Profile critique please

Yes, phone cameras do have timers. And, honestly, so long as it's not a bathroom selfie or something with those garbage Snapchat filters, well composed photos of people sporting pleasant expressions, however they're taken, trump bad ones.

Admittedly, clothes that don't fit - and the men who wear them - are my especial peeve and one that wouldn't be the divider between yes and no for me, but it would be something I'd have to consciously overlook. It could just be shallowness, but it could also be that it signals lack of body awareness to me.

I rarely use the camera in our phone (and Phoebert uses a Canon DSLR) so I'm rather clueless about the whole issue - but don't most camera phones have a timer function? If so, you can prop it up (or use a small tripod) and take your own pictures sooner rather than later. It might take a while to get a good shot (going back & forth from camera to where you've positioned yourself) but it's not like you're paying to develop film. Just be aware of the angle and what's in the background - just like with any other photo shoot.

Thanks, Ms. Molly, for your input. I'll tweak the written parts of my profile, as suggested, and I'll update the pics ASAP. Due to Covid, I haven't had any singing gigs in almost a year, but hopefully that will improve soon. As for the Guinness glass and "bad pants" shots, I'll work on those once the pandemic is behind us and I have more opportunities for friends and family take some more flattering pictures. I've known since day one that those pics could be better, but I thought a close-up and a full body shot, even if imperfect, would be better than the dreaded selfie.

OP: asked and answered.. you will do fine.. once your area gets "going".. unlike Ga and FL!

Now I do have a Eastman T386 Red for sale along with a Squire Classic Vibe Butterscotch Tele.. Oh wait let me get back on subject.. Take care you will do fine!

The full details are TMI for the profile, but you could definitely call yourself a widower. It's subtle, but people seem to view them differently than the divorced or forever single and you might as well take advantage of that.

I really like your performing photo, so it's unfortunate that it's older than the others. Keep it anyway though, because it's good. I'd eliminate the photo of you in ill fitting jeans, because those pants and the busy background do you no favors. Also not doing you any favors is the one with the Guinness glass, which seems to focus on the shelves rather than you. Do take some new, flattering full length photos though, because they'll help. Watch your expression and your background, please.

Except for some tweaks, I quite like your profile. You seem likable and solid and that will be helpful over the long run, as you build at least a small circle of friends.

Many of the tweaks are punctuation related. I'm trying not to sound harsh, so let me just fix the first section instead of telling you what's wrong:

"I'm looking for fun, smart, sexy, 50+ single women and couples for some lifestyle adventures. Whether you're newbies, experienced, or something in between, everyone's welcome (I have an equal opportunity libido)! It might be a one time thing or could become an on-going FWB situation and I'm open to either."

And I could be convinced that a period would be an improvement over the exclamation mark.

No, actually, I'm going to have to say something else about your punctuation. That's not how ellipses are used. Find some other way to connect your phrases, please.

In Description, after you've ditched the ellipsis, if you eliminate "Physically" and "Personality," along with that throwaway line about pain and pee (how many people have asked you to pee on them over the last however many years you were in the lifestyle?), you're good. It works and you sound like a fun guy with personality.

In Fantasies, because it's awkwardly phrased and doesn't really add anything, you can lose the phrase about the pub conversations. This is also possibly the most graceful place to note - where you talk about experience as part of a couple - that you're a widower. Otherwise you're good.

Additional comments is full of personality and a solid way to end. Just take the capital L out of Lifestyle and you're good.

Honestly, you're over 60 and the opportunities for a guy your age are somewhat limited on line. I think you'll do better once parties and clubs start up again, because personality and experience trump age in person in a way they don't really have a good chance to do on lifestyle sites.

Good luck.

Thanks RonKathy and Phoebert&Wife - I understand your suggestions and I'll adjust my profile. To answer RonKathy's question about past FWBs, etc....I'll try to keep it short.

Because of my career (radio) my family lived all over the country. We were in KC when Wife#1 and I started swinging...approximately 25 years ago. We had a great Lifestyle family there, but we had to relocate several times for work. We landed in Syracuse, NY, and continued swinging there for a short while, but unfortunately my wife became sick and passed away young (46). I moved to Albany, NY (where I am now) and remarried. Wife #2 didn't want to swing, so I wasn't active for 6 years or so. Then, sadly, wife #2 also passed away young (58) in 2018, leaving me single once again. I'm not interested in another "relationship", but I'd like to make some Lifestyle friends.

So, I have a swinging "resume" in KC, Syracuse, Philly and Nashville, but nothing local. I retired to Albany for family reasons (it's my hometown) and plan on staying here, so I'm hoping to make some connections that might blossom into FWB situations.

As you've seen, I didn't include any of this in my profile. I figured it was too long of a story, plus it could be viewed as a bit morbid due to being widowed twice. I'm always upfront about my life, but I don't think it would help ignite that first "spark" of interest. What are your thoughts on that? TMI for the profile or not?

Thank you for taking the generic advice into account before requesting a review - I like helping people with their profiles but it's so frustrating when I just need a repeat button!

You've only been on SLS for a few months - holiday exhaustion as well as COVID hesitation is probably driving your lack of success. For the most part you just need to be more patient. Hopefully you'll encounter a higher success rate as more people get vaccinated, infection rates drop and people start gathering in public again.

As far as I'm concerned your profile only needs a few tweaks. Leave out the age, height, weight information - it's already in your stats and it's too easy to forget to update in both places. Leave out your sub-headings in your Description text (physically, personality) and maybe leave out the line about pain & pee. Delete the current half dressed photo - once it's warm enough get a photo at the pool or another place where it makes sense to be half dressed.

Your conversational writing style works well to paint you as a fun-loving guy.

Good luck, have fun and stay safe!

~Phoebert's Wife

Welcome and relax.. its a bad time.. and yes even in winter many places are not open..

Use your smile, skills,and stay classy .. ditch the shirtless photos and dress up some always wins out.

Good luck its not a race but like us an entire lifetime well over 25 year journey that we love.. its does have ebbs and flows. Find a good couple who wants you as a third and you are in... we have had single guys as long as 20 years and in GA 6 years.. including travels with them !

I've followed a lot of the suggestions given to others here, but, still, I rarely get a response from any of the women or couples I approach. I'm not even getting a "no thanks", and usually they don't even bother to view my profile. My messages are always polite, reference specific things from their profile, and I only write to people interested in single men. I'm certainly not model material, but I think my pictures are OK. I know it's hard to connect as a guy flying solo, and even harder due to Covid, but I can't help but think I'm doing something wrong. Do I just need patience and persistance, or should I tear down and rebuild? Feel free to rip me apart, if necessary. Any help is appreciated.