My guess would be that couples going to a meet & greet, with the intention of meeting couples, would seek and try to talk to couples. Those folks seeking singles would seek and talk to singles. You put yourself in this situation by being neither. If somebody is looking for an orgy I’m sure they’ll seek and talk to your group of three.
I thought the OP was talking about an organized Meet & Greet type party where there are multiple couples (and possibly some singles) hoping to make friends for the future, not a first meeting.
Bringing an unexpected extra person to a first meeting and trying to change the dynamic from potential threesome to potential full swap is reason to leave immediately and break off all contact. Bait and switch is never a good thing.
Bringing your third partner to a M&G party (with permission) should be fine as long as all three of you mingle, together and individually.
So, I'll give you our past experience on this type of situation. And keep in mind, it's just our take on that type situation.
My husband and I had been chatting with a single lady for a while and the 3 of us were all interested in taking things further. Set a date to meet for a drink and see where things go. We get there early and she walks in a bit later with a guy accompanying her. She hadn't mention anyone else coming along previously, but I took it as a "single lady being careful" meeting new people. ...Ok, let's see where things go. As the conversation progresses, the lady mentions her male friend is VERY interested in playing with us and that;
"He's always wanted to play with you when he's seen your profile."
Ok, THAT struck me as "stalker" type feeling/alert. If he was interested, why hasn't he ever contacted us directly?! We had an interest in just this single woman not this guy who we've never met or chatted with previously! It was rather presumptuous of her to just bring him along with the intent that he was going to meet us & possibly play, too. Our interest was in her, not a stranger tagging along with her for the meet & greet.
Again, just our opinion. ....and no, we didn't pursue anything with the single woman after that situation.
How funny .. our 3rd gets all the couples and singles and we laugh about it.. guess each one has their own experiences.. ours are great and just the opposite. Guess he is just a super catch that many want to play with! LOL
"Us" we are very approachable and tell people that at all events... we can play alone, together or all 3 if they want... we have made several couples fantasies come true with 2 guys and one woman, 2 woman and one guy our special SLS friend.. etc etc.. seems to work!
It may look like you've brought your fun with you and it COULD make you less approachable. There a couple we know who bring the husband's girlfriend and they never seem interested in having anyone else join them.
That's the extent of my "bringing a third" experience, though. The only thing I can think of is to be sure you all mingle separately and let others knew if you're all available
I'd talk to you all!
Not at all.. we have taken our SLS classy single male with us to many events including out of town.. he is a BIG hit and we always have fun !
One thing "we" have learned over 25 plus years swinging... make the journey what YOU guys want and enjoy... not what someone else thinks it should be. Way too many here with their own opinions.. on whats right and wrong..
Its your journey and we always do same!
As a swinging couple we are often invited to meet and greets. We often ask if it is ok to bring our single male friend and have always been told it is ok. We have noticed that couples seem to shy away from us when we arrive as a threesome. Are we violating some unwritten rule ? We just seem to make more contacts as a couple rather than the 3 of us. What are your thoughts ?
