Couples embarrassed they like MFM?

Ron and Kathy I am coming back down to Atlanta next week would love to meet you. Will be at the Hyatt Regency downtown.

DTH, Thanks for quoting him. We blocked him a while ago for his "poor me" attitude.

@Ball

"Oh quit complaining people. I am the coolest mother fucker on here. "

Says the SLS King of whining and complaining

And like expected either they tried to adjust the medications again or someone stopped taking them.

Oh quit complaining people. I am the coolest mother fucker on here.

Loads of people in the LS seem to be embarrassed that they are in the LS.

I've said it before. but we pretty much treat sex with others as a recreational activity the way vanilla people might view bowling. It's just a fun thing to do with people you enjoy being with.

There are a lot, I mean a lot of single male jerks out there of all Races, creeds and colors, and it's unfortunate for the lot of us that those people usually sour couples on interacting or messaging with single men.

I was with a couple last weekend for the first time and told them this: I know my role. I am just a "sex toy" in your relationship. I'm not here to come between or to make myself a nuisance.

We had fun. I had a great time. If you want me to come back just send a ?? but we are here to enjoy each other's company and have fun."

I'm easy going. My intent is not to interfere in a relationship, but to be a temporary enhancement.

I am respectful first and foremost. Respectful of the relationship and each of the person's boundaries. That's always my role in a MFM in my opinion

We only meet people at clubs and parties, on the fly, no date, no planning, with one exception. Usually Robin will be sent on a business trip to another city once a year. When that happens, she always has permission to use this site to meet a local single man. Other than that, we don't play this game at all because it sucks and it's a waste of time. At events, clubs and parties, face to face, is the best way, and we do pretty well with that.

Rustic,

Sorry that guys like Ball has caused you to give up on most of the single males online. I have actually been successful but there may be a difference.

Before becoming single in the lifestyle I was married and in the lifestyle. My perspective and approach may differ from others single males.

I will say it is not easy for most people on her to meet up be it single or married. It takes effort and patience, respect and time.

I would submit however, that Ball is the epitome of why couples get annoyed with single males.

4_real_couple in another incarnation he talks about going to a club. He was talking to a couple and then a guy walks in the door and she goes to greet him and then goes down on the guy that had just gotten there leaving Ball high and dry. His reasoning behind that is that women in the lifestyle only want guys that meet the BBC definition. Seems to me that situation would indicate that she knew the guy and may have made plans in advance. If nothing else having a conversation was a first step to be built on for more fun later but he went all "I got rejected the damn slut" mode which we see far too often. If nothing else this is a big reason why couples that enjoy MFM have given up trying to deal with "single" males online and sometimes at parties as well. Thankfully the only parties we go to that allow single males also have already cut through the BS for us in advance only allowing "select" (attitude and personality) to attend.

It's like a train wreck, except more horrific.

Too funny 4_real LOL

OMG this is too funny. It's like a train wreck. You know it's going to be a disaster, but you have to watch it.

Ball, there is light at the end of the tunnel for you. The only issue it is an on coming train

4_real

You are correct he has exhausted the Topic in this forum so what does he do? He goes to the Women Talk forum and creates a new Thread called

What type of pics do you want to see?

and Ball's Original Post is ... Ladies — what type of pics do you want to see in a single male profile?

This guy just doesn't get it, refuses to get, and or is insane... I'll go with all three

BallOf - At a minimum, if you decide to still target online only, you'll want to look at certs and see if a couple has recent ones. Also, read them. Some people give certs just for chatting online.

If there are no certs, your chances of hearing back will likely be consistent with your current results. You can also always try posting Hot Dates. Perhaps add some enticement, like buying drinks or springing for a hotel room if things work out. As I recall, money was not an issue for you.

BallOf - The people at parties have proven that they will at least get off their asses and actually get out there to meet people. Can't say the same for the ones you're targeting. Sounds like they won't even return a message, much less meet.

There are likely a lot of couples here on SLS that are fascinated by the LS, but actually meeting someone is just a fantasy for them. Some fool themselves into thinking otherwise by saying nobody meets their criteria, but that's because their criteria is unrealistic.

Meeting people in person is simply way more productive, but if you want to keep doing the same thing and expect different results, you'll continue to be frustrated and disappointed.

Sounds like Ball is trying to host another pity party, and trying to invite as many as he can. We blocked him so we don't have to listen to him anymore. I bet when he does go to an M&G, he will complain that no one sought him out while he was busy in the corner crying in his beer.

Couples and SFs are not looking to fix your life. They are looking for fun. And he doesn't sound like fun.

Mayhem - here’s the problem. The couples I would prefer to meet with don’t go to clubs or parties with the exception of a few. I can see who attends and mainly they are the usual suspects.

BallOf - I'm not sure what your expectations are, but people with all the right stuff are still only seeing maybe a 5-10% hit rate when reaching out to others. Of that, I'm guessing you're still under 50% of those in that "hit rate" that will actually lead to a meeting, then maybe 50% of those that lead to actual play time. This is also like a coin toss, meaning it is possible to flip heads 10x in a row.

This is why I keep saying a LS party/event is so much more productive. In that case, SLS's real value is to help you find local events where you can attend and start building your network of LS friends.

Even if you just atteneded a meet & greet and got to say to someone, "Hi, I'm so-and-so"." and shake their hand, you are so much further ahead of what you are experiencing here online. Profile pictures don't matter. Spelling/grammer mistakes in your profile don't matter. None of your profile content matters. At that point, your ability to start and carry on a conversation is what matters.

My idea of doing the right thing is as follows. I send every couple a very nice message that includes a reference to something either in their pics or profile.I don’t even mention sex in the message and it is several sentences long. Not your typical one word or sentence introduction. So that should at least put me in the top 95% right there. I open my private pics so they can see my face like so many ask for, and I don’t send any dick pics. Agree it’s pretty simple yet I can’t gain any traction.

Ball

I am curious, you reference “doing the right thing “ multiple times in various forums. Yet when folks don’t respond to you. reject you or offer support that is like a constant video rerun that you reject, what do you do? Well you resort to insulting couples, single men and women with your broad brush comments ….. is that you idea of “doing the right thing?”

Bottom line, people on this site are not beholding to you by your standards. You are entitled to your standards, but no one, and I mean no one, has to accept your standards because you are on this site!

It is mind blowing to me that you have been given so much sincere advice and yet you can't seem to figure it out can you. How many profiles, how many reruns of the same questions or pity parties does it take for you to see that the people are tired of your nonsense.

Love it JaJu! Especially ones that come across as not being fake and do all the right things.

If your on this site mid should be a given. We love meeting couples but single guys are always very fun.

Yep its his same old "shtick".. LOL 5 or 6th profile name.. we blocked him under this new name it gets old!