Online Play

Sure you can video chat and even get naked and have sex with other people....wait no you can't because you have to be in person to have sex with others. Some things cannot be done virtually you actually have to be in person face to face. That said you titled this online play.Being on webcam interacting with other couples and singles has been a thing since the technology has existed. It can be fun and a good way to get to know someone. It allows for a safe way to show off and interact and it is as simple as asking someone if they would like to get on cam or do a video chat, or whatever. That said most swingers may not be interested in "going virtual" because they are actually in it to get physical. There is a lot to be said for a face to face meeting. We learned back in the 90's when webcamming was first a thing people were still not the same in person as on webcam. If nothing else there is the "barrier" of feeling safer doing things on camera versus in person. I will offer this example

Back then we spent a few weeks (maybe a couple months I can't recall) talking and teasing with another couple a couple nights a week actually having sex on camera (both couples) at the same time much like same room sex. Finally our schedules aligned and we met up at a halfway point with hotels. Dinner went well, we got a room, and then things came crashing down. Despite the couple doing all sorts of things on cam and talking a good game once the situation was real the wife of that couple panicked as she started to get undressed and broke down in tears. Turns out she was never comfortable even doing what she was doing even online and only went along to make him happy after he nagged her into it. In fact a lot of the things she said were "coached" by him before going on camera like an actor rehearsing. She never thought it would go this far and did not want to go through with it. Now there was no "clue" she felt this way at dinner or any other time because she did not want to cause problems. I feel had we met in person first her breakdown may have been avoided. I mean we have met several others who one partner was into it while the other was not so onboard and it came out rather quickly. In this case there was no signs of it and the in person conversation that may have brought that fact up was skipped due to the online activities.

Hi. We’re new too. Online play sounds like a good way to dip our toes in the water.

I suppose that it has it's place, like if you're a single meeting half of a regular couple while the other half is traveling separately for work. I can imagine doing it in that scenario, but for me, that'd be about the only way I'd be up for it.

Different strokes...

Exactly .. we want the real thing and always have... in person only !

its not the META swingsite ! Way to many here think that is swinging...

We've been members for over a decade and honestly never heard of "online play". We enjoy meeting and enjoying "real play".
But we never "run out to meet" without first doing a LOT of communicating and establishing that there is a real match of our preferences and theirs and a mutual interest in playing on the first date if there is mutual attraction. We enjoy our life and stay busy (vanilla) and, like most people, just dont have the time or interest, in running out to randomly meet and hope there is a connection.
We have been very successful on here by establishing good communication prior to going out.

We are a couple new to this lifestyle and have met a wide array of couples. Sometimes we come home from meeting a couple and we think it would've just been much easier if we would've done online play and got to know their personalities etc. before meeting face-to-face. So is online play even a thing? We have heard of online sex parties and events such as that but how to ask for a couple to do that upon meeting?