Profile review please

Still waiting for update... thx

bfwp4u - The edits take time before they're actually approved and posted. Updates are screened to make sure you're not violating any rules (i.e. external contact info in your profile). I just took a look and it looked like the same text as before.

@ImAWanderingSoul

I edited our profile again, please give me more feedback. Thanks!

Candidly after reading your profile I still have no idea what you are looking for.

Are you looking for a couple? A single guy? A single woman? You seem to want FWB. You mention wanting friends, and then you switch to singular terms in wanting someONE (a couple? a male? a woman? what?).

Then you talk about her being bi and continue on talking about single guys. It just seems all over the place to me.

And the no pictures is an immediate pass from me.

LookingforTheOneNH - I'd be glad to, but please create a new thread instead of a post to a current one. It can get confusing to give profile advice to different people in the same thread.

Looking, don’t take this the wrong way, you asked for it. You’re looking for a soulmate, this isn’t a dating site, most folks are just looking to screw. That’s gonna cut down the opportunity pool. You’re very clear that you adhere to a strong liberal ideology, you lose all conservatives and moderate dems, that cuts the pool way down. You’re bi, that cuts down your pool as well. I think you should try a dating site where your views and wants are more prevalent. Good luck to you!

Any chance of taking a look at my profile? It's tough enough as a single guy - and I've got to be careful with my content - I have a "perception sensitive" public job.

Thank you in advance.
Steve

Right off the bat, there are people that will avoid you because you have zero pictures. Unless one of you has some very unique physical feature/s, there is no good reason to not have at least body shots.

If you have proper pictures, there would be no need for any physical descriptions in your profile text.

Your tag line makes it look like you are looking more for singles than couples, since FWB is not plural. It's also not particularly catchy.

Your "Looking For" is a little confusing with the "f_buddy" reference. Especially since the, "She is looking for a really great friend " doesn't specify if she is looking for a girlfriend or a boyfriend. If you meant girlfriend there, say so. Perhaps talk a little more about what you'd like to do in general terms with people once you do find them. For example, same room swap, separate room swap, soft swap, watch and be watched, etc. The only reference I saw to this was MMF mentioned under Experience.

Other than the physical description that is not needed with proper pictures, the Description section says very little about you. The stuff that is there kind of fits better in other sections. The Description section is where you tell us about yourself for the things you can't see in a picture.

You're looking for FWBs, so other people looking for that as well would want to know about what other common interests you may have besides just sex. Are you shy, out-going, what hobbies or other fun activities do you like, etc. These tell others about you and are potential conversation hooks/starters. They can also let you know if someone bothered to read your profile, if that's important to you.

You should ask yourself if the content you have best fits where you put it. For example, do you think "If you message us, we will reply even if it's just "no thanks"." fits under the Fantasies/Experience or would it be better under Additional Comments?

Lastly, consider removing questionable/negative content. You should not have to tell people that good hygiene is required, and "Guys, if you don't know how to treat a lady in and out of the bedroom please pass us by." is not going to stop any guy from contacting you, so why even say it? This will most likely come out in the communication after someone contacts you, but this kind of stuff make you sound defensive and very apprehensive. You can scare people away trying to cover the <5% of the time something may even be an issue.

Much better!! I'm not what you're looking for, plus I'm 1000 miles away (minor detail! LOL) but this is the type of profile I'd respond to. Good luck!

Thanks for the responses! Edited profile, if you don't mind taking a look after updates...

Your profile reads as though you’re looking for a boyfriend or a couple that would be exclusive. That’s gonna be a tough find, best of luck.

I think your content is great. You spell out exactly what you want and don't want, but you're not rude about it. That being said, your profile is indeed "wordy". You're repetitive in several spots, and mention some things that are totally unnecessary (like moving from Cincinnati). You can edit it without changing the message and tone, and it'll be a much better read. Good luck!

Is our profile too wordy? Too many "rules"? Any comments are appreciated!