played once or twice. I remind them th…
What do you guys think of the guys that contact you saying there in town ?
I don't think your expectations are too high. There are a lot of people who want an ongoing FWB situation. But if you are always having people stand you up and/or ghosting then maybe you're not vetting very well. We have never been the typ…
What do you guys think of the guys that contact you saying there in town ?
We've never been ghosted. We've had the one and done and we have friends that we met 10 to 15 years ago. It's always nice to find that but sometimes after you, or they, realize really don't click as well as you had hoped. IMO, this isn't t…
What do you guys think of the guys that contact you saying there in town ?
"it seams a lot of guys think this is a hook up site" That is exactly what this site is. To meet up with other people to have sex with. You prefer to use it to make friends for an on going thing, others like one and done. Neither is wrong.…
Gold Stars still available
It's on the desktop version.
Men's attire at a club or party
Ms. Rabbit, my post in another thread vanished when I suggested he be honest. Don't be surprised if yours disappears too.
From swinging to hotwife/cuckold. Is that your case?
Our experience started with us looking for a unicorn to satisfy the wife's curiosity. No unicorn was ever found so we branched out to couples with bi females for soft swap. That was fun for a while until our go to couple split up and we re…
New couple to lifestyle
Since you are a couple, you should have a couple's profile. As for reassuring him, I would suggest finding local meet and greets so he can meet couples in person without pressure to do anything. He can ask questions and get to know a few p…
How are you today is NOT a successful opening line gents
"You're so classy that you need a third person in your supposed marriage" I know this is directed to someone I have blocked, but, why are you here if you're going to look down on couples who are looking for a third, fourth or fifth person…
Tattoos
"Also I don't understand a woman "destroying" her body with a full back or hip tattoo." You sound like my father. Same age too. Your opinion seems to be generational. Good thing women with tattoos have lots of men and women who love their…
Bullshitters .
"I have no problem with a family member, employer or employee or neighbor finding out..." This is the problem with some people. They think their way is the only way. Just because someone doesn't care if they are outed doesn't mean it is th…
Adult Breastfeeding
"It would be 2-3 in the afternoon, a woman laid out on the bed, makeup on, sexy face, both titties out, baby suckling, and I didn't ask for it." Everyone has their thing, I guess. A (lifestyle) friend of ours would send us pics of his wife…
Picture Orientation Help
But it's not just Apple. Samsung Note 20 Ultra, pic uploaded sideways. I realized it, deleted that one, cropped it a bit and it uploaded fine.
Free members and friend requests???
If someone's is off that probably means they want to perv in private and they don't care who is looking at theirs.
Free members and friend requests???
"IF someone is viewing your profile it should show in the recently viewed" But they won't show up if that member has THEIR WVM off. Not everyone has it turned on. Those people will not show up in anyone's WVM list.
Adult Breastfeeding
"I think a lot of women find this sexual and don't know how to admit.. And/or they feel ashamed of the connotations that can come with it...." I responded to this but deleted my post because I misread it as the women who were sending you t…
Member views from way way far away
Expect a shit ton of views now :)
Free members and friend requests???
"Why even have that "feature" (paid member can block free members messages under tools) when free members cannot even send messages.. Kind of a USLESS current "feature"" Why? So when the site did allow free members to message during covid,…
Free members and friend requests???
"The paid member then should be able to select to NOT receive messages from free member if they choose to do so." You can do that now. Tools> privacy features > hide from free members. Pretty simple.
Any feedback for this single male profile
"If you do nothing else making your default photo the one with where you are grinning should help." But I'm pretty sure that's a child hanging off him. IMO, it also needs to go.
Paid member says they have read our profile but they do not appear in Who Has Seen Me
"Enabling Views allows you to see other members who have visited your profile. Disabling Views will prevent others from seeing when you view their profiles and prevents you from seeing who viewed your profile. A Paid or Life of Website sub…
straight-straight seems impossible
I know this has been brought up in other posts, but a lot of women are not truly bi. I would say there are probably a lot of women who have no idea their SO has them listed as bi anything because they are not involved with anything online.…
straight-straight seems impossible
FYI, bi people can and do play straight. We are just as selective and picky as straight people. Be clear with what you want. If this is worth exploring you won't exclude a bi/bi curious woman.
Messaging free members?
I was pregnant when I signed us up. At the time you were able to email a bit back and forth, and I think IM, if you were free. We talked to a few couples, but we also eventually paid to get full use of the site. Read that as look at all th…
Messaging free members?
I don't know about anyone else, but we actually like the way it is set up now. A lots less "come see me here on xxxwhatevermysiteisxxx! xoxo"
HSV-1 (Yes . I know this has been a dead horse beat)
" I never heard you can’t get vaccine after 45? Will research that. You can get shingles vaccine anytime and it will repress HS 1 and 2." So that's a little confusing. There is no vaccine for herpes simplex virus (HSV) 1 or 2. But there is…
Who looks at profiles more the male or female of couples
We are pretty 50/50. But in general, it is most likely to be the man. Women tend to have the final say but don't do a lot of the looking and weeding through the bs. There are exceptions, of course, where a women does all of it. There are a…
Did you have any luck or other imbecile comments received
I don't recall being asked. We are often asked if we did anything fun over the weekend or if we have plans for the coming weekend. But never if we've had any luck.
Chest scar due to bypass surgery
"Watch the movie, Replacements. “Chicks dig scars”! Classic line towards the end of the film." If you read the whole thread you'll see the wife has the scar so this really doesn't apply.
FACES ??? REAL PEOPLE HAVE THEM !!!
On that other site you can also be certified by others just like here, and every other site we've been on. So you don't have to send in a pic with your face and info. There is another way.
Why do so few coupled women in the LS seem directly involve in their own dating lives?
"the truth is muscle weighs more than fat per volume. When talking a few extra pounds you will find the body builder is smaller in size than the couch potato" True. People in general carry their weight different. There is a photo online sh…
Why do so few coupled women in the LS seem directly involve in their own dating lives?
Mayhem, I agree that women are probably influenced by personality. We aren't real big on parties, mostly because of schedules, so all of our activity is online. If someone sends the typical "hi, how are you? I'm local, are you interested?"…
FACES ??? REAL PEOPLE HAVE THEM !!!
It's cute that you guys think that everyone works a normal Monday to Friday 9 to 5 and would have time to sit and do a live video for a site. If you can't weed out the fakes yourself that's on you.
Any real guys in here?
"From Mrs N The ED thing never crossed my mind, I just think playing with a guy my dad’s age is pretty gross. I think that is probably the case for a lot of folks." I agree with Mrs. N&N, and I think she is right; people our age are not at…
Why do so few coupled women in the LS seem directly involve in their own dating lives?
Mayhem, I understood. And I agree. I am willing to forgive a few pounds, probably more on taller men because IMO I think some might be able to carry it better. Hubs is 6'2" so when I see men who are a good 3 plus inches shorter who weigh a…
Actually looking like your pics
I keep our stats current or close, pics are usually pretty current. I took all of ours down a few months ago after my surgery and I replaced them with the public one. There is also one in a personal folder so potentials can see how bad my…
Why do so few coupled women in the LS seem directly involve in their own dating lives?
"...I'd say most men in general are more accepting of women carrying a little extra weight than men." This! We went to a house party years where most of the men had let themselves go. We are far from perfect but I wasn't comfortable. We st…