Overwhelmed Newbee

Horneywife; Now that's funny. I get instant messaged all the time asking for review of their (SMs) profiles and asking for advise and when I'm honest with them these SMs call me a bitch or harsh. 90% then show their ass which has me simply blocking them.

He contacted us also regarding tips about his pics. I offered some advice and it looks like as usual he hasn't taken any as he still has the stupid ski jacket pic as his profile pic and still being an asshole to people. I even suggested he try another site.

Oh2 is a perfect example of the reason I say that single guys will be the demise of this site.

MMmmm .... Maybe getting blocked was because you became annoying after some helpful tips were offered. Just saying.

And she blocks me when I reached out for assistance. Nice! Tells me she doesn’t like selfies and what does she have in her profile? Selfies!

Rustic, thank you for your reply. The post by OH2NY that I'm no longer on the site is absolutely incorrect. I thought I thanked you. I'm no longer Overwhelmed

…And yet, somehow, they appear here, offering advice and support, and undoubtedly, finding like-minded folks with whom to knock shoes. I can only assume that they’ve figured out what their definition of success is, but in the event that they haven’t, they sure as hell aren’t on here pissing and moaning about their lack of success.

Things that make most people go hmmm.

BT

I got my dessert alright just not from some of these rednecks on here. Do yourself a favor and see the type of women that are in Charlotte. It ain’t pretty.

We both know that’s not true or you wouldn’t still be trolling around, acting like a 12 year old boy who didn’t get dessert.

BT

This is exactly why I will not spend a ton of time on one word on. You probably spent a good half hour writing them at email and she is not even online. Lol!

BT - to be honest I don’t give a rats ass anymore who responds and who doesn’t. Most of you are not even classy enough for me to entertain. I told you early this is a red neck, Harley driving, RV staying type of crowd. That’s not me.

So…he has an excuse then when they don’t respond. What’s yours?

BT

Rustic - you wrote her and she isn’t even on the site anymore. Lol!!

MedicAmber1973 welcome to being a brand new member of a very sought after group. Honestly just about everyone wants to meet up with a single female. A lot of what you are getting is cut and paste messages sent by (mainly) guys hoping to get a response. Of course there are the picture hunters who are hoping to get to see more assuming you have them in other folders. That also explains some of the friend requests. Then you get to the real issue of sending a friend request and that is (as I understand it) when using the app it is far too easy to accidentally send one. Good luck and don't let it overwhelm you. There has been some excellent advice given especially with the preferences being used to limit the "spam" until you can catch up. The problem is once you change it back it starts up all over again.

Well we are first timers to lol. So don't know whats normal or not. Would love to chat some time. Hope your having a great day ;}

I changed it. Don’t think it will really help. But thanks

Medic, Thank you for the "She" reference, Have a good rest of the weekend. So mad at myself for not changing my profile when I rejoined...Mary Jo

I see what she's saying. You don't have females as an interest. You show as of today an interest in couples and single men. Broaden your horizons to show interest in women.

TallMark - I am not following your comment.

RE:OH2, maybe have your profile set up ti include women...They are the honey to attract a couple..

Hell I wish I had that problem as well. I can’t even get a reply from a couple. It is so easy to tell the difference between who is real or not and I can’t catch a break. I have a profile I have a pic I send a face pic and nothing.

Yes Medic, you use vanilla correctly. And yes, finding compatibility in this world is as hard as finding it in the vanilla world. In some ways, it can be harder in the Lifestyle because you’re swimming in a much smaller pool.

Congrats and good luck!

Well I'm pleased to say I'm no longer that overwhelmed. Finally got through my 800+ messages. Starting to get the hang of things. I'm 0 for 3 on meets so far but it's getting easier. Finding people does not seem to be an issue, it's finding compatibility that is just as hard as it is in the Vanilla world.

If reading forums correctly I'm thinking I've used the proper term w/Vanilla?

Yes, that sounds completely normal for a single woman that doesn't look like she crawled out of a sewer full of Mutagen.

Junie - While you may not have the problem of being overwhelmed here, from the stories my father told me when he was alive, there were PLENTY of older woman that would be more than happy to just be with any decent guy, and a huge bonus if the plumbing was mostly still working too.

You may well be at the cusp of a generation where a lot of women your age don't look towards technology (i.e. online sites like SLS) like what we might see 10 - 20 years from now, but it's still way better than what it was say, 10 years ago.

Once Covid settles, I'd bet someone like you would be like gold in a ballroom dance studio. It's great mental and physical exercise and can really increase your network of friends. It seems everyone knows of senior women looking for decent guys their age for fun and companionship, and a ballroom studio would be a target rich environment. It's not just seniors into ballroom dancing either.