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The brain trust that is SLS Forums is obviously right, as always. The main reason you're not deliriously happy and getting propositioned 10 times a day is because of "clutter" in 2 of your pictures. The one in the kitchen shows a pot on th…
So, Person A has been on SLS for a year and has 0 certs. Person B has been on SLS for 10 years and has 5 certs, but the most recent one is from 2018. All other things (profile, looks, age, location, etc.) being equal, who seems more "legit…
I think a read-receipt would be especially helpful when responding to "Hot Date" ads. I've answered quite a few where I seemed to check every box on their ad and profile wish list...age, location, body type, interests, etc...and still didn…
"Just A Couple" wrote - "My only big request would be some sort of notification that says whether or not a message that you have sent has been read or not. It would be nice to know if others have not gotten around to reading their messages…
I noticed there are Club Edens in Oklahoma City and in Dallas/Fort Worth. Are they connected to the Club Eden that was popular in Kansas City 20-25 years ago? That was a top notch club with monthly parties at the Adams Mark KC and other up…
I agree 100%, but don't hold your breath on any changes happening. I broached this subject on a post a year or so ago, and was told by management that if I sent it, it was always properly delivered, so I shouldn't question it. I also got s…
I use the "Notes" feature with a few words and the date so I can see who I've viewed, if we're a match, etc. Something like "wrote to them 8/24, no response" or "wants couples only 8/24". If you then use the Search feature, you can choose…
Re the “ugly, old and fat” quandary. In person, things like personality, body language, humor, style and attitude are able to come into play. Online, on the other hand, we have a couple of pictures, some very rudimentary statistics, and a…
Same reason so many women put "zero" in as their weight. We've been groomed by society to think that only thin women are sexy (which is bullshit) and that only very hung guys are good in bed (which is also bullshit). Same thing with boob j…
Erotic Amazon - thanks for a great post! I'm in a similar situation as YMichael, and you address the issue beautifully!
Hi Ms Molly and Phoebert. Thank you both for what I consider a much needed public slap across the face. My post, and my current profile, are definitely off. I’m not usually a complainer, in person or “on paper”, but I definitely fell into…
Frau n Hubby – Thanks for taking the time to create your guide. It’s very good, but, to me anyway, is mostly common sense advice regarding how a single guy should act when meeting, or even chatting with, a couple. My problem, though, echoe…
Thanks E & B !
I'll be in DC in May, staying at a hotel in Herndon, VA, near Dulles. Not sure if I'll be solo or if I'll have a FWB with me. Any recommendations for clubs, groups or Lifestyle friendly bars?
Some of you are misinterpreting my post. The "yak" line was just supposed to get a chuckle. I'm not asking people to tell me why they aren't interested. We all have different preferences, and I'm cool with that. I'd just like to know that…
I agree that "no reply is a reply" on most websites, but it's hard to trust in that thinking here given the general unreliability of SLS. When I check off all the boxes on someone's criteria list, send them a well crafted message, AND thei…
Yes, we exist...and my condolences on your loss. I've been widowed almost 5 years, and have stayed in the Lifestyle, although without much success. Unfortunately, widowers fall into the generic "single guy" category, so most folks won't ev…
My late wife and I used to enjoy clubs, parties, etc. Now I’m single and relocated, and want to explore some new venues. Most clubs, however, don’t allow single guys. No problem, too many wankers, I get it. Some, though, allow singles who…
I'll be in Orlando/Kissimmee the weekend of Aug 18-19. What clubs or groups will work best for a single mature guy to find some fun?
Welcome to the Lifestyle! My advice is to openly discuss your parameters or “rules”, then go to a club. That’s the easiest spot for you to watch the crowd interact, compare notes, etc. And don’t be afraid to admit you’re newbies and ask qu…
Much better!! I'm not what you're looking for, plus I'm 1000 miles away (minor detail! LOL) but this is the type of profile I'd respond to. Good luck!
I think your content is great. You spell out exactly what you want and don't want, but you're not rude about it. That being said, your profile is indeed "wordy". You're repetitive in several spots, and mention some things that are totally…
I think your profile is great just the way it is, but you should tell people you’re visually impaired before you meet. While it shouldn’t matter, to some folks it will, so mention it in your correspondence while you’re arranging the meetin…
I’ve never asked, or been asked, for a last name, and I wouldn’t be comfortable giving mine unless there was a seriously good reason. Names or not, though, I think the first meeting should always be in a public place for drinks before invi…
First off, I’m not at all suggesting you change your standards for swing partners. You want what you want, and that’s fine. Also, I don’t find your preferences outlandish…I actually agree with most of them. Your profile, however, is ridicu…
Wayne - "If I recall, there was one person we hired that quit after a day or two because they could not handle the content." Have you considered hiring from within the SLS membership? I'm sure there are plenty of folks with the necessary s…
Maybe it’s pee, maybe it’s not. Either way, I love it! And IMO it doesn’t smell anything like urine. I can usually make a woman squirt, if she wants to, using just my fingers and tongue, although a few have done it via doggie, cowgirl or r…
Got it. Thanks for clearing that up for me.
When I click on Messages, it shows me what I've sent, but...with a few exceptions...nothing else. All the buttons on the top right (sent, saved, opened, etc.) show up as blank pages when I click them. Thoughts?
BreakUs - very cool! If you decide on TJs and have any questions, feel free to DM me.
Definitely start at a club. I haven’t been to the Cottage or Korral, but I can recommend TJ’s. They’re in Newport, PA, also not too far from you. Wherever you opt to go, don’t be afraid to tell people you’re Newbies. Swingers, in general,…
My favorite look, feel and taste is a full, but trimmed, bush above completely shaved lips. “BFF - Both Fur and Flavor”. Completely shaved guys look like a plucked chicken to me. Personally, I’m trimmed, except for about an inch around the…
I take it as a friendly notice that if you meet and the person in question seems a bit quiet, they aren't being rude or uninterested, they simply move slowly. It's neither appealing or unappealing to me, it just "is".
Love the fishing comparisons. I'm an avid bass fisherman, but somehow the analogy never occured to me! I guess I'll just keep dangling my worm until somebody bites on it.
If you're a "legit" member who doesn't update their profile/tag line/stats/pics at least once a year, how legit are you?
I love the idea! We can already see the last time someone was online, so maybe you could add a “latest update” as well. I think it would be another good tool to help gauge the poster’s overall interest in the lifestyle. It needn’t say what…
Thanks NativeSF - what you describe is how it is here as well, and I understand why, but it still sucks for "normal" SM like you and me. Glad to know I'm not the only one. Love your profile btw!
Thanks for the insights. I had forgotten that the "who viewed" feature can be blocked. For a while now I've been contemplating doing what Zulu does and just using SLS for event info, etc. What little success I've had has been through Hot D…
Couples and single women – assuming you’re open to single guys, what makes you read a message or open a profile? The screen name? The picture? The stats? The tag line? After almost 4 years on SLS and probably several hundred messages sent,…
Hi OutdoorGal and RnK - I'm looking for an opinion. I'm a single guy and I'm widowed. My late wife and I were swingers, and now I'm solo. I mention that in my profile. My thinking is that it shows my experience in the lifestyle, and points…
Is there a way to know a message has been delivered or read? I've gotten so few responses (positive or negative) that I’m wondering if my messages are being sent and received properly. I know texts can be marked “delivered”, so I’m hoping…
Thanks, Ms. Molly. I checked them out and it looks like a great deal. I appreciate the tip!
It's a pretty safe bet the answer will be a resounding "no", but there's no such thing as a stupid question, right? Are any resorts and/or cruises single male friendly? I'm flying solo at the moment, but always wanted to try a lifestyle va…
Just so you know, it's not just women and couples caring and responding. Our lifestyle is many things, but it's NOT about pressuring someone to do something they don't want to do, and it certainly doesn't condone physical, mental or emotio…
I like to use the search feature, but lately it’s acting funky in regards to age preference. I’m 60. My search results, however, are almost all people who have 55 or younger listed as their desired age range. Sometimes it’s as low as 45. T…
Thanks for the reply, Mr. OHC. Does your ring seem to be a positive or a negative? And are you wearing it to Lifestyle events or vanilla venues?
Thanks RK. I appreciate the kind words. I have some vanilla friends in the Atlanta area (Dacula), so next time I visit them maybe I'll look you up!
Thanks. I know some people move them to the right hand, but I didn't know it was a widely known, universal thing.
I'm 61 and single...widowed, unfortunately. My wife and I were active swingers for 20 years or so. I still wear my wedding ring all the time, even though I've been solo almost 3 years now. And BTW, I'm not looking for psychoanalysis, just…
Thanks, Ms. Molly, for your input. I'll tweak the written parts of my profile, as suggested, and I'll update the pics ASAP. Due to Covid, I haven't had any singing gigs in almost a year, but hopefully that will improve soon. As for the Gui…
Thanks RonKathy and Phoebert&Wife - I understand your suggestions and I'll adjust my profile. To answer RonKathy's question about past FWBs, etc....I'll try to keep it short. Because of my career (radio) my family lived all over the countr…
I've followed a lot of the suggestions given to others here, but, still, I rarely get a response from any of the women or couples I approach. I'm not even getting a "no thanks", and usually they don't even bother to view my profile. My mes…
