“Mouth is mouth,,,ass is ass”
No. They are not. It's ignorant to say otherwise. Those things are mutually exclusive to the people they are attached to, and to the people on the other end, it matters to them who it's attached to. To the vast majority of people, their preference matters to them and it's quality over quantity.
mayhem8 OMG! I just heard the Grapefruit Blowjob bit an internet DJ occasionally plays last night. I know there is a video of it somewhere. Rumor has it that not only does it feel good but helps the woman lose weight ROTFLOL!
That said I think it is really sad an individual sees things in such a manner as "A hole is a hole" when it comes to sex. In fact that is a horrible way of looking at things because it denotes you are only after your gratification and you could simply grease up a hole in a tree. Oh and if you do that watch out for bees, wasps, and rabid squirrels.
“Mouth is mouth,,,ass is ass”
This is the standard retort for bi/gay guys. Since they enjoy it, they insist straight guys are repressed.
There is no reasoning with the unreasonable.
~Scamp
"Mouth is mouth,,,ass is ass."
So if you punched a hole in say, a grapefruit, and sticking your dick in it felt like a mouth/pussy/ass, that should work just as well as the real thing with this line of thinking, correct? Nothing against grapefruits, but I disagree with this line of thinking ;-)
Sexual orientation isnt static! But for a very small % of any population and those individuals have their own issues, typically that dictate circumstances and outcomes. For the "bi" intolerant?
They've determined you're simply a liar! Shame and righteous condemnation is all there is to be had.. Lol
Try having a discourse with your spouse and learn about what/why this excites her. Enjoy/indulge her fantasies. Unless the experience repulsed ya? Which wasnt expressed, than ya might wanna consider not reacting with, the either/or options offered thus far.
Ya got a neocortex, employ it and happy trails!
Mouth is mouth,,,ass is ass.
Hey did you leave your socks on ? If you go to the Urban Dictionary, it said if you leave your socks on your not gay unless you do it on Wednesday. Go look it up, that was the weirdest shit I have heard. Before you ask how I know, we have a few truck drivers at work that gives this one driver hell and they were picking on him about it.
Well that should be for a good laugh anyway
we just have to laugh at some of these posts.
Since the wife of the OP in this case lists as straight, is she OK with letting another woman go down on her and/or willing to do it herself if you told her you thought it was hot and wanted to see it?
There is that aspect of some couples willing to do things more to please their partner than themselves, but if that's the case here, I'd expect it to be a two-way street.
Never happen nor would it ever be requested. Change your profile to curious.
@Esperanza911
“A straight guy would never have agreed to this in the first place.” exactly my thought! I wouldn’t be able to get an erection in a situation that doesn’t turn me on, and sex with anything other than a woman is a turn off to me.
Sounds like FWB of the OP either crossed the boundaries or, worse, didn’t disclose his bi tendencies earlier in the relationship. To me, both those situations are grounds to terminate all play with him.
What they above said..
I'm gonna have to say my preference, it would be a deal breaker. Your wife may have enjoyed watching and been turned on, but if you weren't then that's kind of like taking one for the team. We don't take one for the team at all and wouldn't expect anyone else to.
Just my opinion.....MrNC
As Scamp said, bi guys need not reply, this is something you enjoy so your prospective is different than that of the straight OP.
We would never ask each other to do something they are not into, period. To do so would be disrespectful in my opinion. If a single guy made that request while together we would be done and wouldn't play with him again. We always make things like sexual orientation clear from the beginning so such a request would from him would also be considered disrespectful.
There is nothing wrong with telling your SO what you would like but asking them to do it when you know they don't want to is, you guessed it, disrespectful.
“Does it really matter who is doing the sucking?”
To a bi guy, no. To a straight guy, absolutely.
The OP specifically addressed the question to straight men because the answer for bi men is obvious, you enjoy it.
He is straight, got no pleasure out of it and is asking if he should go along with it again if his wife asks. To me, they key part of his explanation is, “I got nothing out if it”.
Rabbit and I agree that we would never ask the other to do something that they are not into so our advice to this person is explain to his wife he is not into it and would feel disrespected if she asked him to do it again.
~Scamp
Does it really matter who is doing the sucking? If it feels good and the wife gets turned on by it what's the harm. Doesn't sound like either of them expects you to return the favor.
I think it’s respect for boundaries. If you don’t want to go down the road again you need to have communication tell her.
A straight guy would never have agreed to this in the first place.
I would imagine most straight guys would not let another guy blow them to begin with
^^^this...
Young tried sucking and getting sucked by a bi- male and it also did nothing for him. He's totally straight, but I appreciated that he TRIED. He was curious to find out if a man sucking him would turn him on, and... nope. I'm on with that, but like to see it again. Maybe the idea of having two bi friends make out in front of me IS a good idea!
Life is too short to do things that don't make you happy, it's either something you want to do or not. Sometimes we do things for our wives that may not be our cup of tea, but we do it because we love them. So you see there are two sides to this issue, it is up to you and your wife to decide who "wins".
Not really. We kind of have a mind meld going on when it comes to kinks.
I'm not sure going against orientation is comparable to trying out wax play or shibari, or something like that. I could possibly see such a thing happening in a 24/7 TPE relationship, but that is really boundary pushing (not necessarily in a good sense either).
I would imagine most straight guys would not let another guy blow them to begin with, but I'm just one straight guy.
Let's say my wife wants to try a recipe that she's never made before and would I be ok with it. Sure, I'll try most anything once. And let's say she loved it and I didn't hate it but didn't really find it anything special either. If she asks me if she can make it again sometime, I'll say yes since she enjoyed it and I can live with it as long as it's not all the time. And eventually, the situation will be reversed with something else.
Since you don't say that you disliked it, and that she got a charge out of it, why not make her happy and do it again? It doesn't have to be everytime and hopefully she'd do the same for you whether it was something involving sex or something else.
Simple answer is it would not have happened as my wife would have said a hard no and then gotten dressed to leave. Just him asking would have crossed a line that there is no flexibility on for us. That said I would never do something I did not want to or did not enjoy for her "entertainment" and neither would she. That's not to say we have not suggested the other try something because we wanted to see it and it happen because whichever one of us that did it was interested in trying it once it was suggested (thinking bondage and such here) but there were no repeat performances once the "I did not enjoy it" aspect came out.
