I post as bi...and am happy I do! .....I get many opportunities from couples whose male is bi but afraid to post
as such.....It leads to many sizzling 3somes and singles. I've found it very erotic for wives/GF's to watch their mate
go down on another guy....make out....It leaves them dripping and ready to fuck !
I openly list bi...it is also an itch that needs scratched on regular occasions. From my experience if a man says he is bi, he gets shunned by a lot of people.
But everyone should realize. There is someone on here who is just like you. One day, someone will read your ad and contact you, who is just what you are looking for, and that person is just what you are looking for. I am 70 yrs old, and did not think that age would get here as soon as it did. Now I am a happy 70 yr old. Everything still works. Just realize that time passes, so why get into a relationship that is not what you want? Is that picky? No, it is the way you get ALL your itches scratched. So, bi may not be everyone cup of tea, but there is a bi out there just like you. Just be patient and keep looking. "Things come to those who wait".
So if bi needs scratched, you need to list it. Just be honest. When you find that one on here that is looking for you just like you are looking for them.......My oh my......
Situational bi here. With the right couple ...love bi oral ! My profile states it that way.
God damn betcha
Preach it brother.
Can we get an "alleluia"? ;-)
Amen Amen
can we say Amen and end this now?
Generally, if I even say anything about this anyomore, it's just to point out there may be lost opportunities for someone misrepresenting themselves. That's their loss, not mine. So as Funly said, by all means list your preferences however you like. It's not like anyone can stop you.
About the only possible impact to others is that people may assume someone listing straight is not, since so many guys do misrepresent themselves. All one need do is ask though, so no biggy there. If someone is making a bad assumption in the heat of the moment. that's` their bad for trying to touch without asking.
As for the reasons for misrepresenting themselves, that has already been discussed and can be found in various forum topics. I may disagree, but I as least now understand why, which was the whole point in initially asking why guys do this.
any of you guys that are bi and listed straight, it is cool. tell everyone else to mind their business
Exactly what YMichael said.
You're on a swinger's site. Just be honest if you're straight or not.
Why mislead people who only play with straight ppl or bi women?
If you're not honest about your sexuality, you're probably not honest about many other things pertain your sex life.
Yes, society says swinging is also wrong.
Which is why you dont see people admiting they swing, eithier.
And society says straight guys can get all they want, but bi is wrong.
So you guys find it a lot easier to admit they swing than admit they are bi.
mmaj - "...not looking to label anyone"
Why do people think labels are inherantly bad? Labels can help people find what they are looking for. Imagine a grocery store with no aisle labels.
One can argue that a label on a person can be used to exclude/limit people, but people already exclude those that don't fit their criteria, so not sure why this is any different.
LS labels aren't meant to convey details. For example, if you're a smoker, there is a wide range of smoker behavior. If people are intereted they can always ask for more details.
As labels pertain to this topic specifically (Bi/Bi-curious), I can see it being a problem when people don't communicate the details of their limits or expectations, but that's at least as much of a communication problem as it is a "label" problem.
The entire subject is full.of issues.
I personally don't care what people like or don't like in regards to same sex. I do agree it limits the possibilities but there are definitely flat out people that have zero interest in bi men.
I prefer go with the flow people and not looking to label anyone. With that said people should be up front about what they would like to experience.
If I was with a couple and playing with her and he started to suck me I am not going to freak out. Now if he starts trying to force feed me then we have a problem.
Society says swinging is wrong too ;-)
Society still says men having sex with men is wrong and that causes many to not want to admit it.
Nothing! We post bi...and get many inquiries.....and results!
Funly - At what?
I call bull shit.
One thing that is encouraging is seeing more and more couples saying they simply won't consider playing with a bi guy that lists as straight. The point I usually make about this is that, at a minimum, people lying about their preference may be limiting their fun by being skipped over for something they may actually be looking for and interested in.
Continuing to lie about sexual preference is just helping to perpertuate the stigma attached to being a bi guy.
BTW - I was the one that was grabbed at a bi party by someone that didn't even ask. Things would have been very different as short as 5 years ago had that same thing happened. You gain experience and perspective as you learn and adapt in the LS.
At the point that I'm at now, I was flattered that someone couldn't resist keeping their hands off me, even though I have no interest in bi play. It was also made very clear to the person that screwed up that he screwed up badly. He was allowed to keep all of his teeth while he gained experience in the LS ;-)
Justified or not, a fight at a LS party tends to quickly ruin things for everyone. I doubt he ever made the same mistake again. IMHO, not all lessons need to be taught through violence.
I am bi, list myself as such and totally understand why it pisses people off when guys are not honest about their preferences. I feel that if couples or other single guys know that going in, it just makes the situation more clear. I have watched my wife play with many single guys who are straight and all I do is watch. I would never in a million years overstep that boundary. One poster mentioned a situation where one guy reached for another guy at a party and it causes a problem. I can certainly see how it would. It’s simply not the thing to do. I kinda like keeping my teeth. When we attend a party, I play straight or not at all. Everyone should respect the boundaries of others. There should never be any surprises.
I actually do.
As if guys listed as straight or bi don't lie about other things. Yup, we know you all use condoms 100% of the time. ...lol
I called out a dude who asked if I was into playing with him. His profile said straight. When I asked what that was all about, he explained how "lots of people look down on a bi guy or won't play with a bi guy"....I basically told him that if he was willing to lie about that, what else might he be lying about ?
I've "played it straight" where a couple knows I'm bi, but he's not into it and it's all about pleasing her. I love to please my partners and while straight sex can be awesome, I personally prefer a couple where the guy is bi. I see no reason to keep it a secret. Even my GF knows I play "both sides of the fence" as she calls it.
I'm happy I can be selective and happy I list myself as what I am. Now, if I could find a couple in NNJ who wants a bi guy to join them on the sheets !!
We are much like shallwedare described: Lot's of things can happen during a session with another couple or solo female or male.
Example1: my wife is not interested in eating pussy, but there's no problem with lots of cuddling and touching when another woman is with us. Kissing, breast play, and touching pussies aren't a big deal. If the other woman wants to taste her pussy, that can work as well. Women are naturally more "huggy" than men, so it's no issue if it goes another step.
Example2: I'm not the least bit interested in being "romantic" with another man, but if certain body parts happen to be in the same place ate the same time and the woman is having fun, so be it. Many women we've had fun with like to be 69 on top of one man while the other is fucking her from behind. Nose and tongue of the man under the woman are assured of touching the other man's dick. An experienced, relaxed woman might also like both dicks in her pussy at the same time - fun stuff!
The bottom line is to relax and enjoy!!!
