Sometimes it just depends on the situation. We're fluid when it comes to play time but regardless we discuss.
If a dynamic changes, and part of the foursome wants to break off, it might be as simple as a head nod and wink. Occasionally there's a BIG discussion, but we always have to agree.
Most couples seem to prefer same room but separate rooms may result in the most uninhibited and super hot experiences.
Why go to the trouble of trying to match with a couple if you aren't into playing at the same time in the same room? May as well simply give each other hall passes.
For us, swinging is a joint venture. The whole point is that it's something fun to do together. If I wanted to fuck other women in a separate room, I wouldn't have gotten married.
Ooh, separate hotels sounds like fun too.
Wife and I have done separate hotels with another couple. The other couple was from out of town as well, and it just worked out that their hotel wasn't too far from ours.
I don't think we ever played same room at our house. we have at clubs but at home we prefer to do separate rooms, thank the wife made that rule even when she has girl on girl the 2 guys sit and talk and peep when the females play. She really loves the one-on-one attention. In 25 years never met anyone against separate room play...
Onehorneywife, I agree. We were at a private party in Toronto with about 70 couples. Most couples knew each other but it was our first time there. We met and mingled as most people were just chatting and starting to feel good. Long story short, the wife of one couple we had spoken with earlier asked if I had seen her husband. I said come with me, I have an idea. We walked to the playroom and sure enough, we found her husband with my wife on her knees getting the party started. Several couples were already in there watching. Love that.
Moonlight, so hot walking into another room and finding my wife on her knees servicing a guys cock. Even better at a party when I find her in a separate room with a couple of guys playing with her.
We have always played in the same room because we love watching each other. However, sometimes things happen spontaneously and play happens in other rooms. For example, Mrs, Moonlight might help the other husband refresh the drinks or snacks in the kitchen or patio. In most cases, it ends up with them having sex, whether she gives him a blow job or he bends her over. This can be just as hot or even hotter. Other separate situations just happen spontaneously as well. We never plan separate but are more than ok when it happens.
We had a "same room" rule and loved it. Then a situation arose where we all started in the same room, and my wife and the other husband snuck upstairs, mostly because the other wife and I were hogging the sofa. It was a very open loft style condo. We stayed to finish round one, but I remember hearing my wife make some great noises. When we went upstairs to regroup, the other husband mentioned how he heard his wife make some great noises as well. That was all the fuel we needed for round two........
hiway - Yes, it can be even more erotic when you have an active imagination and can only hear what's going on versus actually seeing it.
In addition to the flesh on flesh sounds, the Mrs makes these awesome sound effects when she's getting her mouth fucked, and also of course when she's getting her pussy well fucked. It's even hotter at parties when there are multiple people in the room with her and imaging what any/all of them are doing with/to her. More often than not, I'm playing at the same time in another room and the person I'm playing with gets the benefit of my heightened arousal.
We were same-room-only for at least the first 3 years of being in the LS, so I get why this may be the sort of thing someone works up to, if they do even do it at all.
As for the group sex aspect of things, we've had parties where we've both had group sex with others in different rooms. These are of course with people that we know and trust, but we are almost always within earshot of each other, when we're not in the same room. We are also very happy so do same room play too.
The thing we haven't progressed to and not sure we ever will is completely separate dates. We do have close friends that neither of us would mind if the other played with should one of us not be around for some reason, but the opportunity and desire haven't been there for this kind of play.
We love both....Met a couple in a bar once that took us home....While I was fucking the lady in the living room, I could hear my wife getting fucked by the guy in the kitchen, flesh on flesh pounding...
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Agree
never done separate room. to me the whole point is not getting to fuck other women, but engaging in group sex, with my wife. honestly I'm not even that keen on "swapping" where my wife does the other guy and I do the other girl, in the same bed. I don't turn it down, but it's not my preference. I want at least three of us in intimate contact at all times, four if possible, in frequently shifting configurations. a good way to do it is to take turns having one of the wives as center of attention, with the other three giving her attention. there are so many possibilities ...
I liked it both ways.
Same Room, doesn't make sense otherwise, we love to see and watch each other.
A couple of our most memorable same room fun times have been in groups, and nobody had intercourse. The last one had Young with the two youngest and hottest women at the resort climbing in him like he was a tree. I kept watching to see what would happen next.
A lot of things. So many things! Plus one of those women was teachings her buddy where the Squirt Button is, so he gave me a hand, too. Well, just a couple fingers, but still...
So for us we prefer same room because it is EXTREMELY hot for us to be able to go back and forth between guests and significant other, but we also like some touching, talking, seeing a full on show because we really enjoy seeing each other please and pleased!
With some of those Male Enhancement pills you should drink a lot of water and not do anything really strenuous for a little bit. I'm sure it depends on the formula, though.
Always pop 2 Excedrin with those for the headache later on.
Viagra definitely helps in some cases, but it doesn't work for everyone. I'm lucky that it works well for me and I don't get any side-effects from it. with headache being the most common.
Guys seem to have performance issues with crowds in general from what I have seen. Personally, I enjoy playing in traffic so to speak.
Hopnrbed - This is possibly one of those areas where a couple compatibility issue can happen. We're like you in that we very much enjoy seeing and hearing each other having fun with others. It was the ONLY way we played for about the first 3 years in the LS. As much a we enjoy same room play, we'd rather do separate room play if that means the difference between the Mrs getting well taken care of or not.
The point being, we've had a lot of fun with couples that prefer separate room play that we wouldn't have even met if same room play was a requirement for us. We don't have an exact number, but at a rough guess, probably 50% of guys have performance issues when it comes to playing in the same room as their partner.
Always same room as we enjoy this hobby together as a couple that gets turned on being able to watch all the sights n sounds.
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Totally agree, it is hot to watch and be watched
